General Chat

Sorry for being pathetic. Am happy as I am being single... Just beginning to think that I'll always be 'Bec the friend' and nothing more... Also beginning to think there's something wrong with me and I've never done that before.... Ho hum.... xx

Youre probably mixing with too many gay men! Get a change of scenery - a new circle of people - men who dont see you as a bit of the furniture. And yes, Im sure you will find someone one day - when you least expect it.

You sound just like my daughter a few years back! 'Why can't I find the right man Mum?'-4 years on and she has a wonderful husband and gorgeous little girl-it will come when you're not loooking-trust me! :) x oops a little editing! lol

Bec hun, dont ever think that. youre as gorgeous as can be - inside and out x

Hate to sound so pathetic. Am going speed-dating on Tuesday (being dragged along for a laugh only!!!) but just can't be bothered. I would love to be a Mum one day but the thought of going out to try and meet men bores me... I'm happier chatting on here for gassing in my local.

Bec STOP THAT RIGHT NOW, am shouting in case you have gone off to bed. You are so young to be thinking the way you are and you have so much time to meet the one and only (no not Chesney Hawkes?!). Just have fun being single and independent and take each day and opportunity as it comes. I can see I will have to have words with you if you are at the meet in Brighton, young lady. Now if you were my age, you would have something to worry about, I think I have let too many good blokes slip away, without realising their worth. Lived a lot of my life thinking the grass is always greener and now it is looking sparse, weedy and bald in places, a bit like my men! It's a new day tomorrow and who knows whether that will be the day your prince is nigh!. Liz x

Louise - Pretty young I suppose. I'm 23 and in no rush to settle down... just sick of being the 'friend' whilst all my friends settle down!

It will happen - my sister lost her husband 4 years back when she was 54. Known him since she was 16. Thought shed be alone for the rest of her life. Shes getting married in Barbados in February to a brilliant bloke whom she met when she went on a mad dog treking holiday in Canada on her own. Blimey, just seen you are 23 - you are a baby - dont rush into getting tied down! BTW I have a very nice single son aged 25.

Bec, nothing wrong with you!. It`s the blokes who have the problem.

Hello Liz, lovely to chat again. I'm ok really, just beginning to wonder whether I'll be happier on my own. I'm very independent and have stopped the 'desperate hunting for a boyfriend' thing... It's very hard, was in a pub this evening and there were 3 of my male friends who I get on with great! They all tell me I'm gorgeous and a great friend.... and they were all there with their girlfriends... I can't be that great...

Heather - MWAH! Louise - Am not looking for it at all... just beginning to think it might not happen. Stu - Thanks honey. Wish you were right! lol

Bec, I've met you. You are lovely, kind, caring, beautiful person. Hell, if I thought I was good/young enough for you I'd ask you out!

Lol Thanks Stu!

It’s a minefield isn’t it? Be a friend to a man from the off and they think that’s all you want to be and don’t take it any further. Try to come over as something more than a friend to them to start with and you get labelled as ‘easy’. Sit there and say nothing and you’re ‘boring.’ Talk a lot and they ‘can’t get a word in edgeways’ There is no pleasing some men – but one day there will be one that will want you exactly as you are, whatever your mood, whatever you do or whatever you say. Stop looking long enough for him to find you. There is certainly nothing the matter with you, young lady! Mags xxx

Bec.....It will happen when you least expect it to....It is called Fate.... Janet

Bec, those mates with their girls, aren't for you but will be the first to tell their mates if you meet up, what a great girl you are! Are you going to Brighton? I really hope to be there. Liz Maybe we can find a duo, father and son, would be good, goes without saying I would let you have the son!!! x

Just remember, there are people who do love you, but might think they are not good enough for you. Me, I'm too old. (In body anyway LOL)

Thanks Janet! Mags - You speak sooooo much sense! xxx I'm happy being a friend and I'm lucky to have the great friends I do. I'm just sick of the 'I really like your mate... seeing as you're such a good mate, introduce us....' etc. I'm not perfect in anyway, have never suggested I was. But I'm young, relatively intelligent, enjoy life and independent... I know it'll (hopefully) happen eventually... it can just be tough being in an environment where you get told you're 'great' and yet not great enough...

Awww thanks Stu!!! Liz- Hadn't planned to... when/where is it??? xx

Best to wait an get the right man otherwise can be big big mistake youll find him xxxxxxxxxxxx