General Chat

Women are probably much better than us men on the computer seeing as most of them are on the blinking thing most of the day, you only have to look on here to see how many women are on all day ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-) ;-)

Us men have other things to do than while away the day chatting on computers :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

George :-) :-)

Well I think the thread deviated a bit cos we seem to have OH who leave us to do the technical bits and either dont want to or cant be trusted to do the PC and other devices ,unless its being in charge of the remote !!lol

My OH too doesnt know how to text or even delete texts from his mobile .

We have done wills though and updated them a few years ago to take into account the current family at that time which is still current.

The thing is we let them think they are charge and think the good idea was theirs in the first place. Its all the female wiles but dont tell em !! :-D

Power of attorney is much more expensive to do now too. we keep putting that off. We do both have wills and also knowledge of each others banking arrangements, although we have a main joint account we both have our own accounts and own ISAs as well.

I think thats what is called being PC. :-D. Re power of Attorney,Its a good Idea,However,ensure you have a built in safeguard,People have been ripped off before now by not doing so.(Including Family) As I know from what my Sister did to our Mother.**M**. :-S

Both us know all about our finances and as to wills they were updated. People sometimes forget to do this and circumstances do change. I would be worried about the no will. Does he even realise what hassle this will cause? Power of Attorney should also be considered when updating/making will.

How this thread has wandered from allowing OHs on Pcs!

My o.h. is fairly self sufficient altho got out of the habit of cooking for himself since I moved in, he would not go hungry if I wasn't here but wouldn't eat properly for his diabetes problems etc He manages his own finances and I do mine, but I often have to jog his memory about things, such as what is this cheque I have written out for x amount so I look and figure out it's the window cleaner or dentist etc

What gets me tho is that many of you say you or your o.h. can't do certain things, it's worrying that they or you might be in a real muddle with joint finances and coping day to day if/when (it's sadly inevitable as we age) one of you is left to cope alone. I don't mean things like using the computer, there are people you can get in if no family to help, but paying bills and doing other stuff is essential and could leave someone in a real muddle if they can't access the bank accounts or whatever.

My son has all the details needed to access my stuff so I know he would be able to deal with everything necessary, but o.h. hasn't given his sons or me his passwords etc so things would be difficult to say the least. Can't even get him to make a will, keeps saying he will but not getting round to it.

Lizx

Mine has some saving grace then as he can cook and will look after himself very well when i am not around . ie off to do my searches . Only thing is though he doesnt see runs down the cupboard fronts etc and sys i am moaning when i comment on the state of the kitchen . I have often said he wil be well fed but living in grot if i go before him .

Have sent out SOS to all those who get jam from us and forget to return the jars! Nev er mind Ann - I spotted on freecycle few weeks ago a load of jars going locally - I asked and himself said no I have plenty!!!!

Ooh, threw out loads of jars a couple of weeks back could have got them to you.

Well Oh has been making jam this afternoon - we need room in freezer - only about another 8-10lbs to go but need jam jars urgently!!!!!

Mine was thrown in deep end and fouund he had to cook, clean and look after me! He has done very well and found he is enjoying cooking. I try to help by making up weekly menus in advance/stocktaking on larder etc and ordering up big shops on line!

Isn't it frightening to wonder how they will manage should you no longer be here. Fortunately mine is more pc literate than I am but I get on OK. He does fly his aeroplane a lot Chris and it keeps him out of mischief.

However he doesn't cook so you can't have everything.

Snap Wisechild - aren't we lucky we have such OH's with wonderful ideas????

I used to tell my teenage dau when she began to notice - just watch and listen - one day it will be useful to you!

Very true Chris.
Mine will go along with almost anything as long as he thinks it was his idea in the first place.
God forbid I should ever have a good idea.

However there is the plus side to an OH like these - they never realise when they are being manipulated.

That´s what worries me Merlin.
The habit of being a slave creeps up without you realising it.
By the time you do, the precedent has been set

Seems like some of your OHs.have got you Well Trained. :-D :-D :-D :-D

Piglets somethings do sound familiar - it was not until after he retired that he advanced to using an ATM - prior to this he used to ask will you get me some money.

Losing my temper for the umpteenth time I demanded to know his National Service No - he denied he remembered it - I called his bluff - he now uses that as his PIN.

Oh and OH does not even know the PIN number for his card.

I have to remember 3 PIN numbers, used to be more prior to mum passing away.

If he wants to use is card (why bother learning when he has me!) he will write number on his arm, under shirt cuff. As by the time he gets anywhere he will have forgotten the number and then will lose the card in the machine.

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Mine is fond of telling all and sundry 'I am not allowed on the computer' - I challenge him to give the reason why - when I do he doesn't not even have the grace to look sheepish!

Shirley.
Know exactly what you mean. My OH is like my older daughter......if he doesn´t grasp it within 5 minutes it´s stupid & he doesn´t need to know.
What´s the Spanish for Victor Meldrew???
We,ve only been married for just under 3 years. It´s been an eye opener, but like you, I wouldn´t change him (well not often anyway)