General Chat

My brother has just called with some ideas of what to buy his children for Christmas and he said.... you will be up before Christmas so you can leave them here, won't you? To which I replied 'of course' but not once did he ask what I was doing Xmas Day..... for all he knows I could be home alone with beans on toast and a box of tissues!! Am I being selfish or is it just a boy thing?

Its a boy thing I think.. mine don't tned tolook beyond his own blinkered view xxxxxx

Diana he probably just hasnt thought about it men are sometimes like that

Tends to be us girlies who think of things like that but I'm surprised he hasn't asked you what you're doing, especially this year. Shelli - surely not!!! Next you'll be saying he'd rather watch football.:-) Daisy

Not you love, Him. Hal

Me thinks I should learn to accept that me not on his list of priorities..... this is the same man that didn't send me a birthday card even when he was reminded 3 days before the event! 'Friends are the family I have chosen for myself'

My brother is the same, they just don't think of things like this. It always gets to me when he doesn't put flowers on mum and dad and seems to forget anniversaries of their deaths and birthdays. I was told by someone that is just his way of coping. Maybe you should have a little chat with your brother and tell him how you feel, he might not have realised how you are feeling. hugs Jackiexx

Its a guy thing. Probably never even thought what you might be doing for Xmas. Thinks you will have a full calender and have sorted out your Xmas already cos you are an Independent lady Bet he would jump in with an invite if he thought you might be on your own. Shirley

Shirley - nice thought but I doubt it..... I spent many a Xmas on my own without him noticing so why should this one be any different to him!! Evie will make sure i am ok that I know but it just sucks!! Getting myself upset now so gonna go!! Chat to you all tomorrow! xx

Oh Diana Didnt mean to upset you. These bros have there own agendas. What about this!! My elder bro upped sticks & emigrated to Spain with his wife. Didnt tell ANYONE he was going and we all sent chrimbo cards to his home address not knowing he left there in early summer. The first we knew was tho was from my elder sis some eighteen months later when his elder son told her.& five years after that when his elder son phoned her to say he had died suddenly in Spain. We didnt know why he left without telling us,unless he thought we might want free hollies. Well NOO!! He was one of our bros!! & our parents would have been horrified at the split. we aren't in each others faces just there for each other if needed Take care Shirley

Oi! Come back here a minute - I take it you WON'T be sitting there with beans on toast on your own? Cos I WON'T have it! Now then. Yes, most men are unthinking clods. BTW. Hugs Mags xxx

Diana don't get upset ..... it really is a boy thing. You know him better than we do sweetie...... and if he's been like this always then you'd not want him to change - 'cos you love him the way he is......... chin up and keep guard over your pink dec's ........ cos i'm really gonna pinch 'em , so I am ............ ((hugs))

If your brother is anything like mine, you have to hit him over the head with a sledgehammer to provoke the response you want. ME: I was all on my own on Xmas Day. BRO: Yeah? ME: I did not like being all on my own on Xmas Day. BRO: No? ME: I would have liked to spend Xmas Day with you and your family BRO: Well, why didn't you say! I didn't know! (Imaginary conversation, I would rather spend Xmas Day in A and E, than spend it with him and his, lol) OC

Daisy no idea what on earth you mean by that comment!!!!!! Tho i did get told off the other night for dating to print off two pages of tree bits while the football was on!!!!! Diana, It really is a man thing it's never even occured to him you might like a family day!!!!!!

I'm ok - just had to take 5 mins then..... gawd this grief lark hits you when you least expect it to doesn't it!!! ;o) Mags - I am going to Evie's and I promise no beans! LOL!! Shirley - it wasn't you sweets honest just remembered that he really isn't coming home!! xx

Just try to be a little bit positive and remember the happy years. Be grateful for how long you had him around......... My father died when I was 15..........my mother having died when I was 7................. Reg

HEYYYYY Diana We are only off the M2 if you would like to come. We have met at one of the London Meets and you WOULD be very welcome. we do more than beans on toast too. only me & Hubby & granddaughter aged 24 this year BUT you would be very welcome AND!!!!! this is a genuine invite Shirley

It would be further for you to travel, but you are welcome to come down here .... though it would be quiet.

Diana.... my brother is exactly the same. He never rings me. I always have to get in touch with him. I have decided that life is too short to care about someone who so obviously doesn't care about me.... so I don't bother anymore. I so love your saying about friends being the family you choose. Jean x.x.

Because David....Diana wants her bruv to THINK of HER. Geddit? (pluddy men!!!) Dee xx