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Hotchoc - you are living my life lol. In my 40s, with married friends and working on my own.
I do have 2 fab teenagers who can be great company when they are in - I still can't stand their long weekends away with their dad. The boys are even lovely enough to watch chick flicks with me!
Tina x

know what you mean - I'm watching Gavin and Stacey!!! love it

Ann X

Don't worry Ann, we can still have fun. im watching Lee Evans he has cheered me up :) x

funny that - I've been fine for ages and now I too feel sorry for myself!! doesn't happen very often now - once in a blue moon - I've retired and I do miss the fun we used to have in work

i feel sad sometimes that im on my own. When your in your 40s it becomes very difficult. I dont want to do the pubs, my friends are married and i work with women!!
Oh dear i am feeling sorry for myself :( x

I'm very lucky. I not only love my husband I like him too. We really enjoy being with each other. We usually make decisions together, sometimes we compromise and sometimes one of us makes a decision the other doesn't like but it seems to work out in the end.

Having said that - on the odd occasion when we are apart I enjoy the time to myself. Especially now OH has retired I get little time on my own. I know that he enjoys time to himself too.

Sue xx

know what you mean Rita - when my OH died it was if I had died too - friends we had disappeared - only a few true ones stayed and are still there for me but joint friends - gone!!!

I dont know a wife who doesnt moan occasionally about their husband, but most wouldnt change them if given the opportunity, just some of their habits! Hate being away from myOH and wouldnt give you a thank you for the single life.

brilliant poem Rita

Rita, dashing out, but just wanted to say what a great poem! :))

xx

I really miss my OH with regard to decisions and since he's gone I've made some really bad ones

I can see the pros and cons to both side of the argument. There is nothing worse than being trapped in a relationship were it is unequal, controlling or unhappy for one reason or another.

I am fortunate as my OH works away from home alot, so I have the best of both worlds

Rose and all, there's an old saying, Be careful what you wish for......

I just know that I would be happier living alone in most ways, but when I was alone for a long time I thought it would be lovely to have someone special in my life. Trouble is I let myself be fooled into thinking I had found that someone special only to find it all a front and I became trapped in a situation I had never let myself get into before.

When I do manage to extricate myself, will I think differently?

Lizx

You're right Maggie

My very best to you and your sister

Keep smiling, both of you

Things (as the song says) can only get better

Sue x

There's definitely a difference between being alone through divorce and losing a loved one, Sue.
With divorce, you gradually lose them, but they're still around - have to admit to still being friends with my ex, but my sister, who's widowed, loves some aspects of being alone (I'd call it acceptance) but still misses those little things.

Oh yes - the bed! I've been divorced for over 20 years, but still have a double bed - and King sized duvet!
...Just about enough room for me and 3 cats!

Hi Rose

I so much agree with you

Being on your own does have its compensations, I'm sure, but I struggle to find them

I guess it comes down to how much you value that which is no more.

It's a pain having to manage the money myself, make my own way to and from work, make arrangements when the washing machine packs in, but that much I can cope with - and did for years myself anyway

But I miss someone surprising me with a cd he'd know I'd love, or collecting me from work on Friday and taking me off for the weekend somewhere interesting, or filling the house with flowers on a whim, or........


What I find the most difficult is not having someone to say "goodnight, I love you, girl"

Don't take things for granted, folks. You'll never know the day

Sue x

Oh yes, and the big double bed that is all...MINE...lol

xx

I like being single too!
Had two daughter here - well they were young - since then they've occasionally come back. Now both are settled down with partners. Bliss!
My mess
My dirty dishes
Have what I want for dinner - if I don't want to cook, I don't have to cajole someone else into doing it - i just don't cook - beans on toast is sometimes enough
Only have to iron my clothes
Two bedrooms to turn into storage/junk rooms
Less shopping to lug back from the supermarket.
My decisions are mine - if they are wrong - so be it - they only affect me, and I only have myself to answer to!!!

I could go on........

Hi Rose,

just popped in to say i love being single....

two marriages behind me and four children, this is MY time.. and i enjoy it

XXX