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I'm not in the business of slating either, please let me make that clear. I am having a go at those who do slate either.

Saying that all 3 have turned dam fine and never stop me being proud of them so I did a good ...somehow..! lol

I missed that Muffy...

There you go, my point illustrated then.

Thing is, I stayed at home with my kids until they were both at school, then I took a part-time job at weekends working in a restaurant. However I do wish I could have been at home for all their growing up, but as time went on, and economics changed, I had to work in the end. Eventually,as they left school, taking a crappy full time job in a factory because one of them wanted to go to uni. We didn't have the money to take them through it.

As it happened she chose not to in the end....so we had a damn good holiday together.

Oh Muffy sorry to hear that

hayley thats the point of the thread ........two or more opinions

Every parent has a selfish right,to be home with their family,,,,if extra income is needed then they have everyright to work ,,,its all down to economics within the home,,

No one should feel feel guilt either way,.

Well i WAS slated for being a stay at home mum on this very site only last night .......c'est la vie lol xx

Sorry ladies, didnt mean my post to sound as it did.

I have the utmost respect for Mums that stay at home. I didnt go to work in the day until youngest was at school because i wanted to be there for my own kids.

Sorry, I didnt read the heading properly.

Caz x

** floats about in gold lamey dressing gown **

I can understand that Kemp I at times feel slated coz I went out to work...you cant win...lol

Caz.......I do work but like to be home when they are .....Teresa is saying that stay at home mums are slated ....

I DO feel slated for staying at home

Gold Lame, pronounce Larmay lol

Wassat got to do with it?

I would have more money to spend on luxuries like a new car, holidays, expensive hairdresser etc if I worked full time...but I choose to make that sacrifice, I want to be with my children so they are brought up with my idea of manners/good behaviour/hugs & kisses etc. My husband works fiull time so we pay our way, but I didnt have kids to hand them over to a nursery full of young girls. My best friend worked in a nursery for 13 yrs, some of the kids cried for their mummies all day, she used to fib to their mums that the kids had been fine - even though they knew otherwise by their tear-stained faces. Couldnt bring herself to tell them they were missing mummy so she just said what they wanted to be told. However, I have a huge amount of respect for single mums who go out to work, they must be exhausted but they carry on.

Whats that stuff that all posh frocks used to made of in the olden days..gold lar????? some thing..

Caz, I am not criticising anyone who either chooses to work or who has to work. I mentioned in my very first post the financial pressures that mean many mums HAVE to work these days.

My point is, do mums who choose or are able to stay at home really need to be slated for it and treated like some sort of underclass?

Hayley lmao here .......

Hi Teresa,

I was at home for my 5 until they began school although I taught music from home and combined it with family life.

For the past 3 years I have worked about 25 hours during the week,I dont work in the holidays.Yes, I have to get the children picked up 2 or 3 days a week, but i always take them to school.

Quite simply, I cant afford not to work.

Caz x

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Reading some of your posts I would if I am as maternal as I thought I was....

I went to work when my youngest was starting senior school, it was to make ends meet at the time, my hours were from 9am till 2pm they wasnt on there own i went out with them, and home before they come back, the six weeks holidays were tough my oldest had left school the same year, i had good neighbours for the then, not knocking those who want to work, i want to be there for mine to come home to......
my daughter has been force out to work, or lose money, if it wasnt for me having my granddaughter, she would go to empty house, and her mom is not home till 7-30pm thats four hours for her to be on own, she had to take the first job offered,it gets me when those who have no commitments can stay on the dole .........

I'm a stay at home mum and I have no guilt about the decision I have made. We struggle financially from time to time but I figure I won't be able to buy these years back in the future so I live with it........... I love it that I can attend anything at the school with no worries about booking time off work etc. My children are my priority. Always have been always will be. My OH works hard and pays his taxes to support us.....so we're not sponging from anyone or expecting the state to support our lifestyle.

If other mums are happy to work that's great for them. I don't judge anyone for the way they organise their family life. It's all about personal choice really isn't it? xx

personally i choose to stay at home with my children for the simple fact i choose to have them why should i leave them with someone lse when i dont have to
imagine missing all there firsts to work that must be awful for people to miss them special moments that you can cherish
as soon as baby satan is full time i will be going back to work hopefully in a scholl so the hours and holidays are the same as the children
xxx

I can see both sides of it as when I was a single parent I did work, mainly nights to provide for my children. Now im a stay at home mum and although I do miss working as my job was fulfilling and I got to meet lots of people, it is now more important that my children have someone to come home to and im here for them should they need me.