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aw he probably thinks hes doing his cuz, a favour geting the big tattoo then, hes obv still grieving badly, give him time hun he may relaie imself its abig thing to do xxx

We all handle grief in different ways, whatever the outcome I hope he finds peace of mind soon.

Stray i do know where you are coming from.I have a tattoo.I have also lost a few cousins (come from a big family) one cousin was only 7.My last one was 26. Before his cousin died his side of the family had had a row and they were not talking.I think he thinks its going to make everything right? Annie

Tell him you think its a wonderful tribute,but a design with the name would look great, designs and names look better on the upperarm,,,,,he may think its a good idea and one he thought of???

Annie,
I would very probably have reacted the same as you.
Giving the baby his middle name is nice though if they were close. As Kitty said leave it a day or 2 and then talk to him.
Its a big shock to lose someone that young who you have grown up with and he will be grieving for a long time yet.
Perhaps you could suggest other ways to remember him by ie, planting a tree or a memorial bench in local park.
At the end of the day its his descision but try not to worry about it, we are all human and sometimes react in a way that with hindsight we might not have done.
Best wishes,
Cath

i got a tattoo, in remembrance of my ex who passed, but its a small tastful rose peircing a heart, above my ankle,


i think a lot of people talk about tatoos without actually geting it dne, he may not go ahead it may just be a thought for now, but to be honest either way its kinda nothing to do with you if he does or doesnt, i to think a tattoo wont help especially one that big but if thats what he wants then he will get it done regardless of what you think hun xxxx

A lot of people have tattoos as a form of remembrance for those who have died.

You can't help your reaction to him telling you though, leave it a day or two and maybe talk about it with him.

xx

Dont mean to interfere. Daughters oh's cousin died in feb aged 20.The family had a party last week to mark the cousins 21st which i think was great. My daughter is 6 months pregnant with a boy.The baby has a extra middle name now as well.I accept that as well. Today daughters other half has come in and said he is going to have a tattoo all down the side of his arm with his cousins full name on. I said "WHAT" He glared at me and walked out.I think he is grieving very bad,but dont think a tattoo will help him. He is only 22 so he grew up with him and its all so raw still. Annie