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I just cannot believe my sister thinks her nine year old is old enough to have a lap top, not a kiddies one, a proper lap top.With Internet connection.

Might as well add she has a mobile phone, a tv, dvd player..

We both have daughters the same age a few months apart and i cannot see why mine should have one either, although she thinks she needs them she is going to have to do without till she is older as far as i am concerned.

Just might as well add my sister in laws nine year old daughter also has all the above as well.

I mean if they have it all now what do they get when they are older?

Just wanted to moan, feel much better already............

Tina, I am sure they don't appreciate them or look after them at that age. I would say 11 or 12 is plenty old enough for a lap top.


Good to see you on here by the way, how are you? Besides aggravated?

Ann
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We are having the same discussion with my 11 yr old triplets (in yr6 Primary)about not having a mobile phone until summer hols as they are going off more, not on there own but with friends. They keep saying all 3 of there classess they are about the only ones with no phones. I also work in there school and it does amaze how many younger children have phones and even laptops. We have only just conceded to go getting mine a PS2 between them(only because it was going cheap lol)

Star

Hello Ann, fine thank you. I tend to lurk now,lol.

I just felt i was so wrong, even my mum couldn't see anything weird with it. I won't put wrong as it is a personnel choice i suppose but i feel for my daughter its to much to soon.

Tina

my eldest uss mine but she is 15 laddo is 11 and rarely uses mine and tiddler uses it for cbeebies occasionally they dont need them.

Eldest got mobile at 12 so laddo hasnt got one and will get one this birthday he never goes out where I dont know he is so doesnt need it really.

at 9 they are still children why not let them be children and still play with the toyws that are inteneded for their age

Well Tina I am in complete agreement with you... I am much older than you and my children are all grown up.... but I know I wouldn't allow it.

I remember when everyone was striving for a coloured TV set, and of course my children wanted one too.
I told them that *they would be that very last people in the street to have a coloured TV.* AND they were.

We can't have everything we want, and I think today children think they can.
Sad really.

Deanna X

*sulks* I'm 53 and I haven't got a laptop!! :(

xx

Deana , how do you know if your older than me? lol.

That got thrown at me as well. Its cause your old you think that, charming !!!

My eldest is 23 ys old and she got her first one when she was aged 13 yrs,which was quiet young then!

Tina.

Well lets put it this way darling.... you and your sister have 9 year old daughters
a few months apart???
is that right?
Well nine years ago... I was well past it!!

That was what I went by, and my youngest is 36.... my oldest is 50 this year!
So are you older than me then?? ;-0)

And Kitty... we were talking about that this morning OH and me.... I DON'T HAVE A LAP TOP.... and see no reason why I should.

I want one is not a good enough reason is it? lol

Deanna X

"shuffles feet" .............no Deanna it isn't and I promise to stop sulking and do without a laptop! :))))

xx

I agree Tina, only my eldest son has a lap top as he could afford one. Dont have money for second and third to have one. They have use of internet though. 17 year old has a computer in his room, 14 year old lass doesnt.I dont want her to go on the net when I cant spy lol!!


My nine year old wouldnt be given a lap top or mobile but we do give him one of ours if he goes out to play. He has a tv in his room, but only to watch videos.

Caz xxx

I went to a conference a couple of months ago about children. My main interest was the

Tweenagers - those from about 9 to 13.

They are the biggest market for advertising - they have the world at their finger tips - no other age group has ever had before.

Where once 16 or 18 year olds had a limo to take them to their end of school bash now 11 year olds are having limos at the end of primary.

Sadly they do have nothing to look forward to or to grow up for.

Have to admit, I didn't have a new computer (which is the Apple Mac I'm typing on now) till I was 20 and just about to go to uni in 2004. Before that I always had second hand ones - my dad's firm works with computers so if someone got a new computer, we got the hand-downs.

Well, one hand-down. The one I had up to 2004 (and I think I was the last person in the world to run Windows 95) was a laptop that had belonged to one of my dad's employees till his toddler sat on it and cracked the screen. I think I must have had it for five or six years.

Before that, I used to share my dad's when he brought it home from work.

lol Kitty :-)

I wouldn't say it was wrong but I would say it's personal choice. If your sister wants to get her 9 year old a laptop, well....it's her money. If you think it's too young an age then that's right too lol. My two are 13 & 15 and I don't have the money to buy them laptops so they use mine or the pc.

I was 57 when i got a computer for the first time last year i do agree with you that children of that should be left as children and not have everything they want its just breeding greed and as for mobiles if parents run thier children around why do they need a phone i think to many parents use these items as a baby sitter ?*****************

Deanna, lol. okay you win your are older,lol.

Off course we didn't argue and fall out but just agreed to differ. But its not even for school work its so as she can go on Habba hotel and a club penguin both which in my personal view are way to open for a young 9 year old to go on.

My sister goes she just opens another account. So i said so she already knows how to be secretive about what she goes on, then my sister goes oh its okay i check everything but i am sure she doesn't.

My nine year old goes on this computer which is in the front room.

Tina

Please don't let my 15 year old daughter see this! She has been promised a laptop when she NEEDS one, be that when she does A levels or goes (hopefully) to Uni.

She got a mobile (my old one) when she started going out with her friends but even then had to pay 1/2 the top up fees herself. I would say this has worked, she now has her Dad's second contact phone which has never been abused.

Our daughter had a lap top for her 18th as she was going to uni, son (9) has my old pc in his room for his pc games, not on the net. If he wants to use the net he does it on my pc in the sitting room where I or hubby are so we can see what he is doing, usually only Runescape or looking through e-bay

Jan x

Okay Tina.... but don't worry you will get to my age quickly enough! ;-0)

Linda I was 63, I think when I had my first computer... and even then it wasn't mine!
Son bought it for his dad... but dad did not enjoy it like mum, so I inherited it.
When it eventually broke down, and it would have been too much to fix it. My husband bought me a new one.... they were afraid that I would pine to death without it!! lol


I honestly cannot remember what my life was like without one.
I don't get out an awful lot, and you are all my enjoyment.

Deanna X

My nephew is 4 weeks older than my son and had everything handed to him on a plate, scooter at 16, secondhand car and lessons at 17 etc etc My son has not had these things, he got himself a moped, then a scooter out of his wages. He also got his first mobile phone himself, whereas my nephew had his much younger. This lad has always been given things for the sake of it, just because they can afford it and think he needs all these things given easily. He appreciates nothing and is an arrogant young man now, working at my bro's company and because I have a friend works there too, altho they don't know, I hear it all. My nephew plays computer games all day in the office and my bro is always yelling that he costs him more than he is making the business. My nephew wouldn't last five minutes in the real working world and I feel sad that he has been so spoiled. I used to feel for my son, seeing his cousin have so much but my lad values things so much more and is twice the man my nephew is.
You just have to do what you think is right or you can afford, and don't give in to emotional blackmail or pressure.
Good luck, hard bringing up kids these days.
Lizx