General Chat

Joy, You seem to have missed the point - I'm talking about people posting aggressive and abusive posts - that's not being ok with anyone, surely? Gwynne

well i just answer to whoever,and if there ok with me im cool with them. also im not up for checking peeps out.im no detective.and could,nt be bothered.theres more to life than examining everyones name.and im not that pc literate. xxxxjoy

If someone posts an aggressive or abusive thread it does cross my mind that they may be out to cause trouble - I think that quite natural in view of what has gone on in the past. It's not as though it hasn't happened before. It isn't that long ago that I found that someone I was talking to on the boards wasn't the newbie who they seemed but was someone else. I dislike deceit - I can't see that I'm wrong for doing so. It's only experience on here that has made me suspicious - I didn't used to be. Gwynne

im still strugling to understand,lol.when im talking to someone on the boards,the last thing in my mind is a]are they imposters b]whats there number struth i could,nt tell ya what my number is. im not unhappy with the changes as i dont think they affect me.xxx

all my previous messages have been deleted by genes. Even if I click on the messages part there are none there. I have deleted al of my contacts to start afresh and already I have 3 in my contacts!!!!!!

Thanks for the replies. I still think GR have made a mistake doing this. When looking to help out on tips and records we are more likely to be patient with someone who we can see has just joined, than with someone who has been on here for years and knows he/she is asking people to spend money/credits on a search for them. I don't have a problem with people knowing when I joined or how many are on my (small) tree on here. I always explain to new contacts that I keep my data in FTM anyway. There have been times when a 'newly joined' member turned out not to be a new and genuine member but has caused an almighty row on the gen board then deleted themselves and disappeared. Most websites indicate newly joined members in some way - why should GR be any different? There have been problems with 'name collecters' here as well. If you can see that someone only has a few people on his/her tree and doesn't offer to exchange information in another way then you are forewarned to the possibility that they don't want to share but to take. Gwynne (still a bit grumpy)

i think what kays said makes sense,also any newbies can join and not feel like there being interigated.think we have to move with the times.x

I agree Gwynne,I dont understand their reasons.

LLC to see previous messages you can do that in the my contacts part Julie

lol and furthremore I have lost all my past messages anyway If I click on my regular contacts all their previous messages have gone. The only messages I have are those that have arrived after the new systen was up and running........

Gillian It is confusing, in my contacts i have me and dob in the relation part, she has me and dob in the relation part but i have her name and no dob I need to lay down lol Julie OK seems like who ever makes the first contact then. This lady contact me so my name goes in both relation box

Hi Guinevere.. Am totally fed up with GR.. have sent numerous messages about contacts which keep restoring themselves onto my list...another 20 this morning.. I keep deleting them .. Surely because of all the gremlins in it, someone must be working on it to get it sorted? Or am I living in a dream world? *dream on Anne *

Hi Gillian I added to your thread last night as i have the same thing. I got in touch with the person to ask if they could see my name too she told me yes. I think it's when you don't have your real name in your title. IE Julie Rasta Queen of Jamaica they get Julie_____ & dob in the bit that say relation in your contacts

Thanks Budgie Rustler didn't think it would be such high numbe now. Used to be a 5 figure number starting with 3 LOL Daphne

Yes but why under elation doesn't it always come up? It is maiden name and date of birth too, great for identity theft! I don't mind the name but linking them together! Ann Glos

I also have not had any new contacts since the new system and keep deleteing old contacts only to find they have reappeared.

I think they have done it to stop the newbies and new oldies rejoined rows. and the suspicion which comes with it However when member x decides to cause trouble we wont have any idea who they once was, if indeed they were someone who used to post under a differing identity One way of keeping track (of those you dont feel comfortable with) is to copy a post or thread onto email, send it to yourself and if you click on the names, the current identity will come up or even go into old threads on Gr and click to see any name change Elaine x

I have always felt that a members joining date should be a private Data between GR and the member,and total tree numbers are the members own private information,I dont know others views? Belonging to other sites this is the only one that displays this information, But perhaps the changes will give GR better hidden control over the whole site,?

Gwynne, When doing a name search such as tree matches, it does still show if you have had contact with the person as I checked this yesterday. I have sent a message to GR about the date of membership and number in tree though as this was a safety thing when checking contributions to contentious or antagonising threads. I know as someone said you can still work it out by a membership number but you would need to know what the current number is to get an idea. Jacky:-) PS Unlike you to be grumpy in the morning!

I agree entirely. There are / were some threads on tips with similar points, addressed to the Genes team. I can only find one now. Also, Meercat posted a thread yesterday evening saying she could see people's surnames. I wish that GR would post a 'sticky' at the top of each board explaining the changes being made before they happen.