General Chat

Jess, I am so relieved my parents didn't have that awful illness to contend with, it was hard enough for my mum nursing my dad with lung cancer, but thank goodness he was still with us in mind, (until the end with the morphine muddling him). Your dad is a star and it must be very sad and lonely for him when he is there with your mum and no-one else, bless him. Are there any carers going on the trip to Bognor who could help your dad a bit so he could enjoy the trip too? By helping, I mean by keeping an eye on your mum too so your dad can relax a little, I expect he is on thorns all the while they are out in case your mum decides to go wandering. So hard for relatives and for the people themselves if they are still able to realise what is happening to them, and it does to some for a while. Take care, and give your dad a hug from me, Liz

Jess, Give your Dad an extra big hug the next time you see him. I hope that they have a nice visit to Bangor on their anniversary. Debxx

Awww bless them both Jess, and you too. Claire xx

Oh Jess, how very sad. My Dad has some sort of dimentia linked to his many types of strokes over the past 12 years. I try and get across to visit my parents as often as I can. We had to put Dad in a home in June this year because Mam just couldn't cope with him at home any more. They are so very close still and it's a very sad state of affairs I must say, seeing them separated like this, but it's the 'best' solution I'm afraid. All you can do is to continue giving him your support and understanding. Bigs hugs to you all. Margaret

Jess xxx for you and your dad just being there when he needs you will be a big help my best wishes to you all xxxx Howie

Oh Jess, So very true and SO perceptive. Bless your Dad. And thoughts for you and your brother too, who are also living and coping with this. Jay

So sad Jess

Jess my heart goes out to you I can only imagine how You feel. At the age of 21 I had my 63yr old mum sit on my knee and break her heart after dads death. Theres nothing you can say to them

I think actually that Mum has it easy - she is what she is, its everyone else that has to cope with what she has become. No, dad will have no help, besides what we give them - he is very proud, and as i said to her Dr today, they both need help. Bless you Dad, you do so well, even though she drives you up the wall sometimes!

Jess A huge ((hug)) to you Yvette xx

Jess It must be so very difficult when someone you love doesn't recognise you, or their personality changes. At least she is much-loved by you, your Dad and the family. Love to you all, Mandy x

What your Dad { and the rest of you } are going through must be so very hard to have someone you love still there but not the person you remember, Love to you all, Cazxxxxxxxxxx

Jess. My lovely Mum has Alzheimers and she makes me cry every time I leave her at the Nursing Home because she doesn't know me --- and then I may get a lovely smile from her when she must recognise me for a quick couple of seconds. This is such a cruel dreadful disease which affects those looking on so much. It is definately right when they call it 'The Long Goodbye' I lost my Mum 6 years ago managed to Nurse her for 3years and then she needed 24hr care. Plenty of support and loads of love is what your Dad needs Jess and you are giving that to him... God Bless both your Mum and Dad xxx Love Maisie

Bless them both Jess. Sue...xx

God Bles your Dad Jess-my Dad had it and it was horrible for the rest of us, Mum was gone by then.

This thread has made me cry and feel sad, my Mother-in-Law is in the early stages, its so hard but so sad, my hubby finds it difficult to cope with, i am going to get him to read that poem maybe it may help (((((((((((((((((Hugs to you all))))))))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))) to you allxxxxxxxxxxx caroline

Your poor mum and dad Jess. It made me cry too. ((((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))) Deanna X

Aw, Jess, that is so sad. Gwynne

Jess I hope they really enjoy the break. hugs x Dianna