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have now received thank you cards from neices -think someone nudged them to do it -my mother !

I`ve stil had no phone call , letter or text to thank me although will see them on Sunday

Thankyou letters were always something I did as a child and enjoyed writing them.My children always did their thankyou letters too.Sadly my mum and dad ,Aunty,and in laws are no longer here to write letters to.
Thankyou letters are probably done by e mail now.What a pity.

Well I really can't complain. My d-i-l always saw to it that my grandchildren wrote little notes to me when they were small thanking me for birthday presents and christmas presents. She still reminds them but they both at the ages of 15 and 12 still write and say thank you. In fact I visited on Boxing Day and took their presents, they thanked me then and just today I received a small card from each of them thanking me in detail for their gifts and saying how much they were enjoying them. It makes all the difference, just a few lines, but it makes all that hunting around for a suitable nice gift worthwhile.

I'm on me soap box again!!!

I can't believe this.....just received an e.mail from sis in law this morning, telling us what a lovely time they'd had over Chrismtas with my mum in law and other family members etc ,.........no word of a thank you for the presents we sent to her and her hubby!!!!!!! I know the parcels arrived a week ago 'cos Mum in law had told me.

I'm gobsmacked.

K

I think a personal thank you is fine.

I believe a written note or letter is to take the place of a face to face thank you.

Sue

I am much better at Birthday Thank-You's than Christmas, I must admit. I always have my 2 sons (10 & 12) write Thank-yous for their birthday gifts but have only sent out Christmas ones to people we didn't see during the unwrapping process! Should we still send Thank-yous to those people too?
Paula

Guilty !
I haven't written any letters yet, but will do so over the next few days. I have phoned my thanks already.

I'm with Ann in Glos....I don't expect an immediate response, but I usually receve letters within the following two weeks.
I always taught my children to send a note of thanks. When they were very young it was just a hand-drawn picture with a message I wrote for them.
Now I don't ask if they've written. It's between them and the giver now that they are adults.

Gwyn

Slankets I got from QVC a while ago

I always expected mine to give thanks for presents. I make it a habit to e-mail or write to businesses that have given us good service during the year. We have had such thoughtful care from some. And you know yourselves how pleasing it is when anyone bothers.

They look very cosy

xx

Thanks Sue
They do look fun I have never heard of Slankets before.

Regards
Jackie

Those look fun!
http://www.theslanket.com/

Hadn't seen any till I googled.

Sue

Yes alway encouraged my Children to either say thanks if handed a Present. Or a Phone call, Card or note for those they didn't recieve personally.

My Grandchildren are always encouraged to do the same.
They even say Thank you Grandma if I have looked after them as they leave.

I also would like to know what a SLANKET is please?

Regards
Jackie

I was brought up to write thank you letters and my own children have always done so too. Even when they were tiny they would help write a message by adding a little scribble or a drawing.

We were talking about thank you letters over Christmas Dinner and our now grown up daughters said how much they appreciate receiving thank yous from children they give gifts to and how now they realise how important it is.

I try to write my own letters before the New Year. Some people I see and thank and others I will have phoned but we all open presents with a pad and pencil next to us so we can record who gave us what.

I have two (now adult) godsons. One never sent me a single thank you note for gifts so I am no longer in touch with him. The other wrote little letters and he is still on my Christmas Card list!

I have noticed the same trend for wedding presents. We gave a gift to a couple in the summer (I actually engraved them a little glass bowl and if sold in a gallery it would fetch quite a bit) but we never heard a word about it. My older daughter has been to three weddings this year and said not one of the couples has said thank you for presents. I think this is very rude.

I think I might write a few letters this afternoon!

Sue

AAAAARRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH my pet hate is when people don't say thank you.

As children we had to write thank you letters, and likewise, I expect a thank you (in some shape or form) when I have given a gift.

What I CANNOT accept is that in this day and age, when people have the choice of writing a letter, writing an e.mail, making a phone call or sending a text and they still cannot say thank you!!!! I find that unacceptable and plain bad manners. Communication is easier now than it has ever been.

A couple of years ago I stopped sending my stepdaughter presents (she still gets from my hubby/her Dad, but I used to send a nice girly gift from me)....but I do not any more because she never ever says thank you, or even acknowledges receipt. When she was younger I used to (reluctantly) let it go, but now that she's 25 yrs old, I really think she's old enough to know better. How her Dad lets it go I cannot fathom, she doesn't thank him either, but if she were my own daughter she'd have got a good talking to by now!!.

There!!! Got that off me chest!!

K x

P.S. And while we are on the subject ...out of 10 Christmas gifts we sent, we have so far received 2 thank you's - by texts from my teenage nephews.

OK, I'm dim, what is a SLANKET?

I always had to do them and dreaded doing it as never knew what to write, my sister used to do the letters beforehand and then just fill in bits of what she got.
Mine always do them a lot of the time under protest but i tell them if they cant thank people i will take the gifts away. Tiddler and Laddo already done theirs just eldest to go but the nagging will start today so I can get them all posted.
Mine dont have a lot to write my parents, and three aunts and a great aunt.

d x

My oldest grandsons always e mail a thank you which in this modern age I find acceptable. (16, 19 and 20). Youngest two always phone and thank us, then follow up later with a thank you letter (6 and 12). Sister and I thank each other via e mails these days, neighbours son (15) always writes a note). Daughter and son phone and thank us.

but to answer your question it is bad manners not to thank people, but i don't expect it immediately, probably within two weeks.

We stopped sending to my niece and gt nieces because we never knew if they had received the (posted) gifts. as they live in flats in London there was always a doubt. They had usually got the stuff, just didn't bother to say anything so now they just get cards.

Oh I had a Slanket for Christmas too, lovely.

But to your question, I always write thank you letters to those people who have given me gifts.

Tina xx