General Chat

We didn't have any hymns at my mums 4 weeks ago. We had some lovely Irish music to bring her in and When Irish eyes are smiling to say farewell. It was lovely.

Jacky

we had "how great thou art" for mum last year,i dunno,personal choice,what about something you remember her singing to you or something she sang around the house that reminds you of her, it really is such a personal thing,something that will comfort you maybe, take care and dont get worried about it,im sure whatever you choose will be perfect, take care Marilyn,x

I read this for my mum's funeral.
SHE IS GONE;
You can shed tears that she is gone Or you can smile because she has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see her, Or you can be full of the love that you shared.
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember her and only that she is gone, Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back, Or you can do what she would want- smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

Hope this helps

Bernadette

Another idea would be to speak to mum's siblings (if any) or cousins and her friends, to see if they have any ideas of her favourite music and hymns.

I lost my mum in Feb and she had left a note to say that she wanted the song 'when I leave the world behind'. we also chose to have The Lord's my Shepherd played, with the vicar reading a short life story that we had written, with some lovely poems and 1 reading.

If you want me to, I can pm the poems etc to you. Mum loved ballroom dancing, so for the finish to the service we chose The Last Waltz.

I would definitely advise you to contact the priest, he may have some good suggestions too. Talk to your own friends and family as well, you need all the support you can get.

(((hugs)))

Maz. xxxxxxxxx

Marilyn , just do what you think is right, no one will judge you, I promise you that!

well said Evelyn,
Marilyn, phone the funeral directors and ask for the No,. of the priest/ whoever will be holing the service and have a chat with him!
xxxxxxx

My Mum passed away 2 years ago. She loved Amazing Grace so we had that, plus The Fields of Athenry, she was originally from Ireland. I wrote a small history of her life and the priest read it at the service.

I have all the music I want at my funeral already burnt on a CD

Spirit in the Sky Norman Greenbaum
Tennessee Waltz Patsy Cline
How Great Thou Art Elvis
Ravels Bolero.

You will do the right thing for your Mum, you loved her, so you can't go wrong.

marilyn,
any one of the hymns here would be fine, they are all much loves and well known hymns. The day thou gavest is a very apt hymn as is Abide with me. you need something most people know so that at least they sing. The reading Gwyn suggests is a good one too. and the suggestion of writing out a bit about your Mum's life is good too. i did that for my Dad and the minister used it. I sent it to him (I was a long way from where the cremation was too) a week or so before so maybe you need to write to the funeral director with your instructions for the priest.

It is a sad and difficult thing for you to do but everything will be fine.

ann
Glos

l live in Broadstairs the funeral will be in Beckenham
l dont know the priest the undertaker is arranging one cos we moved away from Beckenham
l am still at a loss as to what to do

ummm, "you raise me up""??

yep kay, as you say its a personal thing, all we can do is add and hope it helps.

How Great Thou Art,?

or one of your mums modern loved songs,or piece of music,

maybe one that would sum how wonderful and much loved she was,,but its such a personal thing ,and not an easy task,

Condolences to all concerned,

Taff . a good point :)
Had Meatloaf played at my sisters funeral
Maybe your mum had a favourite artist Marilyn

Hope it all goes as well as these things can for you x

We had abide with me and the 23rd psalm for my mom, what about a favourite song of your moms.

god bless you and family, in the sad loss of your dear mom.

Helen , your in the best hands in the univers now.
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Dont forget, you can have music played at the cemetary!
sorry have to agree with R Rose had Danny Boy at my mams, but Phil collins at my daughters!

Marilyn, the priest should come aound and have a chat with you, regarding the service, and what you think is appropriate and what YOU want( dont be bullied! cos some of them are fire and brimstone!!, others are more modern thinking)

We got a lot of help from the undertakers/vicar when Mum died last year. They had lists of hymns/suitable songs/readings

At the church we had:
The King of love my Shepherd is
Lord of all Hopefulness
Now thank we Lord our God

The priest will be able to advise you on the readings.

Is anyone going to do the Eulogy or read a poem?

If the priest did not know your Mum, it may be an idea to write out a short life history for him with names of children/grandchildren...your Dad where she was born...lived...interests

I had to decide upon hymns for my sister's funeral, not an easy thing to do. I looked at various sites to get ideas that would please the majority like this one:

http://www.cul.co.uk/music/funeral.htm

I am sure you will make the right decisions.

Sue xx

How about, "The Day Thou Gavest Lord Is Ended". ?