General Chat

No, Diana, he isn't, but I know that logic will say one thing, and emotions another. I don't know how you will manage. Keep leaning on us. Here for you, Joy

Diana I don't know what to say except of course you do, you had a wonderful relationship with him. With great love comes great loss, and the fact you miss him so much shows just how much you loved him. I hope that sounds right, i am sure you know what i mean. I have just lost two close relatives, one expected - the other a total shock, and i know how much it has upset me, so i can't begin to understand how much you miss your Daddy. A huge ((hug)) from Mal and I, a poor substitute i know, but we are thinking of you. Yvette

diana my heart goes out to you i lost my dad when i was just 14 and i found him dying that was over 52yrs and i still miss him and im aonly child ,but have the memories of him as im sure you do and remember he will always be there with and you can recall all the good times you had,lots of hugs joyce from holland

Thanks everyone! Its like a wave that has got out of control and I can't do anything about it! I have now done all I can for now regarding his estate and I think its finally hitting home that my beautiful Daddy is never coming back in the form that I knew him. Deep inside I know he is still there beside me and daft things remind me that he is. But I would give everything I have to have a cuddle!! xx

Yes or to hear his voice on the other end of the phone. I phoned my dads number yesterday, just in case .......... I got a message saying it was no longer available. Its an awful feeling, that wave that comes up from your feet right up to your head when you realise they have gone, but it will get less painful - really it will. He will be with you all the time - ask him a question and you will hear his reply. My heart goes out to you.

Diana, part of you thinks that you shouldnt feel this , but you will , illogical as that seems. there will be so many 'firsts' that he should be there and wont be, and you wont even feel them coming- his first birthday away, your first birthday, first time you go to X/Y/Z , pick up/touch/look at/think about even. my brother died 15 years ago, we took mum out for a birthday lunch yesterday- he should have been there! That feeling will always be with you, but believe me, it will just hurt less. jess

Diana No matter how many years go by you will miss him. The pain does get more bearable though. I 'coped' if that is the right word by getting a thick exersise book and writing down bit by bit everything I could remember Re what he said/did/ what stories/jokes he told where we all went etc. Started with my earliest memory up to when he died. It took months and I cried and cried at each memory I recalled but it did help and I now have a wonderful wriiten record. So if my memory every starts fading I can always read it. I know you have all these memories in your head and heart - like all of us_ but it was my way of coping. Love and hugs to you and please remember you have some wonderful caring friends on here. Pat

Oh Pat that's a lovely idea!! Will give it a try when I am a bit stronger! xx

Hi hun, just back from the cem myself, it would have been my dad's birthday today. He is in a lovely peaceful spot, the kids came and helped to clean the stone and we all had a chat to him and left some lovely daffs. Nearly 7 years now, I still think of him every day - especially when there is footie or cricket on as he was a fanatic! Don't expect too much from yourself, as everyone says you will have good and bad days, but it WILL get easier to cope. You have loads of friends on here plus your lovely Evie and Andy who will always listen and give you a hug. Maz. XX

happy birthday Maz's Dad xx