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Oh dear I don't think you should ever turn your back on your children!!
I agree she should of asked you if this person could of stayed the night.
Sue................
give her a ring

you did what you felt was right ,,,,,dont reproach yourself as it cant be changed only learnt from,,

the rules in your home are rules for everyone whos there,,if its broken then your right to dish out consequences,,,,,,


she wil be intouch dont worry,when shes had time to realise her actions caused you grief,,,,,,

I feel really down about it all and OH is in bits and is blaming himself and me for sending her back to base ( she would have been going back tomorrow anyway so it is only a day earlier we have sent her back )

She's been in the forces a year and I think that is half the problem, she thinks that she is no longer our child, thinks she is grown up enough to make her own choices

Oh I feel terrible !!

Maybe she will come to her senses, how long has she been in the forces?
She might come to her senses once she has been in longer as they will make her toe the line.
She knows where she is well off and will be back. All you can do is love her and make her understand what is and is not acceptable in your house.
I have 2 now grown up daughters 39 and 37 and a stepdaughter who is 17 so I know where you are coming from.
Angela

tough love - that's what it's all about - you did the right thing and one day hopefully she will thank you for it

course you feel bad, you're her Mum but one day she'll be a Mum herself and then she'll understand, if not before hopefully

she's still your daughter!!!!

have we done the right thing or not ??

Daughter in the forces, age 17, since May everytime she has come home she has treated the house as a hotel, looked at us as though we are something she scraped off her shoes etc etc normal teenager stuff in the majority !!
But last night she came home dropped bags in the doorway and went out again,
Got up this morning to a note saying " Hi Danny stopped last night"

Asked OH was Danny male / female - OH says only Danny he has heard daughter mention is the Jack the lad, the bad one, the one in trouble all the time -

Yes you've got it - he had stopped in her room with her, how dare she??
My blood was boiling and OH took me out to calm down and for him to calm down as well

When we got back daugher was on her own and used the excuse
" I didn't think, I had too much to drink!

Well that was it, her bags were packed and I drove her to the station and watched as the train pulled away taking her back to base

Not one apology, only the response of " and I won't bother coming home again to see any of you!!"

I feel bad really bad, but I'm sure I have done the right thing and stamped my foot to make her realise that enough is enough.