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i think that poem is powerful,i attend a freedom programme because of a ex partner..it is great and very informative..i will tell them that poem dont delete it..i have just found a cousin on here who runs poppy project and lillth and eaves and i think she is admirable more help should be given to those not yet stong enough to get away and more help for the children who have been subjected to it NOT from social services but someone who wants to keep the family together..good luck to anyone at the hands of a dominator..xx

pmsl i have nudged it again for you Zo

if you pm your email i can send it to you with pics and all lol

nudge for Zoe

i am sure you can print the poem Zoe as long as you include the copyright info and only give it away (rather than selling it lol)

xx

Oh that will be lovely Elaine, wish I could get there and meet up with you. I think it is great that they want to go with you again, sometimes the simple pleasures of life are as good as spending lots of money. Hope the weather is good for you all.
Lizx

Liz we are going in a caravan in Skegness 0n the 19th of july. OH was supposed to be going with me and the dogs but fate took a hand and he has his eye op two days before and I decided I was going still and was not doing what I normally do and staying to look after him. They are growing now Alexander is 12 Asher is 15, Aynsley and his girl friend are both 16. They went with me last year and we spent very little walked the beach with the 3 dogs found beautiful shells and pebbles, flew kites and window shopped in all the typical seaside shops. I appologised for not giving them a raring time and they all said they enjoyed it. Now I believe them as they want to go again. If anyone is there at the same time let me know and we will meet up. Elaine.

Elaine, what a wonderful thing to have your grandson ask you to go with him, and for you to agree. Where are you taking the youngsters in the hols, anywhere where you could meet up with others from here?
Lizx

Another quiet one Whippet Lady, well as far as abuse goes. I have had my 15year old grandson and his two dogs so am even later getting on line. He was discussing our trip to Japan. He has Aspergers syndrome and is teaching himself Japanese and doing very well with it too. Last week he asked me if I would go to Japan with him in a couple of years time when he has saved up. I said yes, to be asked by your teenage grandson is a rare privelege and a memory for him when I am no longer here. These are the things that have made my marriage worthwhile, my family and lovely grandchildren. I am taking three teenagers away the first week of the school hols plus two dogs it will be great. Elaine.

I was in that position, but luckily my now hubby is good as gold, my heart breaks for all those still in a violent relationhip XX.

Whippet lady thanks for your concern love, you know it is lovely to have a place where you can unburden yourself and try and make sense of things. Communicating is a way of finding out whether it is me or him because the feedback is not biased. I am going to take the dogs now as it has stopped raining for the moment. Good night to you all and may the Angels watch over us . Elaine.

Tina thanks love it's been a quiet day today as well. I suppose this is the way the abuse bullies work, lull you into a false sense of security and then you say fork and it's the wrong word for the day. Only trouble is you do not know which word is the wrong one until you've said it. Elaine.

morning all, glad yesterday was peaceful and long may that continue elaine xx

Hope all is well with you today tina xx

Good evening Whippet lady, Sorry I did not answer your greeting but only get on the puter btween 7.30 pm and 10.00. All has been well today, at the moment we are having a quiet period. Thanks for caring. Elaine.

very moving and powerfull poem

julia x

please dont delete thats powerul tears in my eyes ive have crossed that path thank god i didnt get the flowers if it saves one it as help

grannie your right it is heart rendering xx

My Mum was a victim of domestic abuse for 13 years and she had 6 kids to worry about but had the courage to get out in the end. My Dad died a lonely man a few years ago with the result of it.

I just read that back and my Dad died no reason of my Mum just incase people read that wrong.

elaine, i hope you are safe at home, even if there is no actual violence and your abuse is 'only' verbal and emotional , you are worth so much more than that. tc and remember there are people out there who will help you if you ask for it xx

Thanks all for your support, I have good friends I can talk to and it appears I also have them on here. Sorry I had to take out the dogs, they know 10.00pm better than I do. They are also my friends and Merlin our recue springer who has very little sight and is deaf,rescued with his problems as no one else wanted him gaurds me against any agro from OH. He is supposed to be his dog but if he gets angry and starts waving his hands about Merlin puts himself between us and snarles, bless his heart. Elaine. Nite nite all dogs say it's bedtime.

I also suffered at the hands of a mental and physical bully.
Leaving was one of the hardest things Ive ever had to do but it was also the best thing Ive ever done. Ive never looked back I feel more alive now than I ever did and I no longer have to watch my every word or action.
No one should have to live their life that way.

Whippet Lady, I have been married to him for 50 years this August. I have made my home and work near to it, I have bolt holes when I know he is in a mood I either go out for a long walk with my dogs or as I work at the local school I can go up night or day and give him time to calm down, it doesn't usually take long. I know that I am the stronger of the two and at last he has realised this. I do not argue with him I just walk away. I know what you are saying but where would I go if I left my home. Elaine.

I have been there and still am married to him. He has not hit me for a long time as I eventually stood up to him and he is a heart a coward. Now he uses psycological weapons, most of the time I can cope with these but if I am ill and feel weak that is the time I am vunerable. Elaine.