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My Daughter is 10 this year and I think the onset womanhood is not far. She has started to get BO under her arms, She hates showering and anything to do with cleanliness. Her chest is developing too. Although there is no monthly as such, I'm wonderng if this is a part of it or not. Had the chat with her, which went ok. Do you think she is close to her monthly or am I getting paranoid. thanks catherine xx

I started when I was only just 11, so it's quite likely that your daughter isn't far off starting hers. Kaye x

Oh Christine she's only 9, 10 in November, it didn't happen for me till I was 13. I think she's ok with everything, but she's very girly and giggly. I feel it's too young. Thanks christine. catherine xx

Sorry I only have boys but a lot of my friends have girls & they are all starting earlier. I remember when I started secondary school there was only 1 girl who had started hers but now loads start before secondary. Penny

Hi Catherine, One of my daughters is 13 in August and has had breast buds, pubic hair and been sweaty for over 18 months now But no periods yet and very nasty mood swings! Myself and my mum both started just before our 12th birthdays so am suprised beth hasnt. Carol x

I was about 10 when I *started*, so don't worry about it. Deanna X

My grandaughter started to develop at 9 and had to have some tests like menopasal women that tells the hormone levels.She started her monthys when she was 11.The same age as my daughter while they were both in Junior school.Not very nice for them.Annie

Catherine mine is 13 and about the only one in her year that hasn't started. Mine is very moody but blames me for that as she takes after me. Dont worry what will be will be you wont be able to change anything.

My grand daughter is 10 and has had two in the last 12 monthes she has mood swings and tummy ache every now and again she is eleven in sept agree with other think girls are stating early Valxxx

Have sent you a pm Catherine as i have a similiar situation Star

Sounds like it to me too. My eldest was 10 in the June and started her periods - regular as clockwork every month - in the October! :-( I work with 10 year old girls in my pirmary school and your daughter is certainly not alone - the BO, not wanting to have regular baths/showers etc etc. Just keep an eye on her, sounds to me like you're already prepared for what may come ahead. Good luck! :) Lyn x

Not sure if this helps but I see a tv prog once and it said girls usually started when their weight reached 7 and half stone??? I also work in a primary school and would have to say it is the bigger girls that start earlier. Deb

Its OK Catherine......I used to take kids of this age swimming with the school, and you would be surprised the number of 9 year olds who 'started' at that age. My niece was nine....she is thirty-one now.......so it shows how long ago it was.....they seem to be getting younger.....As long as she knows all about it, is prepared with the necessary stuff, then it will be OK....

maybe shed like to be able to shave under her arms, sometimes thats the reason, but too embarased to say, with my girl and boy ive found its easier to just buy the stuff, razors deodrant, girly stuff for my daughter,(you all know the stuff) and just said anything you want just say or write it on list, luckily my boy is really perticular on cleanliness, he likes the boys stuff, lynk, that kinda stuff, and loves aftershave, he baths , brushes his teeth , gels his hair, hes a proper boy dont get me wrong, but just worrys at mo his biggest problem is spots

Oh thanks everyone for your comments and PM's. I feel much better now. I know I can't change anything, it's gonna happen. I am close to her so I only hope she can talk to me as I tell her all the time. About anything. Her mood swing are unbelievable but like Dawnie, she takes after me. Thankyou all so very much. I really appreciate it. catherine xx

I was begining to develop physically at 8 1/2 yrs, even had period pains regually at about 4 week intervales but didn't start my monthlys untill I was 16 - I had to have bllod tests and brain scans at 14 because my GP was worried, all came back normal. Everyone is differant and growing up happens whenever it must.

Julieanne I have heard boys are better than girls in the bathing stakes. My friend's little lad a few years ago was alway's in the shower. He'd spend an hour there!!! Amy just gone for her bath, and I can tell you she was out in 5 min. 'Have you used soap'? She had to think about it. I have bought her cleansers, moisturisers, deodrant, but unless you stand over her it won't happen. catherine xx

I know a couple of girls that started aged 11. All the signs are there but it could still be a long way of yet.

Am with rachel on this ... Every girl will develop at her pace. My daughter is almost 14 and despite developing all the bits and hair as well.. oh yes and the aversion to baths hairwashes etc at about 10, she still hasn't got the monthlies. She got worried as all her friends have started she spoke to the doctor, who reassured her she isn't abnormal, and if she's nopt started by this time next yr he run a few tests. But seeing as she has all the other bits he thinks it's just a question of time.

Sorry Nurse Christine. In laymans terms. Lol. I hope at nearly 40 I have a few more years prior to the menopause. But I do think you are right about her not being far off. Thanks Catherine xx