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scuse spelling..........been 20 odd years since I did Latin lol.

What was your worst year? Can you look back and laugh now or does it still make you cry.......

Hi Muffs,


There are two, 1996, the year I divorced, stressful, traumatic and upsetting,


2006, OH in Iraq, problems over kids, felt very alone and lost,


BUT........It made me stronger!!


Cazzles xxx

1987, house- mortgage paid- subsided through council negligence, OH diagnosed needing heart op, had to both give up business. Can laugh now realise it could only happen to us.

1992...... the year i lost my lovely mum.

1993

we moved to a number 13 house my superstitions were true,
we moved in on friday the 13th, at 13.30 hours

i had few health probs start,
had bust ups with OH,
he went on training to gibralter , got letter of his brother to say thier dad had died, (that ended any hope of hubby ever gettin chance to meet him)
suddenly mam died before year was out

Mine was 1997.

Got married.........very happy........ then.......OH got made redundant a month later.......new mortgage........money probs up to our necks........

summer time OH still not working......... his mum gets diagnosed with terminal cancer......... world came crashing down.

Decide to try for a baby in time for MIL to see him/her we thought we had 2 yrs.

October.......... MIL stable new baby on the way.

Dec........ MIL died suddenly......... lost baby 3 days later.

I have only very hazy memories of this now. The world sort of stopped for me for a year or so after.

I take comfort now in the fact that MIL has my babies to look after and love as she obviously needed them so badly.........once her hubby died 2 yrs later I stopped losing them (all bar one). I don't begrudge her them now but I did then.

Blimey.

Morbid for a Sunday night innit.

Shall I delete? xx

2006 when daughter was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma thought we were going to lose her, spent from Jan to Nov under its cloud.
Thankfully shes now in remission

so many
1988........dad died
1995 ..........daughters accident
2001 ............diagnosed breast cancer
.2003 .......mum died
could go on .......
...................rosexx........

1994 Everyone was doing 4 weddings and a funeral and I did 4 funerals and a wedding. I even lost one rele at the funeral of another.


Opps forgot I had a silly name

Maddie

Please dont delete Muffs, I think this thread is very cathartic, I lost babies too, 3 in 1998 and 1999. Its devestating,


Hugs to you and all on here who are in pain or have memories which are difficult. The best thing is, that we all care for each other,


Love to all,


Caz xxxxx

Ta Caz.

99.9% of the time I deal with it. Same as anyone I guess. Now and again it rears up and bites me bum lol .......it's a lost baby anniversary this week so always potential for a bit of a downer .....just don't want to bring people down with me xx

1991, lost my mum, then a couple of months later lost my dad, miss em lots.

omg muffy thats so sad
it mad me fill up,
it sounded like you say once she had her OH to join her she was complete,
id of been mad too, thinking same as you, they yours not hers, but she must of gone to protect them an give them the cuddles

2000 the year me and OH spilt up, but a year that I lived a little or a lot................. ( we did get back together )

2005 the year Mum died
2005 Dad got cancer
2006 Dad got secondary
2007 Dad told it was terminal

2008 had better be better than the last three

2008

(((((((((((muffy)))))))))))))))
Hugs from one mum to another.
Our angel babies are never far from our thoughts
xxxx

2006

My lovely Mum died and later that year her home, where she'd lived for nearly 70 years, - my birthplace, was sold.

....But I have some happy memories which help alot.

Gwyn

Thanks Lyndi. That means a lot.

Much as I adore my kids........ I will never forget the ones I couldn't meet.

I used to get SO ANGRY when people used to say.......well so and so had a still birth imagine how that feels......yeah I did and i felt for them but these were MY babies not anyone elses. Why do people suddenly try and bring out a measuring stick to justify grief.........used to really pee me off. Still does.Blimey where is all this anger coming from tonight lol xx

muffy i agree totally
its like when someone says well you dont knw how it felt,
dont you just wana slap um
how dare they think you dont feel pain

sending you hugs and let it out , better out than in
my daughter always includes a rose with mams flowers at christmas as she knows shes looking after a little person, for her

Thanks Julie Ann. xx

I'd always thought 1989 was our worst year; we decided to move out of London and back to the west country, with our 1-year-old baby. But it was the property slump, couldn't sell our London house and naively took bad financial advice. Lots of debts but we did just about manage to stop short of being repossessed so we were able to start over again.

But now money plays no part in our sadness. 2006 rolling over into 2007 were the worst years of our lives, no exaggeration. We're still feeling the knock-on effect now, probably because I was just about starting to come to terms with losing my Mum, when we had to go through the double whammy of losing both inlaws during our son's A level exams.

On top of that, Dad then had a stroke and - I haven't mentioned this on GR up until now - but my birth half-brother, who I thought I had a fantastic relationship with, decided to turn his back on me. Talk about kicking someone when they're down. He got in touch recently but because I couldn't give him what he wanted (money of course!) he took off again. Hubby is still having bereavement counselling.

I keep telling myself 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger' and we're just kept going at the moment by our boy being so happy and doing so well at Uni. He doesn't know this, but he is our total focus, and keeping our heads above water.

Oh goodness, now I'm sounding a right old misery, lol! I promise to cheer up :-)

As a Mum of a child we nearly lost as a newborn, I feel great sadness for anyone losing a baby at any stage xx