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If you had your life all over again, would you change anything? Do any of you have many regrets? What would you do differently? For me, I have one or two regrets and yes I would do things differently hugs to you all, and have a great weekend xx

Janey probably biggest regret is not giving friends the time they deserve. A true friend is not someone who will give/lend you a £1000 but someone who will cancel any plans to be there when you need them. Unfortunately I haven't always lived up to that description. T.O.R. ;o))

I would have chosen a different career path!! There's far too much stress in my job!!

Lots of missed chances and things I did wrong, misjudged situations or didn't make the time I should have to see people I wanted to see, but if I changed much, I would probably have missed out on other good things so think I have to feel fate had a hand in things too.

Yes I wouldn't have stayed in a violent relationship as long as I did. Jackiexx

Hi Guy's This is all really interesting and Jackie yes been there done that sadly!! I hope which ever path you have choosen you have a happy healthy successful lives xx

Worst part of my life was being seperated from my Dad at the age of about 4 or 5, Mom and Dad divorced, me stuck in the middle of it, as for me I look like my Dad, and, it was always me that was in trouble. I got 'quirks' like Dad had, and would often get shouted at, just for me and my 'quirks' reminding Mom of Dad. Had no contact with Dad from the age of 4 or 5, and then we lost Dad when I was a teenager...............so If I could live my life over again it would be to make damn sure that I had contact with my Dad. That would have saved a lot of tears and emotion that I am still going through now. ''Justice for Dad's''......I am so pleased that some Dad's are fighting for the right to see their children. We need them as much as Mom's. (((HUGS))) for them X

Star, that is so sad, I agree both parents should be around in a child's life, where ever possible. My son's father found a wife who wouldn't let him stay in touch, she has told their son we are family friends, can't wait to see what happens when he one day learns his parents lied to him. I am sure your Dad knows you loved him and miss him. x

So many regret's too many only good thing is my kids an grankids

Lots of mistakes, Jane, but no regrets:-) BC XX

Daffodil, you mean if we fall in s**t we can still come up smelling of well, daffodils? lol

Two questions in one Do I have regrets Yes lots some i could have changed and thinking back I most certainly would have no2 My life itself has been good and would not want to change things one thing that I would like to see an impossible dream Peace through out the world god bless you all Love Howiexxxx

regreats, yes a few over the years some were or still are a major part of my life would i change the things i have done in my life no they have made me the person i am today, good or bad, depending who you ask about me. Sxx

Star you are right it is very important for children to stay in contact with their fathers after a breakdown of their parents relationship. When my ex and I split up I insisted that he kept on seeing the kids and if he hadn't turned up I contacted him to make arrangements. It is also important for the parents not to speak nastily about each other to the children as it is them suffering because of it. Sometimes you have to tolerate people who have hurt you for your childrens sakes. Jackiexx

hhhhhmmmm a tough one.... mistakes yes plenty! all helped to make me the person i am today and wouldnt change that or my life for quids. but maybe regret being too trusting of many ppl but then again spose i could put that down to naivity and youth. im still growing so we will see..... my dream would be on my death bed with a smile on my face and not regret a thing!!! that would be a peacefull way to go huh!!! but untill then i will just try to be the loving happy positive person i try to be every day then hopefully i wont have much to regret. :-) peace and love to all who have err'd. gee i sound like a hippy!!! ;-) LOL!!!!

Hello Jane Yes I'm sorry to say,but at the time did what I thought was right. I was wrong! Mau xx

I,ve made mistakes ,but then who hasnt,its all the learning curve of life. Blimey that sounds profound!!. But no regrets on anything major. Been married 50 years in August and altho he become a bit of a Victor Meldew hes still my best friend. Would like to have had more than one child but that didnt happen. Would like to have been at home more for our daughter when she was young but finances meant i had to work. Would like not to have been so hard on her when she was young but thought i was doing the right thing at the time. So mistakes made but no regrets other wise Shirley

Absolutely I have regrets of things I didn't do.... but I wouldn't change my past as its made me the person I am today and I like that person!! xx

Hi Janey :O)) I do have regrets - for opportunites that never came my way ........... mostly in Love :O( That said tho - I have faired well in what I have achieved. I have had some good career opportunites - one which enabled me to be able to my own home. And I have had some fabulous opportunities to travel. Nothing outstanding - but possibly more than some have been lucky enough to achieve .......... Life is what you make it - so I guess I regret that I didn't make enough of it when I was younger - but then again - would I be where I am now if I had - or would I be happier in different circumstances if I had done things differently ???

I do sort of regret getting together with my first husband when i was young. I don't regret our daughter one bit. We were together from 1987-1998 then when my daughter was 2 we split-I was on my own for a long time, just worked, and brought my child up, then I met a nice guy who adored me, he was very wealthy and lived in Ireland, he was older than me and a lovely guy, would give me anything,but money can't buy you love. And I didn't feel the same. So back on my own, I got a new job, met my now husband and we have been together ever since, we have a son and I love this man more with nothing than the rich guy who had everything. I am very happy and feel I have found my soulmate at last. So no regrets what so ever. catherine xx