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As everyone has said Malc, this is absolutely normal..I would walk in the room for years and still expect to see her sat in her armchair...or think 'oh must go and tell mum that' over something i had just seen or heard...it will pass...and then there will be another stage of grieving....

be kind to yourself....

Rose x

its like every one is saying malc its normal i belive our loved ones never leave us we cant hold them but our hearts remember them at the begining of our loss the memories are painful but as time pass malc you can think of your loveones and you will smile at the gift of memory of the precious times you had loving thoughts sent to you lilymoon

Malc you are so grieving,
Mate it will take time,
To get over your precious Mum,
You think of all the time,
It will get much better,
Think of all the good things,
Mum wouldnt want you to be so sad,
She is resting peacefully now,
And soon you will not be sad.

Davex
God bless you Malc and your Mum she must have been proud to have a fine son like you.

Malc, my lovely mate,

I have yet to go through what you are right now but i dread it utterly.

I agree with everyone that what you are feeling is perfectly normal,

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Caz xxxxxxxxxxxx

aw malc just wanted to give u n jackie a big (((((((hug))))))


time is a great healer hun

luv
stray
xxx

so sorry you've lost your mum,malc, with both my parents, i found it got easier after the first year, but of course the memories are always there..iris

Dear Malc

Memories are precious and you are just going through the natural grieving process.

Love and hugs

Linda x

I would imagine mum coming round the corner & walking down the street, lifting up her chin when her headscarf rode up. (I still have that scarf)

This went on for years, sometimes I would deliberatly put that memory there to bring back that "Normal" feeling of things being alright.

Your grieving is normal Malc, so is being able to talk about it which will help with the healing process.

E x.

Everyone has said it - you are normal just grieving. (((((HUGS))))
Love Mary xx

Memories are such lovely things
They come back day day by day
They cant get lost,
They dont wear out
They never fade away,

Sometimes memories are all we have so we can
say Thanks for the memories

There is healing in your grieving Malc

love and prayers Jean x

Malc,

Sorry love....you are a little in limbo at the moment because your mind does not really want to come to terms with losing your mom, sad but true.
If it is any consolation I talk to my daughter daily, I chat to her about seeing her grandchildren and how lovely they are, which of course she already knows .
Sue passed on 3 years ago...

I have found a little consolation by having Sue's photo sitting on my unit in the lounge..she is a focal point, especially when it comes to having friends, family and even strangers in my home. Her name and circumstances are brought up quite openly, she is still one of us!

Time is a great healer, as it talking openly about your feelings which is what you are doing right now.

We are all here for you, we understand how you are feeling because most of us have been there and we will listen....

Just remember you do not stand alone xxxxxxxx


JoycePxx

Thinking of you Malc, it is early days yet, your Mum has just moved house a bit further away, that's all. I still think I should call my Mum and tell her I saw so and so in the street, or I read this or that, and she has been gone since 1995. She probably knows the same time as me now when I see something that would interest her lol
Be gentle with yourself, have a read of the verse I sent you.
Lizxx

Malc .....I can't count how many times I've thought
"wait till Nan hears about this"............

The pain eventualy goes, but the memories last forever.

Bless you,
Deb

Went through exactly the same thing with both dad and mum. I asked the doctor about it and she explained that it was all part of the grieving process. Along with guilt and anger ...

I love it when I dream about mum - even though I wake up in tears - reassures me that she's still around.

Don't worry Malc - you're not going mad.

Jill

Malc do belive me losing the last parent is a whole lot harder than the 1st ,,,its your last link , I often used to just go along with the thinking that my Mam was still just up the road in her bungalow, its now 11 yrs and still hurts but I now feel I am ready to go visit friends who got her bungalow, who have been there 3 yrs and I told them I couldnt go to see them ;;
Lost unc only 4 months ago who lived with us and I still go to shout upstairs when his favorite programs come on telly;;
Big (((hugs))) to you dear , give yourself time to grieve properly honest you cannot rush it ;;;

Babs

I was ok with dad I watched him die and even tried to keep him alive as I helped the doctor with the cpr but this is worse

Yes its normal Malc
sosorry its so very hard
emx

Absolutely normal Malc, as everyone says.

I've still got my Mum and Dad's telephone number in my mobile and they've been gone 5 years. Just can't make myself delete it

(((Hugs)))

Linda x

It is completely normal...well I hope so...because somedays I feel just the same...Mum died last April. In some odd way I have come to like those days...cos I do not miss her so much.

Take care (((Hug)))

Malc nothing wrong with you at all there is no magic pill to zap it away. 14 years on I still occasionally got to ring a loved one with news ....

The pain gets easier but there will always be a time when you forget they are gone. I think its quite normal and shows your love.

It also makes me laugh cos I think the person I miss has watched me going to call and is thinking daft bat! In a nice way - eventually the memories wont hurt so much but will make you smile and feel closer to them.