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Hi Jennifer My deepest heartfelt condolences to you and your family I wrote this poem sometime ago which I hope you do not mind me sharing again with everyone. Being a father of three myself I could never contemplate the pain of the loss of my children, the thought itself brings me to tears. I can only send you positive thoughts and prayers to give you strength in the days and years to come. God Bless You. My Beautiiful Son My beautiful son you are to me More then word could tell or eyes could see When first I held you to my breast I smiled at you and I knew I had been blessed God had sent me the most beautiful son You shone like the stars and glowed like the sun Throughout the years as you started to grow We bonded together and our love it did show All a parent could want was in you my boy You gave us happiness love and joy For my son you made us so proud You were one like no other and stood out in the crowd God must have seen something special in you For he saw you there and wanted you too So now your in heaven and walk by his side I cannot hide the pain or the tears that I have cried The hurting will not go and my life's incomplete Waiting for that day when again we will meet Colin From Hampshire

Jennifer, I never managed motherhood, lost 4 to miscarriages , 1 ectopic pregnancy and tried everything, IVF etc etc, but it wasn't to be.my ex even instructed that my last 2 fertilised embryo's were destroyed- they were my very last hope. To get thru, try and rejoice in the time that you DID have- i dont mean to sound trite, but life will go on, believe me.you will get thru this, I watched my father suffer , really suffer when we lost my brother. he couldnt understand - he did come out of the other end of it though, and CAN smile about Adi now - at one time i thought he'd never smile agian. jess

Jennifer,my heart goes out to you,there is no easy way to erase the pain its something that has to happen for you to move on sweetheart,I wish I could give you the answer but I cant,all I can say it will fade,you will remember him as he was and be able to think of him without bursting into tears,you will still have that pain but it will be locked away,just keep strong,your son would want that,until then you can let your feelings out on here,it will help a little. Love Roxanne xxx

Jennifer, I wish I could help ease your pain but no-one can do that cos the only way would be to bring your Stephen back and that would need a miracle. I treasure my son all the time - when he was little, I was always checking he was breathing, cos I couldn't accept that this time I had a live baby at home, after losing my Zoe. Now he is a grown young man and I worry always that something might take him from me, he is my only child and my reason for living in a way, so I can understand your desolation. I hope you get the answers you need soon, to help you on with the grieving process ( sounds so clinical but you know what I mean). Thinking of you, love, Liz x

Hello Jennifer, I lost my father when I was 11,he was actualy buried on my 12 birthday, I lost my mum when I was 20, she was buried on my daughters 1st birthday, then I lost my brother 10 years ago past may.Still being a mother of 5 children three girls two boys I connot comprehend what you are going through.Tonight I picked my eldest son up from the airport, he was working abroad,I missed him so much,Right now my heart goes out to you and your family, little concelation I know,I will say a prayer for you all tonight

Aw Jen, I wish I could hun, wish I could just take it all away.... Nanna-M xxx

Jennifer, im sorry but ive no idea how to erase your pain i can only imagine what youre going through. On tuesday i got a phone call from my niece saying my Liam had been in a car crash and all she knew was that someone had been airlifted to hospital and all i can say is that my heart nearly stopped, by the grace of god or whoever he wasnt that person. I dont know what to say to you to make you feel better, im sure that nothing will really apart from time and the fact that we have to go on. Bless you and take care of yourself Sheila xx

Could someone tell me how to erase this pain?

The hardest thing i have ever had to cope with - is losing my Son -Stephen- would never wish this pain on my worst enemy.

Jennifer ... so very sorry Julie

Jennifer you have every right to feel sad it's a perfectly normal emotion that you are expressing....

sorry folks, for feeling so low- it just hurts so much-do not mean to be on a downer-anybofdy got good news.

Sorry you are still feeling so low Jennifer. I hope they bring an end to your pain soon and you get closure. Then you can grieve properly and the pain will start to ease. I know you feel like it won't but it does get easier. It's been 34 years since I lost my brother he was 26, I was 18, sometimes I can talk about him and I am ok, other times I cry, I will always feel it, but the pain is less now. Think of the soft summer breeze as his breathe and the suns rays as his love and know that your son is always around you. Much love, Nanna-M xx

Jennifer love ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) I nearly lost my son a few years ago I don't know how I would have coped if I had so thinking of you take care Norah

No nothing-no news-keep telling me waiting for one more report-killing me slowly-but surely-sorry so low but the waiting is agony

Heartfelt condolences Jennifer. I'm sure the sentiment would equally apply to daughters also, all our children are precious to us x

I am the father of 3 lovely sons Wayne,Matthew and Michael. (from 2 marriages) I nearly lost Matthew 2 years ago when he was hit by a car . I cant describe the hurt I felt and the relief when he survived. Dads feel it as well. I never found out who knocked him over it was kept from me.

Hello Jennifer. It's Saturday again isn' t it. Have you heard anything yet, are you any closer to getting the answers you need? (((((hugs)))) to you, I nearly lost my son, and that was bad enough. Teresa x

Sorry but it is Saturday and that is when I lost Stephen-trying so hard to be strong-but it never gets any better-will it ever-I miss my boy so much. and still do not know why-I wish they would hurry up and tell me.

Jennifer I have tiers streaming down my face, I cannot contemplate alife without my son & truly wish you have peace. Told you i was rubbish with words Sophia.