General Chat

I´m tempted to teach my technophobe other half how to boot up the PC, access the mailbox & send & recieve e mails, but have a nasty feeling it would be like teaching a partner to drive.
Having realised that he hasn´t yet mastered the art of sending texts from his mobile, can´t help feeling it would end in divorce, especially as he is the original "Mr Right".
What do you think???

WHOO NO, Wisechild. Please, in this instance, remain the Wisechild.
Wouldn't let my OH near mine, and he is also a Mr. Right.

Julia in Derbyshire

Problem is, he always NEEDS to send an e mail just as I´m about to go out,so I have to boot the PC up, access the mailbox, put the address in & move the curser to where it needs to be for him to start typing, then wait until he´s finished & send the dratted thing for him.
Fortunately he doesn´t feel the need to use the PC for anything else. he gets me to do look ups for him (& believe me, I´m no computer buff).

Sixteen years ago (may I never forget it) OH upon retirement received many gifts - one of which was flying an aeroplane on PC. I bought him the joy stick and son loaded it for him.

He crashed the PC completely after an hour - so bad that son worked on it every spare moment after work for 3 weeks.

He has NEVER been allowed near a PC of mine since. He bought a laptop 7 years ago and has used it about 3 times.

Much easier wisechild to let the present situation be. Well before going out ask him does he need any emails. If he replies in the negative and then asks as you are going out - reply 'Tuf, I asked you, now you will have to wait until I come back'.

What you will find should he become fully conversant with PC usage is that you will lose your sole rights to the computer and suddenly you will know nothing about PC's.

My OH does not drive, yet funnily enough he knows far more than me, the driver of over 30 years.

Initially I was going to say that your OH could learn how to play Solitaire before launching into emails, as a gentle learning curve.

I then read PigletsPal and realised that you would lose your sole rights to the computer so that would be worse than typing out extra emails.

I think I would go with the status quo.-jl

I know full well that if I show him how to use it he will either
a/ Ruin it beyond redemption or
b/ take it over completely & I´ll never get a look in, like the TV I bought & never get chance to watch because he considers the remote his personal property.
I think, in view of the fact that he has never really mastered his mobile phone & can´t send texts, has no idea how to set the washing machine going or light the oven (being Spanish when he cooks, he fries everything & considers the oven one of life´s little mysteries), I´ll put up with the inconvenience of doing it all for him.
After all, they say you can´t teach an old dog new tricks, especially when he knew better than you in the first place.
Thanks all for the input.

i have to do all the household "chores" for him online. look at his bank account ,pay his credit card ,submit meter readings etc etc. Hate to think how he would get on if i wasnt able to do his accounts for him.

Have tried to show him but his eyes glaze over ,just like when i enthusing about another ancestor find even if its his family tree . :-|

Even tho he is a bit of a Victor!! he is still my Mr Right .& we married now for 54 years :-D

Shirley.
Know exactly what you mean. My OH is like my older daughter......if he doesn´t grasp it within 5 minutes it´s stupid & he doesn´t need to know.
What´s the Spanish for Victor Meldrew???
We,ve only been married for just under 3 years. It´s been an eye opener, but like you, I wouldn´t change him (well not often anyway)

Mine is fond of telling all and sundry 'I am not allowed on the computer' - I challenge him to give the reason why - when I do he doesn't not even have the grace to look sheepish!

Oh and OH does not even know the PIN number for his card.

I have to remember 3 PIN numbers, used to be more prior to mum passing away.

If he wants to use is card (why bother learning when he has me!) he will write number on his arm, under shirt cuff. As by the time he gets anywhere he will have forgotten the number and then will lose the card in the machine.

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Piglets somethings do sound familiar - it was not until after he retired that he advanced to using an ATM - prior to this he used to ask will you get me some money.

Losing my temper for the umpteenth time I demanded to know his National Service No - he denied he remembered it - I called his bluff - he now uses that as his PIN.

Seems like some of your OHs.have got you Well Trained. :-D :-D :-D :-D

That´s what worries me Merlin.
The habit of being a slave creeps up without you realising it.
By the time you do, the precedent has been set

However there is the plus side to an OH like these - they never realise when they are being manipulated.

Very true Chris.
Mine will go along with almost anything as long as he thinks it was his idea in the first place.
God forbid I should ever have a good idea.

Snap Wisechild - aren't we lucky we have such OH's with wonderful ideas????

I used to tell my teenage dau when she began to notice - just watch and listen - one day it will be useful to you!

Isn't it frightening to wonder how they will manage should you no longer be here. Fortunately mine is more pc literate than I am but I get on OK. He does fly his aeroplane a lot Chris and it keeps him out of mischief.

However he doesn't cook so you can't have everything.

Well Oh has been making jam this afternoon - we need room in freezer - only about another 8-10lbs to go but need jam jars urgently!!!!!

Mine was thrown in deep end and fouund he had to cook, clean and look after me! He has done very well and found he is enjoying cooking. I try to help by making up weekly menus in advance/stocktaking on larder etc and ordering up big shops on line!

Ooh, threw out loads of jars a couple of weeks back could have got them to you.