General Chat

Well I have to eat a very small slice of humble pie lol When I went to hang the phone up at bedtime last night, he had actually left a message! Must have been while I was taking Charlotte to Guides - whoooops!! Have just tried to ring him and of course his answerphone is on - I expect he's in a *sigh* meeting. Hopefully he will ring tonight and let us know what's happening at the weekend. Maz. XX

i know the feeling, my ex said i will ring you tomorrow, tht was 2 years ago may, makes me so angry, no xmas or b/day card kimx

Maz My son and his wife split up but the little boy is first and last with both of them they have him in turn 2 night son 2 nights D I L and they make it so in turn they have him either sat or sun in turn each week

Maz, Thinking of you and Charlotte and Jamie, fingers crossed they aren't let down this weekend. Sue xx

surprise surprise ... he STILL ain't phoned them or texted/e-mailed me with an excuse will have to text tomorrow and stick a rocket up him - may phone his dad and tell him too! it's so not fair grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Maz. XX

Jilly Your comments, about him losing out are SO spot on. My daughter has been lucky my boys dad has accepted her as his, so she has still got the father figure. Which is also, i feel one of the reasons she will nothear anything bad said about her real one.

Thanks for the replies everyone. Sorry but I haven't been able to get back on before now. oh and guess what ????!!! he STILL hasn't rung them! he is supposed to be coming over this weekend, and I have told the kids that, but of course I have had no confirmation yet - not even an e-mail. I really hope he doesn't let them down. Maz. XX

just another wee comment from me..... I can honestly say that my kids really havnt been affected by their dad going - thankfully!! Actually they didnt even realise he had gone for three weeks!!! they dont have much time for him really....yes it will have affected how they see relationships maybe but I hope in a good way ...in the sense of couples pulling together and being there for their own children and learning from their own experiences of having a pretty much absent father! ultimately yes it is his loss.....the young years that he has already lost with them and the years still to come - he can never get back!! when i'm old and grey (well greyer than i am now lol ) I will have all these absolutely wonderful and priceless memories of my children growing up......what will he have???

Maz, Is a BT.Line? if so why not get your children to call him ( Reverse Charge ) then meybe he will find it cheaper to call them as promised. Hal.

Maz Hiya hun know how hard it is .... Eldest hasn't been down to see her Nan for 6 wks and thru the grapevine( won't call me and moan) I'm getting told that he's got the hump. She doesn't actually go to his, she goes toher Nans, as i wouldn't trust him to look after a goldfish let alone a child of mine. Well he could call her, come and see her, or even call her and arrange to meet her away if he really can't come here. But he won't. Wouldn't mind so much but in the past when she went down every weekend and during the week before she started full time school, he wouldn't even bother to stay in and see her. He was still living at home then. Even nowadays if she goes down he will visit his Mums to see her but only if he hasnt got a party or something equally important to go to. Eldest is coming up to 15 and won't say anything against him. However, I've had enough of biting my tongue and she is no doubt as to my feelings for him!!!!

making me feel guilty as I only uususally phone my mum once a week. Always phone on a Sunday as she has often said that is her worst day. She lives alone and very rarely goes out but at least she can go to the shops during the week if she feels the need to go out. But on the other hand she never phones me unless it is urgent as she is very economical with her bills.

Hi Cuz - it's a shame when 'life' gets in the way isn't it? I hope mine don't turn out like their dad and that they make time for family when they grow up. Maz. XX

Hi Sheesh - doesn't sound like you have much to be guilty for - they have good relationships with both parents and can surely see that you are happier apart than together. Your situation (re your kids lol) would be my ideal! Maz. XX

Maz, When they get to be fully consenting adults it gets even worse. My eldest lives 30 miles away, has driven a lorry all the way to Greece, Spain, Germany etc etc. but for some reason he is not able to negotiate the A12 !!!! The worse thing is when I do see him he says...'Be over to see you next week Ma'.....Only thing is he does not tell me which year. Kathlyn

The dad of my eldest 3 lives in the same town and has allowed his wife to destroy each relationship in turn with his kids, TThey dont want to know him and he deserves it,but it has damaged them Caz x

Hi Maz i guess my kids have been lucky, they see their dad every weekend and he keeps in touch all the time. I felt guilty at splitting them up but its turned out ok.

I hate to see the kids upset and missing him like they do Joy :-( it's just not fair on them. When they are with him for the weekend I ring every day - no matter what I'm doing - I know men are different, but it's still not fair! Maz. XX

lol Jackie!! woohoooo there is hope!!! my ex dont even take the kids on holiday anywhere!! he has been to florida the last two years and didnt take them....they pulled him up on that one!!! he has promised them he is taking them camping at the beginning of may so watch this space!!! lol I need to go out now but I will check this thread out again later on to see what other comments have been made.. bye for now xxx

men dont have the same feeling as a woman let him get on with it its his loss not yours

Thanks Jackie - I do hold onto that hope! I hate to say it, but I actually feel sorry for him - he's missing out on so much and it's so unnecessary. He could easily get a job and a flat/house here IF HE PUT HIMSELF OUT a bit. But he won't, and he is missing out as much as the kids are. Maz. XX