General Chat

What can I say but chin up girl ! At least you know your grandson is happy and healthy. One day he will be old enough to trace you or be traced. What you could do is write latters and enclose photos and get a solicitor to hold them until your grandson is 18. That way he will know his nan always loved him. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} Elaine x

Elaine i already do that.I always buy him christmas and birthday cards and i keep them in a shoe box.I also have a bank account i put his birthday and christmas money in.My son does the same.Just in case you never know maybe one day? Annie

Grannie Annie, I am so sorry. I am sure one day your grandson will know he has a Grannie who loves him very much. Liz x

Annie I really feel for you. That is such a sad story. I am lucky enough to have 4 beautiful grandchildren who I see regularly. The eldest is my daughter-in-law's from her previous marriage (although we have known her since her birth), and is treated exactly as the others are. She is in regular contact with her father, but not his parents (who see their other grandchildren regularly). They only live about an hours journey away, but never make any attempt to see her. My 7 year old grandson's father's parents, on the other hand, refused to acknowledge him at all at first, then saw him when he was 3 months old for about a month then suddenly stopped. When grandson was 4, his father's sister had a baby, and grandson was taken to see it. He met his 'new' uncles, aunties and cousin and grandparents and for a while they sent him cards and letters and presents and he visited them. This went on for about 6 months, but since then he has had no contact at all. He used to ask about his father's family, but that has stopped now. His father has not even been in contact (despite my daughter's pleas) for over a year now. They only live about 2 miles from here so it's not as if they are far away. Children need their grandparents, and grandparents need their grandchildren and it is just so sad when this doesn't happen. I hope that your grandson is able to contact you when he is older and you are able to have a warm and loving relationship. Sue xx

Oh that is so sad is there no way you could have a chat and sort thing's out? It is such a pity you are missing out on your grandson and he is missing out on what I am sure is a great Granny. What ever happened with your son and partner is not your or your Grandsons fault. Both my Grannies were dead before I was born, so I missed out on that :(( I have a wee Grandson coming up for three, and we have great times together, I am always knackered by the end of the day, but it's great having him. I would hate not to see him. I think it would be good for you both to see each other.,if it can be worked ou,t and you dont take sides of his Mum and Dad. Marion

Oh Annie (((((hugs))))) xxxxxxxx

I blame the Permissive Society. If only it were possible to return to 'more traditional values'. A lower illegitimacy rate would mean less of this kind of misery going around.

So sad for you Annie that you never get to see your grandson. How cruel his mammy is for allowing this to happen. You have a right to take part in his life. I know it would break my heart if it had happened to me and I couldn't see my grandsons. One day ( and it will be soon !) he will be asking to see you and things could change!! Love Maureen XX

Annie, empathising with you. Joy

(((hug))) xx