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Jess I'm so glad you decided to stay Take care Julie

As i said, if i can hypothetically hold the hand of one adoptee , as they take this sometimes awful, gut wrenching ride into their adoption journey, then the bitterness of just one other person doesnt matter - I've likened the whole experience as like a journey with no map or instructions - it scarey, but so much better to have someone to hold your hand, even if neither of you know the way, because there is no right way,Every adoption is different, every story different , and every outcome different. jess

to those nameless peeps who had the heart to heart with Jess, god bless, and to Jess welcome back, now stay here please. Don't let others get you down, you have been a great help to others by your wisdom and life experiences. Debs

Great news - glad you´re back.

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Found it Elaine - thanks, and glad things seem to be back where they should be Eileen

A big welcome back Jess xxhugxx

Jess So pleased you didn't decide to stay away for ever, you are very needed on this site, you do so much to help others find their ancestors, I wish you well Jess put the things behind you, don't know what has happened on these boards I always seem to miss it, but well pleased that you are here again,take care Sue

well done Jess, glad you are staying Marilyn

Glad to see you back Jess...all i can say to you Jess is what you experienced by another member is harassement and bullying.and the person who caused Jess distress all i can say to them is i used to see that in the playground...grow up!!!Glad your ok jess.love and hugsxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(((((:

So glad you are back Jess. Not good with words. Just to say WELCOME BACK Germaine x

Hello Jess, really glad to read that you're staying. I was so disappointed to read your message yesterday about leaving; that meant that the bully had won. Right - now to the bully. You know who you are, so hear this - and think about it! I am an adoptive mother, and I told my daughter this morning about Jess' thread. She - 16 next week - reminded me of what hubby and I told her and her brother when they first came to us, nearly 7 years ago. It is this: adoptive children are CHOSEN - yes, CHOSEN - whereas birth children are not, of course. And yes, I'm a birth child. Now, are you a birth child? Because that means that your parents were stuck with you, whether they liked it or not. Food for thought, eh. P.S. All you decent, law-abiding and rule-abiding birth children on here, ignore my second-to-last sentence above, OK? This is only for the bully(s).

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Jess Welcome back! I am of the opinion that if people try to hurt others, its because they are hurting themselves, though this doesn't make it easier to cope with when you are at the receiving end. But I am glad you are back, I was beginning to think you'd gone the same way as those blinky Broad brothers!!! Adoption is a whole new issue of course, but family history is a bit like looking under stones, you are never quite sure WHAT you will find. nell

Nice one Glenys - Anyone and everyone please see my posting on Tips at Hugs part 5 about Kate Adie's book, 'Nobody's Child'. If I knew how, I would patch it onto here too, but not good at playing with copying from one bit to another. Eileen

Thank you, Eileen. It makes me so cross when some non-adopted folk somehow think they're better than adopted people (codswallop). Um, reading your last bit above, I took the liberty of copying and pasting your entry from Tips; hope you didn't mind. It is:- 'To all adoptees and anyone else who isn't and thinks they know all about it but haven't actually '.......got the T-shirt.....' Have just got 'Nobody's Child' by Kate Adie - apologies to all of you who have already read it, but if you haven't, get it and read it, its just amazing - only half way through so far. She fills in all the history and social detail from way back - I though I knew a lot (lol), but some of the stuff in this book is still a surprise. You hear bits of things, like the children on the orphan trains in America, but all the surrounding why's and wherefor's - well words fail me, just read it - .... then thank God on your knees fasting...............that it wasn't you Eileen'

Hello Jess so glad you came back, xxxxxx

I have (as usual) no idea what's gone on to upset you but I'm glad to see you haven't let them win. Dianna x

Hi Jess So pleased to see that you are back with that wonderful spirit that you have, ready to help those who need a guiding hand. Your help has been invaluable to so many. Long may you continue!! Christine

Hello Jess you know me not but I always look out for your posts cos I Thinks your a lovely lady :-)))))))) glad to see yer back Twizzle :-)))))))