General Chat

That's a good one Pinks.....x

Thinking of the REASON, SEASON, LIFETIME levels of friendships always gets me through!!

Each moment of my life is a learning, good or bad and I am grateful that I am here able to learn!

Jean - gutted someone has hurt you honey.... in the end it will be their loss not yours!
xx

Hiya Webster,


I fight very hard against the feelings you describe as i am far too sensitive.

As I get older though I am beginning to realise that much of what life throws at you actually strengthens you although it hurts like hell at the time.

Being let down is very painful , sending you a hug,


Caz xx

........a saying has been going round in my head.....

that which does not kill us, makes us stronger.....

maybe I have it wrong, maybe its irrelevant, but there......its on here now....

TAKE A PROZAC HUN

IF THAT DONT WORK

TAKE A FEW MORE LOLXX

I just sit back and let Karma deal with it,believe me it works;-))

carol tinkerbel

thats what i thought,

for those that are suffering through no sake of their own does any-one have any solutions.

gwen x

I work on the theories:-
Don't get mad,get even.
& whatever someone does (bad) will come back on them tenfold.
Then sit back,don't fret about it & wait!

Yes, words DO hurt, especially when the person hasn't got the guts to say them to your face! Someone I respcted and trusted hurt me very badly a long time ago (it was a work situation) and I was bitter, resentful and angry for a long time afterwards. However my over-riding feeling was puzzlement - WHY? and this is all that remains today, have left behind the anger etc. as it ends up being self-destructive.

aww jean you are too lovely...who dares to hurt you....tell me and i will duff em up

seriously....i think you are right...time helps but sometimes you have to make a conscious effort not to dwell...easier said than done i know.

I find i am left with a sort of disappointment that someone has done something that i didn't think they would...and cross with myself for letting them do it

(((Huggs))) Jean xx

A close family member has been causing us immense hurt and anger for the last 18 months...........I know that if I lie in bed at night thinking about all the problems he is causing, it won't stop him, so I make a determined effort to think of things from his point of view and that keeps alive the hope that one day soon it will all work out.

He deserves peace of mind as well as the rest of us.

Sorry to hear that Jean, whatever has happened to hurt you so, you don't deserve it!

I have been hurt (haven't we all on this rocky old road of life), and I've been angry, upset, and perhaps even bitter, but it doesn't last for long.

Once my anger and hurt has lessened, I find the bitterness goes, somehow.

Besides, so very many good things happen why would I want to waste energy dwelling on the things that fill me with resentment and anger?

Dee
x

I am lucky to have been born with a sunny disposition and loving nature........and a sense of humour........this has seen me well through my 60 years of life, and I am not a bitter or resentful or jealous person..........if you are happy within yourself, then really nothing can touch you......

Life has a nasty habit of biting you in the bum, perhaps I have been lucky and swerved at the right time.....

Passing through life there are bound to be things and people that cause us hurt. I try to be positive and forgive those who hurt me. I wont say I forget though but I try not to let it consume me. Bitterness is a very negative emotion, far better to get angry then decide to put it behind us.

I look on my life as a tapestry, every event is a stitch in the overall pattern and I am sure nothing happens without a reason. Looking back at times when I have been hurt I would say there was a reason and I learnt a lesson from what happened. Now I remember the lesson but I am not bitter about what happened. I don't hold grudges, I prefer to live my life looking forward. Life is too short to make ourselves unhappy by bearing grudges.

But I am also a great believer in you reap what you sow or Karma so try hard not to hurt other people myself.

Ann
Glos

If I have had the 'dirty' done over me unjustifiably I neither forgive or forget BUT I do not allow it to 'take over' me or my life. I literally put it in the back of the filing cabinet that is my mind, and there it stays. It may surface from time to time, but not often. As far as I am concerned anything filed at the back of the cabinet doesn't warrant getting out too often...... if you see what I mean !!

But words do hurt though..................they can make a vulnerable person or child deeply unhappy.

As we mature and gain confidence we know that no matter what a person says about us, it doesn't change who we are, but for a few, words can have a devastating effect.

In my life I follow the example set by my parents...........if I have fallen out with someone, I will always talk it through with them and either agree to disagree on that point and stay friendly, or move on and accept that that person and I are never meant to be friends.

I do forgive, as holding a grudge or being bitter stops me moving past the hurt.

The past should stay in the past, we need to look to the future and aim to make it a good one for ourselves and those around us.

Good Morning Jo,

I have been very hurt by someone close to me recently who I would have trusted above all others.

At this moment in time I am very, very bitter.

I am hoping that as time goes on the hurt and bitterness will lessen and my inate positivity will return.

I think the problem is that, although the rift may be healed with the passing of time, the relationship will never be the same again which is so sad.

If anyone can let me know how to get rid of the
bitter feelings I have I will be eternally grateful.

Jean x.

I never allow anything to consume me to a point where it interferes with my thinking that way its easy to put distance and see it as unimportant.or none life threatening,,

good one granny x

When you find out Webster....................there are a few on here you could enlighten.xxx