General Chat

Haven't read all the thread yet..but my opinion, for what it's worth, is that the step MIL has come across as a thoroughly nasty piece of work.

I'd have set my Mum on her......... then god help her...my Mum scares me when she's *off on one* :-D :-D :-D :-D

Is there a name for the mother or father of a son-in-law or daughter-in-law?

Whatever the issues - Freddie needs to sort it out BEFORE the wedding :-)

Sounds to me more that the young man's stepmother is the one with issues. Resenting the visit to her home by her stepson and fiancee in the first place.

If you have horses you have to get up early to care for them - does not mean that everyone else is supposed to get up too.

I feel sad for the young couple - all the guests will be busy at some stage tittle tattling and watching for action!!!!!

he did Linda ." no comment" :-D

I notice that husband number 3 has not said anything.

Sounds like the basis of a reasonably good sitcom.

Frank re the wedding costs. I believe the young couple are paying for themselves (as we did when my parents couldn't afford to pay). And the reason the bride's parents can't pay is that they have both just been made redundant.

Merlin you are welcome to stay in my home at any time you appear to be very housetrained ;-)

Frank having had a good think about this, you are right neither party is right for either reason, however if nothing it has been excellent publicity for both the step son and the step mother in law :-D

Unfortunately there appear to be faults on both sides but at least the D-I-L is young and has time on her side to learn.

On the other hand the M-I-L should have known better than to use e-mail to convey her worries as an informal chat about her dietary preferences would probably have been much easier on everyone.
The other niceties can be picked up as you go along

I do however agree with the point about the wedding costs as generally the brides parents cover this unless an arrangement can be made between both parties.
This should of course be kept in mind when deciding on the venue with all the relevant extras.

You cannot please all of the people all of the time since as well as paying for my daughter's wedding, I was very happy to pay for 16 out of 86 guests to stay the night at the wedding hotel.
One of those guests was a quite well bred person of the "Hyacinth Bucket-Bouquet" mould who enjoyed the celebration and overnight stay along with lunch thrown in the following day.
Another lovely young couple of the more "normal" mould also shared in this and you could feel "the love" between these two very different guests. ;-) :-D

All went well and a couple of days later, we received several thank you cards from those guests who had stayed overnight and even flowers from our young couple.

From Hyacinth, not a word which left me feeling rather let down :-S :-(

Things not to do,1.Do,nt use dispay Napkins at table (Only the Cheap Paper ones) 2.under no circumstances sit on the display Cushions.3 That applies to towels etc in bath or shower room also to posh shower gel and soaps. use your own.and clean up as you go. ( Thats in Hayleys Abode ) :-S. as for the other points.1the letter/text /Email should never have been sent,or distributed worldwide let alone to the press,(It should have been sorted in private.)The remarks from both parties and their families did not help matters.(The press had and are still having a field day) Now running for cover from Hayley as she will no doubt clobber me with one of her(Display) pickaxe handles.**M**.PMSL. :-D ;-) :-S

hahaha i too would uninvite her the wedding lol x

Maybe thats the whole idea Rose, she has only been married her self in this great ***** family for 8 years herself... and to distance herself and her OH from his family.. :-(

Maybe thats the whole idea Rose, she has only been married her self in this great ***** family for 8 years herself... and to distance herself and her OH from his family.. :-(

Wrt the early rising it could be that Heidi rose at 11am or at 8am when the family usually gets up at 7am. She has diabetes so maybe she has to control it through her diet, equally if dinner was served later than she was informed maybe she started to avoid going into hypoglycaemic shock, we don't know anything other than what is in the paper.

However, it's obvious that the SMIL has no class because anyone with would never comment on their guest's behaviour ;-)

Thanks for posting Hayley. Wondered what all the fuss was about, just cought the end of it on TV.

best bit is,,,the girls family has a little pedigree,,,,,,,,

IMO, she is an utterly dreadful snob of a woman, and incredibly rude.

Being a good host, means you should make your guests feel *comfortable and at home*, in your home.

As regards Heidi declaring what she will or won't eat.........I read that Heidi is diabetic, which if true?? (you can't always believe everything you read in the papers lol), then she is quite right to say what she can or can't eat.

Jeez, I thought my mil was a snob, but she had nothing on this woman! lol

Mary

Would that be The Bourne Ultimatum then? ;-).......and surely she should have sent a hand writen card! :-P

Appalling woman lol...not just for the comments , this one particularly incensed me ("....cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.) "...

But mainly because she is a fool ( and i am especially intolerant of dictatorial, arrogant fools :))

No one with an ounce of sense ( let alone good manners) would have sent an email like that to a potential DIL, even if they'd thought it...surest way to push the couple together...surest way to push them away from contact with her in the future.