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Jenny, maybe her sister thinks she will be a help with the little one. We went with our son when the youngest was fifteen months and it was a good job we did as they needed somebody to watch her while theyw ent on rides etc. So you could make it a condition that she helps them. Ann glos

Jen , I was going to say Yes too, with the proviso that between now and when she goes that she earns as much as poss to pay you backperhaps half of the cost , my reasoning behind this is that you all acknowledge that you can afford it now and it is a lovely treat for doing well in her exams etc. But the problem now is the decision has been taken by others and not you, and now perhaps you need to make a bit of a stand and say Great that she's going, yes you will pay for the trip BUT expenses are all down to her!!!! Maybe that way she will see that you dont get something for nothing! I agree she will be a big help to her Sis too which is probably why Sis suggested it ! (A canny lass!) You will be less worried about this trip than if she was going away with her mates to Spain (trust me!!) Jen x

It is hard to treat your children EXACTLY alike at times, but we have tried very hard, if one needed financial help, we made sure the others got the same amount in some form or other.

Once again, thank you all for your replies. I know it may sound stupid but I really did need your opinions. I cannot stand spoilt children that think everything is there for the asking, whether their parents can afford it or not. Most probably because I never had nothing as a child and envied all those that could. I just felt so guilty that my older children have not had half as much as my youngest and felt really worried. Grace will be back home on Friday she has been down the Midlands for the last week. As we now have Chloe my first Granddaughter, eldest two Daughters and four Grandsons will be coming up also. We are all going to 'Diggerland' on Saturday. We took eldest Grandson a couple of years ago, and had a fantastic time, we just wished all of the boys could have been with us. So weather permitting my wish will be granted. Although I live in a lovely place right by the sea, I would give anything to be nearer to my older Daughters and Grandsons. For some reason, I am sitting her sobbing my little heart out. jenny x

Here's a ((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))) you daft thing!!! Have a good weep then a cup of tea then think about the good time you are going to have when they get here! Jen x

As the youngest of three I'm going to say yes let her go.............Only because I know what it's like to be the youngest when the family has gone through hard times and the youngest always ends up with hand-me-downs of everything and I'm not going to say forgotten about but are left to kind of 'make do'.........when our family became able to afford more I was spoilt but that was because my parents seen what I had put up with and were trying to make up for it...........therefore if I asked for anything I got it but I never ever played on it for expensive stuff or pushed my luck as I knew that money was not as tight as it had been before but could very easily go back to that way. My siblings were a bit older than me and had their own lives to be getting on with and were never bothered by the fact that I was finally getting what I'd missed out on. Let her go on the trip and if things are making you feel 'funny' about going back on your word maybe try and get her to meet you some of the way on the cost but bare in mind she has a long way to go through college and with very little chance to relax with all the study etc she'll have to do and also remember it was her sister that asked again not her and if she's never mentioned it again or pestered you about it then it means she ahd accepted your first decision and will probably be thrilled to know she's getting a proper break before going back to the grindstone........and her sister gets a trustworthy helper to boot!!!!! Don't feel guilty about your previous decision, just let her go and enjoy herself :-) RDA.x.

I'm not going to be as delightful as Grace sounds...and i am not going to settle for a No. I WANNA GO TO DIGGERLAND......oh..oh...oh...PLEASE Take me with you! I'll sqweam and sqweam and sqweam until I'm sick...and i can!! Jess x