General Chat

Hi Puss

I read this when it first went up but i have only just come back to check progress......

I do hope things get sorted and am really sorry that you seem to have gone thru the mill abit today ...........

(((hugs))) to you all xxx

A tough one indeed CarolB...but as a manager I want and need to know so that I can support the individual but fully understand the doubts they may have about a manager's ''intentions'' if they do declare Again as you say a tough one. But good luck to David in whatever he does decide is the best option for him (and thats the most important bit - its his decision)

Good Luck David

CarolB....As you rightly say its an individual right to declare or not, but I would strongly urge those who do have any form of disability to declare...it stops problems later on and helps a management team to support the indivdual

Thanks Tory....I have always managed people on the basis if they fail as an employee then there is a good chance I have failed as their manager....as you say though not all managers are of the same frame of mind

Well colin then I wish there where more like you :-)
Thank you for the care you showed :-)

Puss , your one fantastic Mum, I know absolutely nothing about Aspergers , but I know it was hard enough dealing with my son at that age .He,s 21 now and seems to be doing well , others 16 an a real Kevin !
Just keep doing what your doing , he,s a very lucky lad to have a family like yours ..
Kim xxx

Hi Webster, yes most companies have pre-employment medical questionaires but people are reluctant to declare they have an issue as they feel it may jepodise their employment prospects....with a reputable employer it won't but it will allow support and adjustments to be put into place

i wish david luck with his interview...and you too...what is it about sons

my 17 year old son left college in December for no apparent reason (well no reason he will tell me) since then he has become an almost recluse in his bedroom.

everything i suggest he isn't interested. I think if David has said he doesn't want you to speak to the employer then you should do as he asks...in my experience the more you interfere the worse it is. Although your son may be different ...you know him best

Colin you are right the employer should know but usually there is somewhere on application form to put such things isn't there?

at long last my son has an interview for a job on Tuesday. He wont discuss it or tell me anything about it. I am so hoping and praying that he turns up and they give him a go.

You are correct Tory you can't get rid of Aspergers but you can make lifestyle adjustments that reduce the sevrity of the condition - I worked with a member of my staff who had Asperger's, and by the time I became his manager he was on the verge of being fired. By working with Mark I was able to make adjustments to his work and shift patterns that greatly improved his performance and retained him in the business.

Puss - sure David will be okay, but a prospective employer must be told, we haven't got crystal balls and can't do anything to help and support, if we aren't made aware of a medical condition

I'm sorry I don't understand the start of this thread you can't get rid of Aspergers its a condition you live with and never goes .If your Autistic which is what Aspergers is you have it for life .But am sorry you are having problems as I have a daughter with the condition and a son who is high functioning Autistic.

Sorry about David and his problems Puss..what a worry for you good job he has you and Specky.

Love and hugs

Linda x

Im so sorry Puss, I hope something turns up for David soon. I work with a chap with aspergers and the college were made aware, but he is much older.


Huggles,


Caz xxx

thanks everyone
daff yes i was thinking on those lines especcially as he is displaying symptoms of depression, as for food additives we are pretty choosy and try to eat fresh but i know they crop up every where drinks etc, so i dont think its the case with him,any way im waiting for him to come home for this interview just hope he does xx

Puss... did David leave his job of his own accord?? If he did, then it would indicate that there is something there which has brought up his anxieties... you mentioned that his boss said he would be happy to take David on again as he (David) is so conscientious?

I will go and try and find out more about the food thing now (have a problem with pc, on laptop now... but also had a plasterer in, so leccie has been going on and off all day!!)

Once he gets back and has a bath, he might feel ready to talk about it.

I'll check, but I also think you can refer David to the mental health team yourself... but not 100% on that.

I'll get back to you, and text or pm you later.....I went and looked for my mobile specially... it is charging up at the moment, lol!
Hang on in there... speak to you later,

Love

Daff xxxx

I,m so sorry Pusscat,After all your and his efforts to sort things out,its such a shame.I hope things can be sorted out for you both,and perhaps a Future Employer will Hopefully understand his problems.Best wishes to you both.**M**.xxxx.

Thinking of you and wish David good luck with the interview, i am going through a rough patch with steven( hads the same as david and hes 17) stays out all night with so called friends but if i confront him it just makes him worse also the lies dont help either

thinking of you both

julia xx

thats most of us all i think without being pessimistic, we tend to have something good , but something bad will follow lol, well it aint beat me yet still got 4 legs and moo, ing

oh hunny no just when evrything was goin well 2.hope things get sorted out xxbig hugsxx

thankyou daff and everyone i really take on board what you all say, thanks again daff please just when you have time, ive found out he is at a friends community police are aware of david and keep an eye on him, there brilliant they watch out fhad aor natalie too its 2 small ish villages, just reminded me communitypolice first became aware of david when he stole a pork pie, when asked why he did it he said he was hungry , thankfully they realised he had problems, feeling bit more confident he has phoned specky to say he will be home for a bath xx

so sorry to hear about Davids job

good luck with his next one xxx