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Trouble is, will they stay in the house.

My Pal was looking after her grandson,15 year old and her and her OH took him to a party. He was sleeping over at another girls house, and they were told to pick him up from there in the morning.

All well and good, but she found out afterwards, that they left the party, went to a nightclub, then on to a pub.

This is how accidents happen, if one of them had driven a car drunk, even under age, you do hear of these things. Or ran out in the road drunk.

Think you have to know the parents when you let your kids out to such parties.

So its not what they get up to at parties, it is if they then go on to somewhere else.

Mo

I think I agree with everything said, if youw as happy with teh family and knew you could trust your daughter then fine. Butyour gut instinct is tellingyou no for a reason.

I would've let my daughter go at 14 if I knew the family etc but my twin boys of 13 not a chance!!!! as they can't be trusted totie their own laces let alone behave. LOL


I recently had similar prob daughter turned 16 and we was away weekend of her birthday. She spent one night at her aunts then on the Saturday she had her first sleepover. Herself and four other girls. I was SO worried but you have to cut the apron strings at some point. We all survived!!!

Karen if it was a family you knew well and trusted I'd say it would be fine. But as you have concerns over them then I think the best answer is no.

Gerald,

who is being nieve?



Karen x

Hya Maria, it was a long time ago, the memories linger though lol

xx

No I wouldn't either. Even if there are adults in the house, They are not going to be in the same room or even awake the whole time......
That would be my concern.
Then again my eldest is 11 and has NEVER been to a sleepover at friends, As I will not let her.

Pat

Barbara you little monkey :o) xxx

haven't got any children, but was once 14 so my answer would be no

At 14 my son went for a sleep-over in a tent thought only 4 boys, one phone call later from another mother to say otherwise and she went and collected both her son and mine (ooh! what a strop he was in!) During the night the police were called and found cannabis!! the father grew it in his house? We thought we knew the family well! hmm! Son was very pleased he had been at home lol!
So No would be my answer.

Norah

My kids often had mixed sleep-overs, and believe me they keep each other awake all night, then go home and sleep for the next 24 hours. So yes a good odea if only to have a day of silence after !!!

I would karen, If i knew the family involved,

Ive made mistakes with my teen lass of 15 but i think a sleepover in a house where adults are in charge is ok.

Caz x

thanks for your views everyone....its very interesting.

she's not going to be going...main reason being is we don't like the boy and if you could see his FB you'd understand why.

personally i don't have a problem with her having a boyfriend,i know i was 14 when i had my first boyfriend....we did nothing but walk along the beach,go to cinema and i know thats the kind of thing they both do,


thanks again,
Karen x

Actually, going back to the original question, no I wouldn't let my daughter go at 14.

nope

Well I never! I am really interested in this thread.

My 16 yr old son has asked to have some friends over for Halloween and most of them seem to be girls. I am, 3 kids on, VERY old-fashioned these days and told him both Mum and Dad will be around and no-one is drinking anything alcoholic until I have spoken to all the Mums.

He sometimes sleeps over at a friend's and came home once with a huge love-bite - I was not impressed and stropped for ages!!!! He has learned his lesson!!!

So if you have mixed sexes staying over, stay with them and supervise and check if they can drink or not _ personally I don't approve of kids drinking and might offer 1 drink each if their parents permit but that's it.

I'm an old bag, I know.

Follow your instincts Karen, in this case I think the answer would be no.

Ann
Glos

Hi all,

what I find quite interesting is that I have twin boys aged 13, and if they were asking to go, it would be the girls I would worry about.

I've dropped my lads off at school discos etc and SOME OF the girls are scary. Dressed very provocatively (and that's being polite)

Re the sleepover, If I knew the parents and the kids I would make my decision based on that.

Maria xxx

I used to when I was that age.

So....

NO!!

NO but they can up up to things anywhere without the party

NO WAY