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None of mine have criticsised me but some have been surprised at some of the things I have turned up When I first started yrs ago, I surprised my father by telling him where he was born. All he knew was the area. Later I found out that he had a child that I didn't know about with his first wife who died in childbirth. My mother knew about the child but advised me not to talk to my father as he would be very upset. I knew about the first marriage as I have half sisters and a half brother. This year I discovered that he had another 3 children that none of my half sisters knew nothing about and all died within the first 18 months of birth. Both my parents are no longer alive and as my mother never mentioned the other 3 children, I know that she knew nothing about them. My family want a copy of my research when 'it is finished' but we all know that it may never end so I give them an update every so often.

My lot are disappointingly uninterested. My mums half sister has asked me why my mum has not contacted her now that I have found her. Mum knew nothing about her until 3 years ago. Thats when I found my mum has 6 half brothers and sisters. Mum is now nearly 80 and cant take it all in. But my brother surprised me when he took us on holiday to Scotland this year. He took me to 2 cemetarys and our great grand parents house and he even had his photo taken alongside some grave stones.

That`s a good description , Elaine, Ros

someone told me its like doing a very large tapestry you often lose a thread only to find it months maybe years later and then you finish another little section but all threads eventually make a whole picture so stick at no matter what anyone says its your picture

Norah , a friend said the same to me . It`s as long as a piece of string --isn`t it , there`s always another twig to find , Ros

I started my tree about 18mths ago some relative said the other day 'Would have thought you had finished it by now - how much longer are you going to take?????' enough said Norah

Mine dont actually criticise exactly, but it drives me mad when I painstakingly explain things to them, only to be met by a 'fancy that' sort of comment - I might as well talk to that brick wall that I meet most every time I try to research! Jacqui

I'm like Posh Bumbly, no one in my family are intrested, my children says it bores them , my husband tries to understand for my sake. but most of it just goes over his head all the differnt things that ive found and learnt about my family will proberly just go in the bin when ive gone but i enjoy looking and finding things and all the great people on here that are always ready to help . so i would just like to say thank you to all of you that have helped me you do a great job . sorry for being so long winded hazelx

I am researching (amongst others) my maternal Grandma's paternal line. i.e. my g grandad back. When I mentioned this to my cousin who showed an incy wincy bit of interest, she turned round and said ' oh they are not relations of ours are they'. My sister is just as bad, she wants to know why I waste my time!! What do you say to these people? Sue

C, YOU CAN TELL US. PIPS XX

None of mine are interested so I have given up talking about it now.. I hope that one day they will take an interest. C x

KEITH I WOULD LIKE TO SOMETIMES BUT IT HAS TAUGHT ME SOMETHING CHECK EVERYTHING FOR YOURSELF. I HAVE, TO SOMEONE, WHO WAS GIVEN INFO., TO PASS ON TO ME, BUT DIDN'T, BUT WOULD RING ME EVRY WEEK TO SAY.' I HAVE FOUND....DID YOU KNOW THIS ?.............CARRIED ON UNTIL THEY WERE CAUGHT OUT BY THE DONATER. PIPS XX

i just tell them to butt out

OC. --what a laugh -pretending to be a dead man LOL, Ros

I HAVE A RELATIVE, WHO HAS FOUND PARTNERS FOR MY SINGLE MOTHERS. MARRIED MY SINGLE MOTHER, GAVE HER A FAMIL AND HOME, WHEN SHE IS STILL AT HOME WITH PARENTS AND CHILD ON THE CENSUS. GAVE ME HER BANNS DATE, A DATE THAT IS BEFORE HER FATHER WAS EVEN BORN GIVEN MY SISTER A HUSBAND, WHEN SHE DOESN'T HAVE ONE. AND WANTS TO SUBMIT THIS. WHAT CAN WE DO ? PIPS XX

When I found a living relative of a man who supposedly died unmarried, and that living relative sent me all the certs AND a wedding photograph, showing the 'dead' man getting married, with his brothers in attendance, the rest of the family said the man in the photo must have been PRETENDING to be the dead man, lol. My brother does very little towards the research although we are supposed to be sharing the cost and the work, but he picks holes in everything I find and does his level best to disprove anything I come up with. OC

My father told me that his mother had ovarian cancer and that she caught pneumonia in hospital and died of that. When I received her death certificate it stated that she had benign fibroids that had been removed but unfortunately she developed a pelvic infection that eventually killed her. Dad wouldn't believe me, he said that the family knew what had really killed her not a bit of paper. Susan

DITTO TO ALL THE ABOVE I GET OH PLEASE WE DON'T WANT TO KNOW THANKS, NOT INTERESTED HOW CAN YOU NOT BE INTERESTED IN HOW YOU GOT HERE AS MUCH AS THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND MY INTEREST FOR THE LIFE OF ME I CAN'T BELIEVE THEY ARE NOT AT ALL INTERESTED IN WHO MADE THEM WHO THEY ARE KIND REGARDS TO ALL LARA FROM AUST.

Susan , my Mum always said her brother died of TB MENINGITIS. When I got death cert it said brain tumour . Mum says --not right --but he was blind in one eye,. I think tumours etc weren`t spoken about in 1930`s Ros

PIPS --I PAID FOR AN IRISH SEARCH --ONLY £12.50 BUT SHE WASN`T FOUND ALTHOUGH A COUSIN OF MY MUM`S SAYS SHE WAS BORN IN CO. MAYO .BUT THERE`S SOMEONE WITH SAME NAME IN ENGLAND --DO THEY BELIEVE IT IS RIGHT PERSON --NO. I`LL PLOUGH ON TILL I GET TO THE BOTTOM OF IT, Ros xxx