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Hi Susie Hang in there Susie...you will be fine,, About 10 years ago i was faced with a similar problem..and I kicked up a fuss that my Mum was coming home to me,,,I have been a full time carer for her ever since,as she needs 24/7 care,,,Mum has just celebrated her 93rd Birthday,, Love is just the best care we can give our Mums If ever things get a bit tough and you need to chat,,,your friends are always here,, (( Hugs)) Kate

How could they upset her that way without first having spoken to you? ((((((hugs))))))) Deanna X

Susie will be thinking of you at 2pm - what a great family you all areand what a great team you will be taking care of your Mum, any Doctor or social worker will see that for themselves this afternoon Joanne xx

Good for you Susie - I'm sure you'll cope brilliantly. They say love always find a way and I'm sure, as a family, you'll all pull together. Best wishes Jay xx

hi susie i take my hat of to you thats the way it should be looking after your mum if my mum and dad were alive i would do the same as you ,we look after are own good luck you and your family and to your mumLOLjoycexx

Susie, You sound like a wonderful daughter, one any mother would be proud of. Good luck to you all. Jen

ive just foned my lovely mum. she seems a bit happier this morning,bless her. i asked her how she was feeling and she said that she hadnt had any more silly thoughts abt being a burden to us and she couldnt wait to come home.lol we have a meeting on the ward at 2pm with the social worker so we will know a bit more alter,thank goodness. im prepared for a show down though,so are my dad and my brother lol. hopefully we it will go smoothly lol. i will let you all know what the outcome is later. i would just like to thank you all so much for your kind words ,they have helped so much love you all susie xxx

Big hugs for you all!! xx

I am surprised that the Doctor spoke to your mum on her own about this. Was your meeting with the same Doctor who spoke to her? Good luck with the Social Worker. Jacky x

thankyou len. mum also likes the phone at the moment lol. we buy her cards for patient line so she can at least watch telly and use the phone lol. she foned dad at 6.15 the other morning just to make sure that he had paid the water rates lol. susie

jackie we had a family(dad,sister,2 brothers,me and our spouses) meeting with the dr last week. the occupational therapist visited us at dads on tuesday and assessed the house.she could see no problem at all with mum coming home as regards to access and room. tomorrow at 2 we have a meeting with the social worker . so we will air our views .lol love susie xx

You are doing the right thing, Susie, Mary's mum was in a similar situation, except that she had MS. The family cared for her and she had a reasonably happy twenty years, living till she was nearly 90. Even I could work the hoist and get her in and out of bed. She loved the phone, though, and knocked up a hefty bill every quarter but we shared the cost between us. love len

Hi Suzie, I know it must be difficult for your mum to be told something like that and then for you to hear her upset. First thing is to reassure your mum, let her know she is loved and you are all there for her. Next, you, your brother and your mum should meet with the Doctors and the Occupational Therapist to discuss what will happen and what ultimately is best for your mum. I do hope you all get what you want, what is practical and what is best. Jacky x

Susie,Good for you.I work with the frail and elderly.I love the work i do and get very upset when anything happens to them.I have elderly parents and when the time comes they cant cope i am one of five and we have all said no nursing home they are with us.We dont care what the work entails they are our parents that looked after us and we will repay them.We already put money into a bank account every month for anything they need.We cant replace our parents annie

Susie a big hug from me to you all. Sounds like you know what you are doing and you have a great family for support. I really admire you and If I was in your position I would do exactly the same xxxx

Susie go for it and don't let them tell you anything else If we had listened to the Doctor in the hospital Dad wouldn't be walking or talking never mind going fishing and now 7 years later he is learning to write his name with his week hand again. ( well he would be if he hadn't fallen last week and broke it - lol) Time is a healer and with the care of you and your family and the love your Mum will bloom Joanne

Susie, I cannot speak for others...but where I come from we take care of our own... So glad to hear that you are prepared to take care of your Mom... Big (((hugs))) to you and yours. Lindy ;-))))))))))

hi clare mum has had a major stroke.she has lost the use of her left side. her speech has returned ,although its slow. her mind is perfect which is good.she can remember everything lol. i just dont feel that she belongs in a nursing home. the social services have agreed to send carers in 4 times a day.its the night times that the drs are worried abt. but thats a minor problem which can be easily solved between us as a family. love susie xx

Susie, I'm sure you are doing the right thin gin bringing her home, you have a lot more experience than most and that counts for a lot. Apart from that, she will be happier at home, you can work out a rota that someone is on hand most of the time. as for the other, what are washing machine for ,lol Big hugs for your mum and dad, June xx

mandy yes they do know cos i made it quite clear to them.lol i told them last week at the meeting we had that i was trained in using a hoist,catheter care etc so they know who they are dealing with. love susie xx thankyou all for your messages and thoughts .i really appreciate it. love you all susie xxx