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Added twice soz ~ Rose this is a fab thread x

Thank you x like I said the rewards out weigh all else

Thanks Mel, I was just wondering how you coped, as I know you said a while back you had disabled kids, so I assumed one, maybe 2 were your teenage kids............thanks for replying.............sounds like your doing a great job!!!

all the best..

Whirley

Whirley I dont find Mark too much trouble {he's 15} because my Dad and brother are also autistic so I have grown up with it Mark is very similar to Dad so I find some {not all} of the strategies can be used on both as autism is untreatable n incurabe its a case of learning how to manage the condition Mark has never seen his autism as a disability he has talepes so when he thinks disability this is what he sees

I do find my little one hard at times she has complex needs and I some times feel I can do nothing but she is learnin to adapt to her environment and we go wth her needs x

edit soz took a while ~~I was on a different thread

we 've done a lot of that Hayley, the whole world is an 'education' lol... it worries a lot of people that there isn't a 'classroom' atmosphere as such, but I think you learn far more about most things by 'doing' .

Rose I can understand it is more pressurised if you are educating at home. A friend of mine has done the same for her 2 kids, very successfully.

I was asking Mel a genuine question??

yep do you incorperate that into his learning like field study trips...to the musuem and stuff..

Edited....btw I am just asking this out of interest not questioning your ability as a mother or as his teacher.

Can be hard being together Hayley, especially when we are both stubborn lol ... it does curtail what I can do to an extent, but then again I never have to rush back from wherever to collect him from school lol, and if we want to go away for days to places of interest we can.

I must say Rose when I read that your lad was home educated I did think about his social skills and things like team buliding but as you said he gets it in after school activities....and I thought it must be hard being together all the time as well.

They play me like a fiddle Maria.. but what child doesnt..lol

the hardest year of bring up your child is always


****the next next year****

Hayley,

lump in my throat reading what your lad said

Maria xx

After this weekend the only word to describe my tennager is TERRIFIC!

I think it starts way before their teens though.

My baby is 6, and ever since nursery class when we go to parents evening they wish they had a class full of Ellen's. And this year (Reception) she gets an award every week for listening/paying attention/ following instructions or requests at the 1st time of asking.

And me & daddy think - why can't she do that at home? But we'd much rather she be consistently good for her teachers etc and let her hair down with us, than the other way round.

I love all my children the same and treat them all the same..my eldest was my best friend as he went in to the services at 16 he grew up quickly and very mature and we also talked about anything.. after about 10 yrs old he was never a loving lad...they were both the same ..but the day he went away ( to that place I wont say ) and I stood by the coach trying my hardest not to cry, I looked for him and seen him staring at me ....mths later when he came home I asked him what he was thinking he said ..I" wanted to picture you for the last time if I didnt make it home...oh dont start bubbering again Mother " .

When we came back our holiday earlier this mth as soon as I walked in the house my middle one came and hugged me and told me how much he had missed me...I hugged him back and told him I had missed him too...then as he was bounding up the stairs he told me the washing machine was broke..hmmmmm

I guess we are all 'guilty' of that anyway Teresa lol...I know I am more polite and 'nice' when I am out than I am sometimes with those closest to me lol

I find a bit more pressure Whirley, because I home educate, some people are waiting to 'pounce' if he is not 'perfect' lol...and the number of times it has been said 'yes but how will he learn to get on with people if he is not in school? " Well. he does lol .

Rose, they have two personalities I think.

Me With Mum

Me With Everyone else.

Do you find it more difficult Mel because you have disabled children?

I think the rewards out way all else! x