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Is it me or are people becoming oblivious to Manners!! I have just been shopping with my mother to Asda, A lady pushed her way to the front and her only comment was 'Im in a hurry' I was not amused,I told her to get back down the line and wait as everyone else has to,she then informed me she was staff!! My reply was that in that case she should most certainly be waiting her turn, as customers pay her wages! I wouldent have minded if she had been polite about it,such ignorance just makes me boil!!

Roxanne I understand! I'm staggered by the number of times I hold a door open for someone and they just walk through, followed by several others, not even a 'thanks' or even an awareness that I am graciously not letting door slam on their ignorant noses! On the other hand, some people do say please, thank you, hold open doors and let you go infront of them in a queue if they can see you don't have many items or are in a hurry etc. nell

I'm afraid in similar circumstances, I have been known to say to offenders 'Are you from .....?(a certain EEC country) One blushed immediately and retired to the back of the queue: another said 'No - Why?' My retort was that natives of that particular place were well-known for not liking queues. That also had the desired effect. Jay

I say in my very grandest voice (after theyve jumped me in the queue) 'Oh, please do go first, I can see you are in a tearing hurry' As for holding doors, I shout loudly 'Don't mention it, its a pleasure to wait on you' And I have to say, its rarely the young that do any of this, its the oldies, who ought to know better. OC

Agree with you there OC. I find the pensioners the worst offenders at bad manners. Then they demand respect from younger people! Not all pensioners I hasten to add, are that bad, but there are one or two who are like that.

Roxanne you should report her............I would...

It really makes me boil and I do have to agree that in most cases it seems to be the older generation. Having to push around a large double pushchair I always make a point of thanking people and it suprises me when others seem to have forgotton what they are. If I stop my trolley in a supermarket to let another shopper through they hardly ever say thank you. My favourite retort is 'My my your mother must be so proud of your manners!'. Dianna x

Donkeys years ago, VERY pregnant and VERY cross, I asked a man on the crowded tube if he could possibly let me have his seat. He completely ignored me, so I sat on his lap. OC

Hi Lynda, Back to Spain on Wednesday, Im only here for a week, Mums doing really well,shes nearly back to her old self,which is a huge relief, she has to have some more tests which will determine wether she needs a heart by-pass,so if she does I will be back here to look after her. Roxanne x

Hi Hayley,I did think about it :-)) but maybe she was having a bad day, I will give her the benefit of the doubt just this once!! Roxanne x

Hi Roxy, Not much of the wet stuff up North is there? Don't forget to visit the Hunger Site while you're in UK, will you! Brian, ; < x )

Hi Brian,Will do:-))

OC you make me larf, I can just 'see' you !!! Maz. XX

O.C,Good for you.lol what a picture I have in my mind now!!:-))

Hi Roxane Your thread has reminded me of an incident at the supermarket on Thursday. There were two ladies,mother & daughter in front of me at the checkout, with two lots of purchases each. I heard a very loud bang behind me and this fella ( with a face red and fit to burst) had slammed a margerine tub down on the checkout. I said to him ' are you in a bad mood'?,(in a light hearted way) He said WELL look at all the goods in front and stood stamping his feet,like a child. I told him, even though I was shopping for 2 neighbours, he could go ahead of me, he refused with the look of a martyr! lol When it was my turn I swiftly gave his marg. to girl at the till and said in a loud voice ' serve this chap first will you? his time is much ,more precious than mine.' She laughed and winked! ......he did appologise(twice) as he was leaving, wonder if he learnt anything?? like use the ' less than ' checkout!!! Mau XX ;O)

there's no excuse for that I'd have clocked her one with the cabbage. catherine xx

Hi Roxanne Its a good job I wasnt with you, Im a stickler for good manners but I have a few tricks up my sleeve. What I do is I hold the door open for people and then stand in the doorway if they push into you and dont say thank you, I stand there stuck to the ground then say to them ' and the magic word is? if they dont say it then I make sure I let the door go ensuring it hits them. When you cannot get passed some one (now this does my head in and makes me very very angry) I always say excuse me, again stand your ground do not move until they say the magic word, one man was huffing and puffing one day cos he couldnt get passed until I said ' I was taught the word was excuse when I was a child, but perhaps its now changed to move out the way, F***ing move, or shift. Then I say making sure they hear me that I was brought up not dug up. The look on their faces is incredible. My OH usally disappears when Im having turn. Yvonne x

maureen,I love the way you handled that, What class:-)))

Bel,your grandmother sounds wonderful,what style:-))

Yvonne your a woman after me own heart. catherine xx