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My daughter in law started to bleed at 11 weeks, and she was scanned and told the baby had absorbed and there was no need to do anything else.....I did not understand this, she was definitely pregnant......she since went on to have two lovely daughters and is now pregnant again.....but what did they mean by absorbed.?

Jenny - l am so sorry, the poor girl. l must admit it did'nt seem right at all that the doctor sent her home like that. Hope she recovers soon bless her. Take care and keep your chins up all of you. Hugs to all. jude sarf wales xx

Hi Sally, sorry to hear that. The only thing I can think of is, although your DIL was 11 weeks, the baby or should I say Foetus? Probably died in its very early weeks and had not grown to its 11 weeks stage. A foetus if fully formed at 12 weeks, but a couple of my miscarriages at 12 weeks, were not 'fully formed' I would imagine a lot of women have a miscarriage, and they didnt even know they were pregnant. Going to change this thread title to ' Very sensitive thread. Jenny. x

Thanks Mommylonglegs for the explanation.....I had not heard it described like this before......it was very sad being their first, but they have two healthy girls now and another baby on the way, so we are really happy.......sorry to hear about your family member though.... I thought I had replied to this thread earlier, but I can't find it.....going a bit potty maybe....

Jenny Im so sorry for her. I know how she is feeling. As for the lack of suuport from the doctor, I had the same. My second pregnancy ended in a very early misscarriage (5 weeks), My next pregnancy ended at 14 weeks when I was told my baby had died at about 8-10 weeks, I had had no signs. I had a d and c 2 days later. When I fell pregnant again, I was obviously very scared. I started bleeding at 6 weeks and was getting a lot of pain. The bleeding stopped and I was kept in hospital for a few days. I was given a blood test and then a few days later was tested again, They were looking for my hormone levels. I was told that as the hormone level had gone down, My baby was 'probably dying', Thats the exact words the doctor used! I went mental! The doctor was completely unsympathetic. However my baby fought and is now a healthy 8 year old! Pat x

Jenny that is so sad, poor girl. and there is nothing really you can say to ease her pain. I am amazed at the lack of sensitivity shown by the doctor. But I really shouldn't be, most of them are not noted for their bedside manners. Bless her I hope all goes well for her. Deanna X

Hope everything is ok with her. I don't think it would be wise to go abroad though...........

So sorry to hear the sad news Jenny.I hope your daughter's step-daughter is recovering now and everything will be okay for her in the future. Mau xx

Jenny so sorry to hear this news, I can understand how sad this poor girl is feeling. How I wish she had received better care and support through this ordeal.Will be thinking of her. Liz x

Hi Jenny, So sorry to hear this. I have had several miscarriages and the only time the DRs intervened is when there was signs that the baby was still inside. When scans showed clear after a mascarriage they usually don't do anything. (not much to do sorry :( ) Can I ask if she has been tested for polycystic ovaries. That is what i suffer from, I too have a period here and there and it is the cause of the miscarriages. With polycystic ovaries the cysts make it hard for the ovaries to secrete or absorb hormones (to varying degrees). Love to you and your family, Louisa