General Chat

This may sound petty to some, but here is the situation...

When I started my job in December, the company was in the process of restructuring. This meant some voluntary redundancies, which took place through February and March. New staff were taken on to fill the new job roles (not mine, mine already existed and the guy who did it before was sacked).

Now some of the new staff are leaving because they are disillutioned, and lately I have been too. I don't know if it is down to the department manager or to the rest of the company. There are still plenty of long serving emplyees who are very resistant to change in any way, but without it the company will eventually be on its knees.

Last Thursday I was asked to the personnel office to give my honest opinion on whether I thought there was something amiss in the department. This I did and it was in confidence.

However today, I am told by a colleague that another colleague told her that the manager told HER that she has had to give me a written warning. Now thats all I know, but whats the best way to handle it?

My OH says I shoudl first go to personnel and just state that this has been said, then have it out with the manager to put her in the picture (and to stop any backstabbing if she really did say that). But I woudl welcome any other opinions.

Since I have been there I have tried to do my job to the best of my ability, doing extra duties where needed, and I feel this is someone trying to sully my reputation.

BTW I have not had a warning, written or verbal...thought I better make that clear LOL

Have you had one ? Or is it chinese whispers

"However today, I am told by a colleague that another colleague told her that the manager told HER"

Is it possible to get all concerned together & ask who told who what & why?

Mac, you sweetie...only if you come with it LOL

Hayley, its chinese whispers, but what if I do nothing, and later another rumour is started, they will remmeber the first one.

My Colleague wouldn't name the person who told her, rightly so, as it was said in confidence.

I think your OH's advice is good. Get it out in the open with the Manager and find out if it was said and if it was.... why. If it was not said........then it's best to be aware that there is a back stabber about and keep your eyes peeled for who it is. There's always one in every organisation that gets eaten up by the green eyed monster..xx

go see your boss and say you believe theres a problem
youve been led to believe that you have made an erroro in some way and woulkd like to clarify what that error if any is,
see what she says

maybe mischief making on someones part, but dont let it eat into you

Are you in a union? Not that I think much of them.
Di

Have you got a close colleague who could go with you is what I mean when you meet with your manager.

And evesdropping....half a story....I would ask the college again and then I do agree with Hagar coz because someone is behaving unprofessionally

Do you think this could be jelousy
for some reason .
if you have'nt had a written warning
then maybe wait until you do get it
if you get it !!!!!!!

It may have been an assumption made by someone when I went up to personnel on Thursday morning...I did say I've had a summons, but it was a flippant remark said with a grin as I walked out of the door. I can only imagine this is where it came from.

TW
ASK MALC HE USED TI BE UNION REP
HE WOULD KNOW WHATS THE NEXT
STEP

However....someone shouldnt be taking 2 and 2 and coming up with 7......I would ask at personal and let it be known who told you...

Dizzi, I don't feel like my jobs in any danger at the mo, just a bit of backstabbing going on and I would like to know who by and why.

TW ..I would bide my time before I did anything ..Reacting could be just the response someone is hoping you will give . Sit it out for a few days .. see what evolves and then if things get worse , have a chat with the manager .
Kim xxx

i to would go to your line manager/boss and ask about it

if nowt else will stop the whispering behind your back hun

do let us no how u get on babes

luv stray
xxx

I would have a word with Malc as Gwen said ...cant do no harm...and may put your mind at rest ..

OK will do, thanks everyone...

Now where's Malc? Can I catch him before he drinks too much vino? LOL

Go to see the manager and say "there's a rumour going around that I've had a written warning, I haven't had anything but the person who appears to have started the rumour, whom I don't know the name of, said that you told them that I'd had one. I just thought you should know as this could be someone mistaken, or deliberate malicious gossip spreading."

I'm concerned that if someone has said this about you, could it be that other rumours had been started about others who've left and that is part of why they've left. I feel you need to speak to the manager now in case the rumour spreader starts going the other way and tells the manager that YOU have said things you haven't.

Good luck, hun, I hate this sort of workplace harassment. I had a hell of a time when I worked at the local cinema during the summer hol at uni. Me and another girl were employed as summer relief to give the regular staff their holidays. They resented us because we were getting an education and had plans for our lives when they were stuck in their rut for the last X-amount of years. Rumours started being spread. I believed what the other temp told me and stood up for her. When I was physically threatened I went to the assistant manager (manager was away). I ended up leaving a couple of weeks early, because the stress made me physically ill.

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