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Difficult - as one does not want to be in the middle and the bearer of bad news but ....to hell with the backlash they need to know.

Will move it on a bit. Speaking to mates wife tonight. Watch this space.

Please dont let this thread die because of my circumstances.... its a good thread....

No hun have no problem with it,,,,,

Twiglet.
Would you like me to remove this thread as it is sensitive to you at the moment? i know how much this can hurt & dont want to make you feel worse than you probably do right now.

So sorry to hear that Twiglet, its not nice i know. Cost me my marriage, money & liberty

Could just tell them im a Southampton supporter & neither will talk to me again. That way i dont need to let on.

I would say tell your friend what you know..... as one that is currently going thru this I would rather hear it from a friend than find out from other means....

well you could be damned if you do and damned if ya dont
xx

I know thats whats gonna happen here. Just dont wanna be involved but dragged into it.

Hi Whirls,
Back Then? Thought the up rising smell from the ruby wellies had got the better of you.
I want to say something but also dont wanna be involved.

I would do what Kitty has suggested, give them the opportunity to confess, if they don't then tell your friend.

I could not sit back and watch my friend be cheated on....

Hi Maggie.. all,

Ive been cheated on myself so i know the hurt it can cause. Ended in divorce.Decided im gonna tell her i know whats going on (politely of course) & hopefully she will do the right thing. I cant risk my friendship with my best mate as you only have a few true friends that you can turn too & hes one of mine. Thanks all

When my ex was cheating on me, I had an inkling as did our friends and the hubby (bless him) kept trying to persuade my ex to 'come to his senses'.
They never told me, and when I found out they told me they thought it was going on, It was very awkward as my ex was seeing a mutual friend of all of us, and I understood how they felt.
However, once it came out, I found out that half the village knew before I did - but everyone was on my side :o)) Ex and 'the floosy' had to move away - he was even'strongly advised' to leave his job (her husband worked at the same place!!)

maggie

HI, UTG! Very difficult! Could you speak to "the other person"? Let them know you know?

Lindy xxx

Hi Lindy,

I have known the pair of them since school, treat them like brother & sister, puts me in a very awkward position.

I dont think either know i know so maybe just keep quiet & hope it fizzles out.

UTG - This is a very difficult one! I think you have to decide which person is your best friend. Then warn your best friend! Not easy! You will lose the friendship of the other. But your conscience will be clear.

Lindy xxx

Well I would definately tell my friend...and if he was a friend of mine also I would feel like he'd cheated on my friendship too.
My friend would more than likely be annoyed at me telling her, but in the long run..........
I couldn't forgive a friend if I ever found out they knew something was going on behind my back and hadn't told me.
Very difficult situation, but you have to judge how important is your friendship with her?

been there done it and got the t shirt..............xx

Hiya love,


Yes I would, cheating, if someone is suffering is wrong,


If both are at it it isnt so bad,


Good luck!!


Caz xxx