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I've done something really bad, it's against all my moral's and deffinatley not something I would make a habbit of. If I talk to my friends about it I know their going to judge me and I know that I'll probably get judged from everyone but I need to talk. Theres a bloke at work, he's married with a child but he's been coming on to me and he kissed me Yesterday and again today. I know I should stop it before it gets out of hand but it's so nice having the attention and it's not going to amount to anything but physical. I just want to cry I know I'm in the wrong but I kinda don't want to stop it. I need some advice from people older and wiser than me, even tho I'm pretty sure what's going to be said. Sx

You've obviously got a conscience which is telling you to do the right thing......listen to it.

I see heartache on the way for somebody, maybe not even you but sure as eggs are eggs someone is going to get hurt. Take care and think this one through. Jenny

Run as fast as you can in the opposite direction...NOW...the hurt this could cause is unbelievable...esp to his child and wife!! Sorry but this is just bad news.... Been there, got the t-shirt, video, mug, sticker book and the burn marks!!! Nanna-Moo ;-)

I'm like Nanna Been there got the t-shirt. It will only end in tears believe me. catherine xx good luck.

My advice would be keep well clear, it will end in tears. You say you dont want to get involved,but you will, if hes doing this to his wife hes not worth it,believe me.

I know, I know.......... I can't help it I suppose it's just been so long since I've had a blokes attention that I'm soking it up like a sponge. I just need some more people to give me a kick up the ass!

Stop it right now - you'll hurt 3 people the hubby, his wife and more importantly the child

Stacey, if it was my husband you'd get more than a kick up the ar.e if and when i found out hazelx

Wasn't going to add to this thread but changed mind. Been on both sides. I understand exactly what you mean about the attention but my experience is once he gets what he wants the attention dies off and you feel used and disgusted with yourself. From the other side when I found out what my OH had been up to (and with him it never got to physical) I felt sick and fully understood what people meant when they siad their heart had been torn out. Emotional hurt was never so painful. Whatever you decide you have to be able to live with yourself afterwards. T.O.R.

Stacey, how old is he? how long has he been married? Some men are on one big ego trip(women too) they need constantly to be found attractive and will do anything to gain attention. Put yourself in his wifes shoes, how would you feel?

RUN IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!! AND YES I AM SHOUTING!! It will land up in tears, and probably yours. Tell him to get lost, and think about his family for a change, and not his animal instincts. Sorry, but you have to do it for your own sanity. PP xx Don't forget we are all here to wipe away the tears :-)

Stacey. my guess is, that to him, you are just a boost to his ego! he's 'charms' have probably been rejected more often then recipricated by a lot of 'young things' in the past.

Looking it at from another angle What if you fall hook, line and sinker for him....even if you don't think it will happen, it just might. Don't be fooled into think he will leave his wife and child, cos he won't. And then you'll be heartbroken and probably hate yourself for being so gullible. Wanna see my T-shirt! Jeanette x

He's in his 30s been together for a fair few years but married for about 6. I know first thing Monday I'll speak to him, I just hate not having anyone and all of a sudden he starts giving me all this attention I know it's wrong and it's going to end!

Stacey,Good,Im glad your seeing sense. You will find someone,just be patient, you meet people when your least expecting to.

Leopards never change their spots!! If you go ahead & things progress, he leaves his wife & child - he would probably do the same to you as he did to his wife - he's a tart!! Been there and was sadistically amused after a while when on coming back from staying with their dad for the weekend my children would say they'd stayed at Y's house - he was married to X!! When asked what Mr Y was like - he wasn't there - he was conveniently away on business!!!! maggie

thought you would like a mans point of view. marriage is about loving, and having trust in your partner. any man that does this to his wife, will do it again, and again, not caring who he hurts in the process. your obviously suffering from low self esteem, treat yourself to a makeover, a new hairstyle, new outfit... you will soon find decent trustworthy fellas taking an interest in you. best wishes to you... bryan.

bryans right. catherine xx

Oh Stacey, I really feel for you but tend to agree with Bryan, he is way out of order, to need the love and contact is understandable but if he is really sincere he will make it clear, Caz xxx