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Hi Malc

If you have a garden you could plant a rosebush in her memory as others have suggested.

Another idea is what my dad did when my nana went. He bought a wooden garden seat and had a brass plaque put on it dedicating it to her.

You could then place it near the rose so that you could sit there often. Make it your special "Thinking of Mum Place".

Dianne xx

Im sending you all my love Malc, you are a rare man, one with compassion and love in his heart, your lovely Mum knew that and carried that with her from the day you were born......


Caz xxxxxxxxxxxx

Thinking of you Malc, and as others have said know exactly how you feel. I have a photo of mum and dad, and on occasions ie. birthdays, place flower and light a scented candle. I have been known to talk to the photos too, but only when I am alone in the house, silly me, but I like to tell my mum how my life is going. Miss her loads.

x ((((((Hugs)))))

Joy

Malc why not take a bunch of flowers to your local church im sure they would under stand how you feel!! and would be only to happy to help.Love Jean.

I'm glad Mother's day is early this year it doesn't make it easier but usually it's about the same as St. Patrick's day, 17th March and Mum's bithday was the l8th, it won't be any easier this year, 10 years, but I won't have the same double distress. I keep a small red rose (silk) in a bud vase next to Mum's photo.Thinking of you Malc and everyone else with love.

Oooh Malc, I feel your pain,
and go with Scooby's plan,
But get something for your mam, apart from a hangover, even though she would understand!!!
xxxxxxx

Malc, i am sending you my love 'cos you are a special person and if you want to get plastered do it, not that I approve but if it dulls the pain why not
Janetx

my oh buys flowers and lights candle next to them Malc xx

I am in the same boat as you Malc...Mum died just after Easter last year. That is why I started my thread...could not buy a card & give to her.
I have brought a lovely basket & planted it with Spring flowers, as I have always done, it stands just outside my back door. I believe that she knows it is my gift to her.

Malc, so many of us understand EXACTLY what you are going through.
Raise a glass to your Mum!
I am sure she would appreciate it.
Your pain is still very raw; it does (really it does) ease with time, but you will never stop missing her.
No-one in your life will ever know you as well as she did.
After thirty-four years without my Mum, I still miss her virtually every day - she died four years after my Dad, so I can sympathise with you. She would have been 103 now.
I think a plant in memory of your Mum somewhere in your house or garden might help. Try and imagine which one she would like.

Liz, it is also my Grandsons sixteenth birthday.

Mum was 85 when she died in the July

Ann, my Mum would be 92 on that same date. She died in 1995.

Malc it is hard and the first is the worst. Unfortunately it is always hard. As you can see, you are not alone, I would love to be able to send a card to my Mum, she died in 1994. She would have been 100 on the 6th March.

Ann
Glos

thinking of you malc xx

Malc..................I thought of you this morning when I saw a rose bush called Mum in a Million in our local garden centre.

In our tiny garden we have a rose planted in memory of my Nan and my Dad.

They are beautiful and a way of remembering them with a smile.

xx

Malc

I know its hard hun, not sure if you have a garden but how about buying a rose for her to plant in your garden as a little memorial of her.

I have a rose that my mum bought for my dad after he died and one I bought after my mum died they bring me comfort as I look at it and remember the good times and know they loved me so much as I do them.

((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to all who have lost their mums

Jax xx

Some lovely ideas here to help you through Malc, and you could start a little tradition of getting the flowers and having them at home. I do that as it is sometimes difficult to get to the cemetery on my daughter's special days and my parent's anniversary when their names are in the Book of Remembrance, so I have the flowers here and they cheer me.
Lizx

Malc, my beloved Mum died 32 years ago and I have out-lived her which is really weird. Mothers' Day doesn't bother me but at Christmas I always think of French Flowers bath cubes that I used to buy her. Wonder if she really liked them!!

She doesn't have a grave but she loved flowers so I try to keep my garden nice.

I always have cut flowers or a plant in the house for birthdays, anniversary's, passings and special days and holidays. They are put beside a photograph of my departed loved one.

I put a holly wreath on the grave of my parents and grandparents at Christmas but very rarely do I put flowers on a grave.

Viv

Malc...know how you feel babe...only it's father's day I actually dread. To make things worse March 13 would be my Dad's 77th birthday and it's those days that are the hardest. Then again it can hit you at the oddest times. My dad will be gone 14 years this August when he passed a dear friend came up to me and said "I could say it'll get better but you won't believe that but I will say it'll get different and easier to deal with". Never forgot her words. Do what you need to do to make yourself happy on those occasions as they come.

Debs