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Thanks Susan, but this isn't the one I meant. The thread is entitled Remember Me by Lynn New

Lizx

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Thank you all for the latest additions, all so beautiful and true-thank you.

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Remember Me, by Lynn New No pain beyond, no tears, no fear. No thoughts of death for I'm still near. No hugs I know, nor sweet caress, But I'm still close to love and bless. No quiet word, nor gentle touch, But don't despair ~ I love you much. No gesture kind, to show I care; The veil's drawn, but I'm still there. Grieve not too long ~ but look around, In earthly things I shall be found. A falling leaf, a growing tree, In every breeze you will feel me. I walk in life' death holds no pain. Be Reassured, we'll meet again.

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Beautiful words from so many people. May I add one sent to me by a dear friend when my Dad passed? Somewhere a journey begins at the end of the worldly existence we know. Somewhere a path stretches over the stars and rivers of memories flow. Somewhere a silence is heard far away and the brightness of day fills the night and the trials of life are resolved into peace when a soul finds it's way to the light. Perhaps someone knows who wrote this lovely piece. Susan xx

In answer to a request to post this poem on this thread, I would be delighted. Words of Comfort. Feel no guilt in laughter They know how much you care, Feel no sorrow in a smile That they're not here to share, You cannot grieve forever They would not want you to, They'd hope that you would carry on The way you always do, So talk about the good times And the way you showed you cared, The days you spent together All the happiness you shared, Let the memories surround you A word someone might say Will suddenly recapture A time, an hour, a day That brings them back so clearly As though they were still here And fills you with the feelings That they are always near, For if you keep those moments You will never be apart And they will live forever Locked safe within your heart. Lots of love Jeff xx

Jennifer, those words are lovely and they are your own, which is nice, but please don't think they are the last words you will say to Stephen, you can talk to him whenever you want to, you don't even have to say the words out loud, he will know what you are thinking when you have him in your mind. I will tell you something else, as time goes on, you will find he is not in your thoughts every minute of every day, but don't feel guilty when that happens, when you realise you have not thought about him for a little while, because it is part of the healing and it means he is helping you to move on with life. You have the others in your family to help you go through the rest of your life and they will need you to be happy and healthy, until the time comes when your earthly work is done, and you can go to meet Stephen with pride at your own courage and with contentment because you have done all you can for the family and others, and as importantly, for yourself.Give yourself some tlc every day. Liz x

Thank you all for your beautiful words of comfort, they all had a very special line or two, that related to how I am feeling, so I think I have got my reading, but please tell me if I have got it wrong, as this is so important to me, seems like these will be the last words to my Stephen. You have gone from my sight Son, I cannot hold your hand or see your face, all I have left is raw pain and grief, and very little hope. There was so much more I had to say to you, so much more I had hoped we could do. but now, one last thing I ask of you, Please help me cope with the pain, help me to heal again, There is no right or wrong way, I must find my own path, my own inner Peace, Stephen, Please Son, will you walk beside me, till I reach the shores of heaven, when please God, we shall meet agin.

Such beautiful verses - I shall copy them all and keep them safe. My ex boss is being cremated tomorrow, and altho I am glad cos he will be reunited with his wife, I feel sad because he has no children and only his inlaws to mourn him.

Jennifer that is lovely - and I am reduced to tears. It is very special because you wrote it, for your Stephen. You, his Mum, knew him better than anybody. Thankyou for sharing it with us. Janet

That's beautiful Jennifer. It says it all really.

Just feels the right time to print what I wrote for Stephen's funeral. If you could speak today Son I know what you would say 'Come on everybody smile, Please celebrate my Day' but it's hard to smile when your sad Stephen, It's hard to smile when you're sore, and it's hard to smile cos we know, we won't see you anymore. If your could speak to your Brother's and Sister today I know what you would want to say, Look after your kid's, make them number one, make sure their life's are full of fun, Don't cry for me, do not mourn my passing, rather then tears, I want you laughing. But Stephen, we can't help the tear's, cannot wipe away the pain, cannot forget the day we heard, you won't be home again, but we'll listen to you Stephen, we'll try and smile again., but we know without you, life will never be the same. You were loved by us all, and we will Miss you so much, but we hear you Son, we hear you.

Jennifer, I hope you and your family will find some of these ideas express exactly the right sentiments for you all. It is a very personal thing, but sometimes we find someone else has written just what we want to say. And it's okay to miss bits out, add bits of your own choosing or to alter odd words. I'm sure we are all pleased to be able to support you at this difficult time. Jay

I hope they give you some ideas Jennifer. These are all readings and poems that have helped us, so I hope they help you too.

Gosh I have tears streaming down my face reading all these wonderful words, but admittedly the tears belong to Stephen, tonight however, some of those tears are yours, for caring and helping me, how can I possible find the right words to thank you- I will use Stephen's words, thanks a million-what would I do without you?

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To Those I Love by Isla Paschal Richardson If I should ever leave you, Whom I love To go along the silent way. . . Grieve not. Nor speak of me with tears. But laugh and talk of me As if I were beside you there. (I'd come. . .I'd come, Could I but find a way! But would not tears and And grief be barriers?) And when you hear a song Or see a bird I loved, Please do not let the thought of me Be sad. . .for I am loving you Just as I always have. . . You were so good to me! There are so many things I wanted still to do. . . So many things I wanted to say to you. . . Remember that I did not fear. . . It was Just leaving you That was so hard to face. We cannot see beyond. . . But this I know: I loved you so. . . 'twas heaven here with you!

Jennifer , the following was read at my Dad's memorial Service. This was for all families who had lost a loved one at the hospice within the previous six months, but is easily adapted. In the room, there was a bare branch situated in the middle, we were all given a paper leaf to tie on to it, after writing our loved one's name on it. However for Stephen, everyone could write one or two words of a special memory they hold of him perhaps. Anyway, the poem... LEAF BY LEAF Leaf by leaf they tumble and fall: all my haggard hurts. Like an oak tree, ever so slowly letting go, so the heartache of my heart. There goes a bit of sadness, now a leaf of anger flies; then it's the dropping of self-pity. The leaf of forgiveness takes forever to fall; almost as long as non-trusting. Leaf by leaf they fall from the heart, like a tree in its own time. Old wounds don't heal quickly, they drop in despairing slowness, never looking at the clock. It seems a forever process, this healing of the heart, and I am none too patient. But a quiet day finally comes when the old tree with no leaves, is decidedly ready for the new. And in my waiting heart, the branches with no leaves, have just a hint of green! (Joyce Rupp)