General Chat

Last one last night? What did you think? :-D

Well..................I think a 6 year old would only have used the words she did to her Dad because of the influence of other adults in her life at the time.

I hope they have a very happy future together despite the long time they missed out on each other.

I got really cross with the way the mother was forced to give up her son because she and her mother appeared to be frightened of her father.

I wonder if he would have reacted as badly as they thought he would.

My husband was alternately angry at the way the parents behaved and sobbing at the reunions................he can't get his head around any parent being so cruel as to force their daughter to give up her baby.

I wonder how many of the youngsters today will be desperately searching for their absent fathers in years to come :-(

Aaaah Kitty himself and I both commented that a six year old would not have come up with that phrase on their own.

I didn't really engage with last night's stories.

Well Kitty

When the Mum who had to give up her baby was telling her story,and she shown the photo of her parents, her dad look a right bruiser didnt he?

I said to Itsmytelly when the girl was speaking about her dad, " do you reckon her mother told her to say that " he repiled " course she did" ..... I too snorted at the dads tears and Itsmytelly reckoned they were tears of shame ! No dramatic Davina or Nicky at that reunion did you notice? One of us could of tracked him down.

You're right Hayley.............I don't know if even I would be brave enough to face up to him ;-)

I am glad Kitty that your OH is not the only one who likes a blub. This programme has got me going every single week.

You can imagine what Donna's dad was like in his younger days. He must have put her mum through hell and Donna has probably become the lovely person she was because of her mother. But there was a strong bond there with dad, and they seemed very comfortable in each others company.

I would not have messed with grandfather of NZ man. He looked like a Sergeant Major to me. And I can well understand daughter did not confide in him. I honestly thought it was normal practice to have babies adopted in those days. Mothers needed to be very nice and unselfish people to give babies up, hoping that babies would have a better life without them being much in their lives as they grew up. :-)

ps :-| :-| :-| Error message constantly this morning. And I am now on the Zaire site of Genes, or Zimbabwe, or somewhere very foreign :-|

The mothers we have seen have almost all been desperate, scared and heartbroken, living from the moment the child was taken from them, with a sense of deep loss and guilt....................they had no other choice. :-( :-(

i can't even begin to imagine the depth of their sadness when their child was taken from them :-( :-(

No matter how their lives go after their reunion, nothing will ever make up for all those lost years they suffered, mostly through no fault of their own..............sad, sad. sad.

Yep Sue I too thought last nights episode was really flat but its got that way I speak Davina's lines with her :-D

Kitty I said last week that I thought most birth mothers are seeking forgivness which is a shame because as we have seen in previous episodes some really tried to keep their babies but without no support it must of been so hard. :-(

I speak her lines with her too Hayley..................my husband glares at me when I say, *we have found your......* :-D

Last night we heard how the adoptive father's face fell when he gave the son the letter from his mother, which prompted the son to say he was very happy as he was.

I suppose that even though the adoption is all legal and above board the fact that the child's birth mother could one day come forward must be in the back of the adoptive parents' minds.

I have a very good friend and her older half sister was adopted at birth, some years later the my friends mum found daughter but the ripples it caused through the family are often untold. Firstly my friends dad wasnt happy that his wife was searching and declared it was nothing to do with him tired to get my friend on board she was torn. Also the half sisters adopted Mother didnt take to kindly neither they were out for a meal and the adopted mother stormed in to the place shouting the odds that she had brought *** up and that my friends mother had choosen to give her up. She was her daughter not hers.

Another family friend, searched and traced her own half sister, the half sister knew nothing of her extended family and thought her real father had died when she was a baby as this is what she had been told. This wasnt the case, although all the siblings got on rather well the half sisters siblings whom she was brough up with also didnt take the news well, they felt pushed out my good friends mother didnt take it well either. There are 2 sides to every story and I often feel on LLF that it gives people false hope and its not all going to be hugs and teary reunions. It appears so false.

I don't think people always realise how very different adoption was years ago, and also how much hold parents had over their daughters.
I have mentioned before my half brother - my mother was allowed to take him home to her parents on condition that she worked to support him, he was put into a nursery while she worked, and she too total care of him.
When she went to collect him after work one day he was gone, her parents had arranged his adoption.
That just couldn't happen now. That was also earlier than the case last night but things were still very different even then.

She did get him back eventually :-)

Awww Lyndi your poor Mum <3

Hope they have another series. I suppose Davina and Nicky have been good enough to retain. I like the format of having 2 stories per programme. I only noticed one major change in the last programme - only one recent photo instead of customary four.

I wondered if some of the Genes staff could be involved more, as it is sponsored by them. One or two would look very good in front of camera and seem very nice (yes, they have given me loads of warnings :-( :-() But I speak as I find, and they could be TV stars on the sidelines.

I also thought today that Emma Forbes would be very good. She is an excellent and sympathetic presenter who is not all gushy and girly.

I Also said to my hubby,"thats not the sort of thing a six yr old would say" even today you wouldnt have a six yr old say something like that.

it makes my heart bleed to see these woman still in so much pain 50 and 60yrs later,how terrible it must have been to be forced to give up your baby. :-(

Found last night's episode interesting for two reasons.
The father/daughter part was partly filmed, where I live for some years - Dovercourt, Essex.
The other reason, I worked in the same holiday camp in Dovercourt, as the father, back in 78 and 79.

Liz

I'm another who thought that a six year old wouldn't have quite said that remark. Think the father is very lucky his daughter has forgiven him, he must have put her mother through it musn't he? with his many affairs.

.... did you know him then Liz?

The mother who 'lost her son' looked genuinely relieved to see her son again and she looked so happy!

Suzanne they say if told to say it ..... hashtag..just saying :-D

Liz yes I s'pose that would of an interest if you know the area and more so if you worked in the same camp now that is interesting :-D

edit : evening Mau <3

I knew him. Although only through work. And the odd time in the bar, after work, along with other people. He was at the time,quite a character.
Liz

Evening Hayley my luv <3 :-D

Bet he was a bit of a charmer Liz?

I bet he was :-D he admitted he was a ladies man and it was his decision to leave the family however it very sounds to me like it was the mothers decision to use her daughter as a weapon ....I find that vile actually :-D