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Following on (at a tangent lol) from 'feminist'

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Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 16 Jun 2011 20:28

My parents were never that subtle. He'd get told to sling his hook and I'd get dragged in and told to behave myself.....

I used to make sure we said *goodnight* elsewhere lolololol x

TeresaW

TeresaW Report 16 Jun 2011 20:43

I think a lot of it boils down to parenting. As Muffy already demonstrated, parents swearing and behaving aggressively in front of their children are already on a slippery slope. Those kids, and probably their parents too, have not been taught respect.

When I was at school, if I got a detention for doing something wrong, I'd get grounded at home too! I was brought up to face the consequences of my actions.
These days if a school takes any form of discipline, that action also includes by default, appeasing angry parents whose 'little angel' would never do such a thing.

I never had any illusions about my children. If they were accused of fighting in the playground, they probably were, (only happened once BTW), and I would deal with it WITH the school, rather than go in all guns blazing, threaten them with all sorts then take the kids to McD's.

What worries me these days is there isn't a shortage of mindless chavs to appear on the likes of Jeremy Kyle.... :-0

TeresaW

TeresaW Report 16 Jun 2011 20:45

Oh and I don't think the way girls behave on a Friday night has anything to do with equality, it's just the availability of cheap booze. Stop the supermarkets selling it so cheap and half the problem is solved IMO. :-D

Kay????

Kay???? Report 16 Jun 2011 21:27


They dont get drunk in pubs and clubs now as the night goes on,their off their faces or as near when they hit the town.......

Same here Muffers.............A look out the curtain was all it took,,,,,me bemoaning and get told..........you forget young lady!!! I have been a young man and take it from me I know a little better than you at this time,,,,,,,,hard to imagine he ever was a stud once...... :-D :-D :-D

Suzanne

Suzanne Report 16 Jun 2011 21:48

to add to your thread(i hope i dont kill it lol)
last year i was talking to a woman that i know in the village,and she started telling me what she said was a "funny story "about her granddaughter age just 2.she was looking after the little girl and after telling the childseveral times to tidy up her toys,the child turned round and told her to f--- off,she thought it was the funniest thing ever(i didnt laugh)what hope have todays generation got if a grandmother thinks thats funny?.
and a few yrs ago i was on a placement in a local barnardos creche(the children where in the creche while the parents where next door attending parenting classes(and they were not all young p,arents)the children age between 18m ans three and a half were all in nappies except one,and not one child could string a sentence together,but several could tell you to f--- off or p--- off. its about parenting and its not all about young parents,lots of young parents bring up lovely polite kids.what hope have our next generation got.x

Silly Sausage

Silly Sausage Report 16 Jun 2011 22:20

I think they should just pass a law that bans women from drinking full stop....

** looks over shoulder for BC and Muffy ** <3 <3 <3 :-D

Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 16 Jun 2011 22:21

I had a similar experience with one of my second cousins...they found their daughter's foul language aged 2 hysterical...I was disgusted..and still am when I hear such language coming from tiny mouths..which is why I am sooooo against people swearing around children.

As people who have met me will attest...I swear like a trooper in an adult environment........but i wouldn't DREAM of doing it in front of my children or anyone elses and I get jolly bleedy cross if anyone does x

Muffyxx

Muffyxx Report 16 Jun 2011 22:22

*slaps Hayley* :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

Not a drop passes my lips...how very dare you !!!!!!!!!! :-S

Suzanne

Suzanne Report 16 Jun 2011 22:29

thank god i didnt kill the thread lol.thanks muffy you saved me once again.x : :

TeresaW

TeresaW Report 16 Jun 2011 23:05

I have to confess, I did have to giggle when my daughter, then age 6, used the f word. She'd come home upset because the bigger girls had cornered her in the loos, and were calling her names. I asked what they called her, and she said, straight faced with a sniff 'one of them called me a f***off!'
Bless her she'd never heard the word before so didn't know what it meant, she thought it was a name. I had to explain it wasn't a nice word and she's not to use it again, and she didn't...well, not until she was in her teens having a fight with her brother and thought I was out of earshot lol. :-S

Silly Sausage

Silly Sausage Report 16 Jun 2011 23:10

see...... Muffy violent.... :-P

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 16 Jun 2011 23:46

Have to admit to never swearing in font of my children when they were young- but when the eldest was in her teens and 'let slip' a swearword at me, I let the lot out! She was so shocked that I knew these words, that she didn't swear in front of me for a good 3 years! she was quite impressed that a 'fogey could swear - and knew more than she did! LOL
I then explained the simple truth: you don't have to be old to teach history, nor French to teach french, likewise you don;t have to swear to know swearwords!!
Her eldest (aged 9) hears swear words at school, but is told not to use them at home/in front of her younger brothers.
The 'raciest' joke she has told me is:
'Knock Knock'
Who's there
Europe
Europe Who?
No, you are!

When I was a Learning Support assistant at a school, 20 odd years ago,
we had some very badly behaved/brought up twins (mind you, with parents like they had, they didn't have a hope in hell|), who overstepped the mark on many an occasion.
One day I had to take them (aged 9) out of the classroom and teach/control them in a room on their own.
One of them said 'I don't want to go in that f***** room (normal language for them)
Without thinking, I replied you will go in that f**** room,at which point he accused me of swearing. I pointed out that I had merely repeated what he had said, and that he had used the word so often I understood that it was normal for him, and judging from his previous disgusting language, (the reason they'd been excluded from class) one of the few words in the English language that had any meaning for both of them.
I went on: If it wasn't a'normal' word forthem, (it was - and they obviously realised it's effect) and he called it a swearword, they were quite capable of NOT using it - in which case, next time either of them used it I would be down on him like a ton of bricks!
They realised they had been hung by their own petard - and behaved impeccably for me after that!!!

maggiewinchester

maggiewinchester Report 17 Jun 2011 00:05

I think a lot of the problems stem from no self respect.
Advertisements extolling this expensive item, or that 'perfect' beauty treatment. Governments referring to those of us who earn less than the national average as 'the poor' - like not earning buckets makes you an alien species all adds to a feeling that you are stuck and 'less worthy' than others.
The asumption by those in power that everyone has an i pod, flat screen tv, computer etc - even the jobless are meant to look online for jobs - how the hell are they expected to afford broadband on £67 a week?
It all enhances the feeling of 'otherness'.

Education doesn't help - they're all meant to strive to get to University, or at least 5 grade 'A's There are other things in life that are no longer taught, empathy, morals - and self respectin your own ability - which may be manual, not academic.
If you're not academic, secondary school must be 5 years of hell - 5 years of your inadequacy being drummed into you - and then you're not even allowed to even attempt to takeGCSE's, as you'll lower the school's grade in the league tables.

No wonder the youth, and those in their 20's are so loud and boorish, they've had years of being told they're worthless- you then feel you have to shout to let others know you exist - and have babies to show you can do something. .......and so the cycle continues......

Madmeg

Madmeg Report 17 Jun 2011 00:58

My mum would twitch the curtain first, then open the front door and peer out as if she was looking for somebody, i.e. me.

Strange thing is, she wanted to me to marry them all, irrespective of their suitability.

The one she wasn't fussed about, I married, and am still married to him 39 years on.

When we went back to his house after a date, his mum used to bang on the bedroom floor with a stick. That was a sign to say $u%%er O&&. Oh, sorry, I will be reported for that.