General Chat

DEAR ANITA
ABOUT YOUR MUM,,,,
YOU KNOW ME VERY WELL AND MY LOT,
YOU KNOW IM NOT HAPPY,,
BUT I WOULD FEEL AWFULL IF IT WAS ONE OF MINE.
MOVING SO FAR,TO YOU ITS NOT BUT TO HER THE END OF THE WORLD

DO YOU REMEMBER HOW YOU FELT WHEN YOUR BROTHER SAID HE WAS MOVING,

I HOPE THIS DOSNT ANNOY YOU BUT I BEN THINKING A LOT HOW TO SAY IT,,AN STILL GET IT WRONG,,

DONT WAIT TILL SUNDAY,,PLEASE TALK TO HER ,PLEASE.

LOVE FROM GWEN ,,,WHO HOPES SHES STILL YOUR FRIEND XXX

qwen thats nice xxxx

Hi Gwen

Sorry I have not been able to get online today.

Firstly - I do understand what you are saying.

Yes when my bro said he wanted to move to France I felt a bit sad that he will not be close by - but I soon got over it - I did not go into a strop and think he was abandoning me nor did I refuse to talk to him about it.

And now - I can fully understand his decision now that I have seen for myself what opportunities there are out there.

See that's the trouble of living in a 'cordone' for 21 years - you don't see the wider picture of what the world has to offer.

Added to the fact that my bro and I are middle aged now - so if we don't try for a better life now, it will be too late.

You asked in your PM that I explain a comment last week that said 'it was predicted'

Well it meant exactly that - 12 months ago when I saw a psychic - the first thing she said to me was......

'they are showing me your front door - you will be moving away from there' (please note at that time i had NO intention of every moving)

'I see you living very close to the sea'



And I'm sorry to say, but I have spent my whole adult life worrying about decisions I make having to be justified to my parents or having to explain myself ............... and you know what?? the past few days of non-contact and not having to answer to someone else all the time, have been quite refreshing.

I'm sorry that you feel I am making the wrong decision - and yes I am still your friend - but I'll not answer to anyone else and I'll not change my decisions to suit others - sorry xxx

A few years ago my daughter moved to Lanzarote taking my 2 grandchildren with her.I did not want her to go and she wanted me to go with her.I would not go as i had other children here.Although i did not want her to go i did not try and stop her as she could have been making a better life.Although she is back in this country now after 5 years away,i saw more of her then than what idid before or now.She only lives 3 miles down the road but very tied up with family and work.When she was abroad she use to come back every 6 weeks and i use to go over there.We used to then have the time for each other for a whole week.Good Luck Anita. annie

SORRY ANITA

MY THOUGHTS AS A MUM

No need to apologise Gwen

I said I understand

but i have lived the past 21 years pleasing her - it's time I pleased myself xxx

Anita

thought you were older than 21 - you always come across as a mature (not old) person.

TOR - 21 is not my age hun - i wish it was lol

21 yrs is how long since my parents uprooted me from London to Kent ...........

I'll be 45 this year *eek*

Mcanne you have alife to live and enjoy, if things dont work out you can always return, but if you dont go you will always regret it for not trying, parents can be selfish only thinking of themselves on times, .with modern travel you are not far away so i would like to wish you luck for the future and mum will come round xxHowie

Thank you Annie and Howie for your good wishes :O)

Anne

Your in the prime of your life and need to do your own thing now.
And if that means moving to Ireland go for it girl.

Don't let anyone(don't matter who it is)try the emotional blackmail of trying to get you to stay in Kent.

I will tell you my Mum years ago stopped(emotional blackmail) me ,Hubby and 2 children from emigrating to Australia.
Well I certainly regret taking notice of her now.

Hugs
Sue

mcann in kent- you go for it!! go with you feelings if its what you want do it, your mum should be happy your happy, lifes to short to live it how others want you to

lifes to short for regrets and theres so much world to see dont let any one keep you back good luck mcann

and im not aggreeing with your mum, i thought qwen put it nice lol,
you have to be physic to be my freeind lol. to see what i mean xx

McAnne -

Although I am having a break from GR at the mo, I still look in occasionally and felt I had to come on to say 'go for it girl', and wish you every success and happiness in your move.

In my view (I'm not a parent so don't shoot me!) a parent's job is to raise a child who is able and willing to find their own way in the world - not to foist guilt and resentment on the child and make him/her feel obliged to stay close. I know my Mum would like myself and siblings to live a bit closer to her, but she has NEVER stopped us or made us feel guilty about our choices, and I love her for that. When I visit her, it is because I want to, not because I feel obliged.

I'm sure your Mum loves you and always will, just because someone is a distance away, they are not lost forever!

Sheila x

Sheila - thank you - you are spot on with your comments ......... xx

Ive reared 4 children and have backed them in everything that they have wanted to do,which has included moving to other parts of the country.I have made my decisions and so I think they should be allowed to make theirs,after all you only go this way once.


Maddyxx

What a difficult decision to make, at 45 you are not being a wild child and just disappearing, I guess you must have told your mum what you were doing. It will have been hard for her to accept, I would hate it if my lads were moving a long way from me but I would respect their wishes and make the best of it. A brave decision for you, I wish you much happiness
Janet

HI

We are a very close family all live within a few miles of each other and see each other often, we even go on holiday together, I love it like that my mum is best friend.

Quite a few years ago my nan and grandad moved about 200 miles away, my mum was devastated and wouldnt visit my nan before she left, not because she was angry but she was so upset.

They soon made up and we spent quite a few holidays with them they loved where they had moved to and stayed there for quite a few years.

Enjoy your move but i hope you sort things out with your mum before you go.

Anita,

Well done lass. You do what you feel is right before it is too late.

You are just at the right age to up sticks and live as you want....old enough to know a dream when you see and feel it and young enough to follow it.

Believe me your Mum will come round when she knows you are not going to change your mind because she has thrown a hissy fit.

Life is for living.

Go girl go.

Jean x.