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i think one of my daughters friends is stealing fr
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Kris | Report | 23 Nov 2006 18:27 |
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£20 a day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (I don't allow MYSELF that!!! )I agree with Janet - this could be a cry for attention rather than straight forward stealing. |
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An Olde Crone | Report | 23 Nov 2006 18:31 |
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Apart from the obvious reasons for stealing, which Janet has described above, and none of which apply here, children who steal for no apparent reason, are usually stealing love. This girl is envious and jealous of the love your daughter has, and wants a bit of that herself. Now, it is not YOUR job to provide this girl with love, nor to excuse her theft,but if you set a trap and catch her, what are you going to do next? Tell her mother, or try to deal with the girl yourself? This is a very difficult situation and I don't envy you one bit. Let's hope your daughter falls out with this friend, before you have to do anything about it! OC |
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AnninGlos | Report | 23 Nov 2006 21:01 |
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It is hard I know but I don't like the idea of setting a trap. I think I would tell her she has to wait downstairs for your daughter. You don't have to explain why, it is your house. If she has conscience she will guess why. If she challenges your daughter about it maybe she could say it is because her room is a tip or something. Ann Glos |
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Libby | Report | 23 Nov 2006 21:02 |
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It wasn't Karen who mentioned £20 per day. That was me when I mentioned something similar happened in my house earlier this year. Libby x |
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An Olde Crone | Report | 23 Nov 2006 21:13 |
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Ooops, Sorry to both Libby and Karen! I will delete my post in a minute. OC |
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(¯`*•.¸*Karen on the Coast*(¯`*•.¸ | Report | 24 Nov 2006 15:20 |
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sorry i didn't get back on last night. the girls comes round at 7.30 and they leave for school around 7.45(they have to be in school at 8.20). thanks for all your thoughts and suggestions.......i still don't know what to do yet....one minute i think set a trap the next i'm not sure, thanks again everyone, Karen |
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Websterbfc | Report | 24 Nov 2006 16:02 |
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karen....not sure about the trap thing...but if you do make sure you plan very carefully how you are going to handle the situation if you catch the friend out. I had a similar thing with my daughter and a friend....i took a more direct approach...sat daughter, friend, and my sons down...said i am not accusing anyone but money has gone missing from daughters bedroom.......if you have it please put it back.....and if it happens again then i will have to consider what i am going to do and if i need to talk to anyones parents.......then i told the girls mother what i had done. I made sure that she knew that i wasnt accusing her child....just saying it to everyone that was in the house. Mother confided in me that her daughter had also been stealing from her.....i said i didnt want to make a big deal, but i cant happen again...mother made daughter appologise and pay money back. This worked for me, but obviously your situation may be different.....there are various approaches you could take, as others have suggested....good luck with what ever way you decide to handle it. xx |
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