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... one of my sons is 23.. he has been with his girlfriend for 2 years.... tonight she turned up in her car crying.... his ex [ of 3 years !!!!] has got her mob number... and been sending nasty texts to her. Implying ... er .. things ! Things that girlfriend knows are untrue, cos she knows where he is most nights ! SO.... WHAT IS THE BEST COURSE OF ACTION ?????

Sue tell ex to go away!!!

Keep the text messages and take the phone down the police station - its harrassment and they can warn her off!! xx

Sue Hi hon, does current Girlfriend feel secure enough not to believe even though ex is making accusations? Reason for asking is that similar thing once happened to me and though I knew it was lies it really shook me. Maybe a third party should phone the ex and put her straight and then call bar the number xx

Save texts just in case, otherwise ignore it and don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she's got to you. Julie & Jillyxx

If I am honest my temper would mean I'd have to text her personally asking her to explain why she feels it necessary to be such a b*tch!! But that's probably not the best course of action!! Good luck xx

Sue, she should tell ex that she is a sad person and that she will not be goaded into it.xxxxx

Girlfriend knows they are untrue, but obviously getting nasty texts is upsetting. she can report it to the police; change her number/network/phone or just delete them when they arrive. Ex girlfriend will lose interest if ignored or warned off by police. nell

Anne.. i want to go to hers and ' speak ' to her !!! Pink... hubby says same as you ... all the text messages are still on phone ! I cannot believe how wierd the ex is.... i DO remember all the aggro from before... but cannot believe she is still at it ! The scary thing is... she uses a different sim card to text the vile !!! I know... cos i have been trying to contact her all night ! BUT... i now know her address..... might be nice to meet her mum and dad.............. Pmsl, Sue xxx

I don't think the police is the answer....lets step back here... has the ex had any contact at all with your son and his girlfriend since they've been together?/

Sue Your son is 23. He needs to sort this out, without you getting involved. I know you are upset - its never a good idea to do anything while you are upset, you need a cool head. Last thing you want is for ex-girlfriend to complain you have harrassed her. Don't give her any attention, that's just what she is looking for. nell

Sue if she's using a different SIM then she could be cleverer than we thought!! You need to find out who its registered too!! The police can find this out!! Girlfriend needs to keep the text and if she continues then take the phone to the police pleading ignorance to who is warped enough to send them!! xx

er... K knows the accusations are untrue, she is with my son most nights... the other nights they are yapping on the phone ! BUT,,,,, the ex [ and friends] have threatened K ... i only just found out....... i am hopping...... hubby says police.... i want to go and say ;helloooooo ' ...... i cannot believe [ mmmm yes i can ] how nasty girls can be !!! Right now i am sooo tempted to drive over after work tomorrow to meet the parents of the unstable '*****' .. i still remember what she did when my son ended the 2 week [!] relationship ............. you would not believe it ....

Or she could just text back saying 'he has no reason to be unfaithful when he's tried the rest and now has the best!!' :O)

2 weeks??????? no.......... i was thinking years!!

Oh Sue be really careful if she can be such a 'bunny boiler' after such a short relationship she is more than just unstable. Having heard that, police definately xx

You could be walking into a minefield if its a friends phone and not hers!! She'll only deny everything!! The police will charge whoever the phone belongs too, so if its a friends they won't take the wrap for her!! xx

Pink.... the sim card is not registered to her.... son has checked that . She is warped... and clever.... a dangerous mix ! She only was going out with son for 2/3 weeks... he realised she was ..er... odd .... and backed off. And to be honest .... i think his girlfriend is scared...i want to go and meet her parents, that should be fun.... not ..

i don't want to tell u what i would do...i might get chucked off..lol!!!(i have a son,my baby!) Is your sons girlfriend still worried?

Unless she is under 18 her parents are not legally responsible for her, and they may be just as unstable as she appears to be. I'd stay well clear myself. nell