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How on earth can our Brother in Law cope with all this? See below.

How on earth can my 50 years old Brother in Law cope with all this? Some months ago he was told his dear Mam in her late 70's has Cancer. (A very rare type that the Specialist of 30 yrs had only come across three times in his career) His Mam was due to have an operation early in July to remove the tumour from the back of her nose and upper mouth, and also have to loose an eye. Over this weekend she has been rushed into hospital because the tumour has moved across to the other side of her face. Only 13 days ago his Wife, my Husbands dear Sister 49 yrs was very unexpectedly told she had a tumour on her lung. Three days later, she started loosing her sight and was taken into hospital and told she had an inoperable tumour on her brain. We were all absolutley devastated. Over the weekend My Husbands Sister was able to say she wanted to see the family, now she had started to come to terms that she is terminally ill. We were dreading it. The rest is private. But we all had another shock. Our Brother in Law's Father again in his late 70's has not been well for over a year. Suddenly he started suffering from 'dizzy spells' and black outs. After a MRI? Scan Friday he has been told he has a brain tumour and it is inoperable. How much can one man take??? His Mam and Dad both terminally ill Then to be told his beloved wife, 'they have been together since they were 13 yrs old' Is also terminally ill. Please please can you all send your Prayers and support for our lovely Brother in Law, who is now a broken man. He really has gone ' grey overnight' He is trying his hardest at the moment. But how long can he cope with all this on his plate. He now has to tell their two teenage Sons that their Mam, Grandmother and Grandad, are not going to be with them much longer. Thank You all. Jenny xxx

OH God bless him and all of them, Davex

My thoughts and prayers are with you all Heather x

It is really awful, to imagine these things - each on a tragedy in its own right - and having to go through them. He will find the strength though - this is something he will have to face head-on, there is no by-passing these things. Not only will it affect him, but other members of the family too - it has a rippling effect. All you can do is all pull together, and take each problem as it comes along, and try to deal with it as best you may. Feel for each one of you......x

Oh my God Jenny This is terrible!!!!!! I am sending all the positive thought's I can muster for your hubby's brother in law,it just isn't fair at all. I hope you are coping with all this going on.

Nudging this for Jenny

Have a friend who's parents have both been terminally ill for last 2 years and I can see the toll it has taken on the whole family. So sorry for what's happening in your family. Christine xx

I pray that God gives him the strength to cope with all this. xx

Jenny words fail me xx Thoughts and prayers to all Ann

Jenny, How tragic for the whole family. They say that God never gives you more trouble than you can deal with but, at times like these, you do question the cruelties that life throws at us! I pray that your BIL will have the stregnth to cope and I'm sure, with the lovely family he has around him, he will get the support he needs. God Bless you all. Jen

thought and prayers with all the family sue c x

Best wishes and the strength to cope to all of you. Susan

hi jenny, i don't have the words, but god give you all strength.

Jenny, How very, very sad! May God give your BIL the strength to face this head on. Positive thoughts and prayers on the way. Lindy xx

My thoughts and prayers are with you all Take care Julie x

Oh dear god!! My thoughts are with him!! xx

Thank you all, for your suppot. LIFE has taken a turnaroud for us all now. We are now even questioning GOD. Jenny xxx

Jenny, Poor man, he must be in a terrible state, life certainly throws some terrible things at us at times. My thoughts are with you all. Love June xx

Jenny Thinking of u all, what a terrible time for your BIL!!! Kaz x