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We have this friend (who some of you met at the London meet once), well now that we have settled down in our new place we have agreed that NOBODY stays at ours during the week and nobody comes over weeknights. We were sick of it in our old place the flat got used as a right doss house and his mates ruined the carpet and generally didnt care!...see below

We told his mates that also no one can just turn up expecting to stay and no one is staying over every single weekend, if we want someone to stay we will invite them! Well his mate didnt seem to happy with that, tough!! While our mate was in Australia he phoned us and sed that his g'friends sister is coming over to the UK and he told her she can stay with me and Aaron, we said no she can only stay for a few days. Now that she is here, he said to me last week 'oh by the way (so and so) is coming down next weekend, i told her to bring her overnight stuff cos she will be staying here with you guys!' Well i dont know how i didnt deck him cos that made me fuming, i just got up and walked out and left aaron to say no, but he has given this girl my number and she keeps on calling me wanting to come down and stay, i dont wanna say no to her but i dont even know the girl, im not exactly the most warming person...normally i hate everyone at first until i get to know them but he has put us right on the spot!x

Apologise to the girl but tell her ................. she cannot stay - he did not ask you before making the offer - and he had no right to do so. If she doesn't like it - tough - that's her problem to sort out with him. Personally I would ditch him - he is no friend just a 'leech' who uses people who regard him as a friend!!!!! Sorry - just my opinion xxx PS. Say NO and stand your ground !!!!!!

It's your place Steedie, if you don't want anyone there your going to have to tell them, nicely of course, but firmly.Once you give in it will all start up again. Heather :))

Stick to your guns girl. Maybe some time in the future you will feel diferent but you & Aaron have only just moved in & you need the time together to make it into a home, to make it yours. If they won't take no for an answer, use the health card. You're not well enough for visiters!!!!!! Vivienne

Anne dont apologise its your opinions im asking for. He is one of Aarons closest mates but its got to the point where we both have to really be in the right kind of mood to have him over cos its always all about him, he doesnt tidy up afetr himself and its got to the point where its not just me whos gonna turn around and give him a clump Aarons on the edge of doing it too! Maybe next time i talk to her i might say we can meet up for a drink but she cant stay! xx

Ooh when can I come? I could do with a couple of days away for free lol! No seriously, just tell her no and if you aren't comfortable with that ring her up crying and tell her that you and aaron are on the verge of splitting and arguing all the time and you're really sorry but she can't come! Julie xxx

This is your home Steph, not a hotel and no one will appreciate your home like you and Aaron. Don't be afraid to say no, if they are true friends they won't be offended, there again if he was a true friend he wouldn't put you on the spot in the first place. Be firm and stand your ground. M.

Well - Steph he may be the closest mate Aaron has - but certainly doesn't sound like the BEST mate to me!! He is using you both - walking all over you - taking the michael - obviously see's the situation as a meal ticket and thinks you are complete pushovers. This man obviously has no respect whatsoever for either of you ............. does he still live at home by any chance ????

I would just phone her and say you have a family occassion like a birthday and that person is coming to stay that weekend and you haven't seen them for ages. I would'nt let anyone I did'nt know stay with me. Regards - Louise

I'm with the others here, especially Anne. That 'friend' had no right to invite the girl to stay with you. You have no obligation whatsoever to have her to stay, though beware - they might (just might) turn on the emotional blackmail, so be ready, eh. x

Steph stand your ground and say no. Say there is something in the agreement that mens you can't do it , say landlord will be doing spotchecks for the first few months. This is yours and aarons new home yuo need time to enjoy it tell the cheeky b****** to let them stay with him. Wonders if this Steph persons who doesn't warm to people easily is the same one I have been messaging for the past month cos that one seems ok to me. lol

PMSL Dawn I was thinking the same thing, for someone who doesn't warm to people she has been my life saver a couple of times with her tales of piercings! Julie xxx

Come on Steedie you need to be strong here and i'm sure you knew the answer before you asked the question. You and Aaron pay the rent and its up to you two who does or doesnt stay and when you will or won't invite them. Tell this 'friend' its not on and to get his own place to party in. Lotsa love Lisa xx

Why not send him a bill for the cost of putting up him and his friends in the past and tell him the 'Hotel' is now closed. James

thanks everyone! You see its not us being selfish, we did have another friend of ours stay with us from Christmas until we moved out this year, but he paid his way and didnt take the p. Actually you might remember me putting a thread up during the summer about how this guy splatted a bug against the wall in our old place and left it there along with a blood stain, thats what he is like!! Our other friends have said that everytime he says that this girl is gonna come over for a weekend to just say that we are going over theres for that night, thats what we did last saturday. I'll tell you something else that will make you laugh, when we first moved in to this new place he wakked in, looked in the spare room and said 'well thats alright aint it, its bigger than my old room. Im gonna be staying over a few nights a week cos when i go back to work im gonna need to stay here when i cant get home' You will be glad to know we both said NO straight away but it didnt sink in. Dawnie AND JULIE, well im nice to anyone on here cos you all know me now, but with people i dont know i seem to put my defences up and i can be a right cow to people i dont know. Not in a horrible way but i dont go out of my way to be extra friendly, been stabbed in the back way too many times!! xxx

Oh I see reply to Dawn and not me huh! and I thought you loved me!!!!!! *sits crying in corner* Julie xxx

dont cry Julie, who is it i text when i see sexy justin on tv!!!!??? xx

LOL Did you see him and becca making out, cor I thought my heart would burst! Julie xxx

Steph I'm just quiet, meek and mild until I start bullying you lol Tell this guy that if he wants to stay he has to pay £45 a night without meals (Travel Inn rates)