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If you found out his/her partner was cheating & you are mates with the pair of them?

I would give them, say, a day to tell their partner or I would......................I couldn't sit back and say nothing.

xx

Hi Kitty,

Tricky one this, dont want to interfere but dont want to lose a friendship either??????????

Tell your mate & end his marriage or keep quiet, or best mate finds out you knew, then hates you?

.

It's a difficult one and likely to cause pain whatever happens.
Personally........I think I would have to say something.
Kittys got the right idea I believe.
Amanda

A no-win situation unfortunately. I've been in the same position and lost a good friend because I didn't tell her but I know if I'd told her she would have hated me too. You could let their partner know what you know.
S

i had this problem

but everytime i went to tell her

i backed out

i used to say wendy sit down

i have something to tell you

then i would bottle it

how could i break her heart

somebody else told her in the end

and she said it was my fault

for not telling her how could i

my niece going thro this now she works with the three people

and she said makes her sick seeing the lass being so nice n goign out drinkin with her friend when she is sleepign with her boyfriend

everyone has told her she should tell her but i said no they always shoot the messanger

i said maybe an annonamous phone call of sumone but not my neice should tip her off

A proper no win situation. No one knows i know so just keep quiet i think.

a tip for you

when she finds out

LOOKED SHOCKED

dont ever let on you know

how about you tell the one who is cheating that you know and that you are going to tell. tell him he has to tell his OH or you will.

Ann
Glos

Hiya love,


Yes I would, cheating, if someone is suffering is wrong,


If both are at it it isnt so bad,


Good luck!!


Caz xxx

been there done it and got the t shirt..............xx

Well I would definately tell my friend...and if he was a friend of mine also I would feel like he'd cheated on my friendship too.
My friend would more than likely be annoyed at me telling her, but in the long run..........
I couldn't forgive a friend if I ever found out they knew something was going on behind my back and hadn't told me.
Very difficult situation, but you have to judge how important is your friendship with her?

UTG - This is a very difficult one! I think you have to decide which person is your best friend. Then warn your best friend! Not easy! You will lose the friendship of the other. But your conscience will be clear.

Lindy xxx

Hi Lindy,

I have known the pair of them since school, treat them like brother & sister, puts me in a very awkward position.

I dont think either know i know so maybe just keep quiet & hope it fizzles out.

HI, UTG! Very difficult! Could you speak to "the other person"? Let them know you know?

Lindy xxx

When my ex was cheating on me, I had an inkling as did our friends and the hubby (bless him) kept trying to persuade my ex to 'come to his senses'.
They never told me, and when I found out they told me they thought it was going on, It was very awkward as my ex was seeing a mutual friend of all of us, and I understood how they felt.
However, once it came out, I found out that half the village knew before I did - but everyone was on my side :o)) Ex and 'the floosy' had to move away - he was even'strongly advised' to leave his job (her husband worked at the same place!!)

maggie

Hi Maggie.. all,

Ive been cheated on myself so i know the hurt it can cause. Ended in divorce.Decided im gonna tell her i know whats going on (politely of course) & hopefully she will do the right thing. I cant risk my friendship with my best mate as you only have a few true friends that you can turn too & hes one of mine. Thanks all