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I think mums alive and sitting in her bungalow.....

Which I emptied with my sister a month ago

its called memories, Malc. precious memories.

nothing is the matter with you - its just your mind sending out memories of good times

It's normal Malc..............I used to think that every car that pulled in front of my house was my Mum.........I even convinced myself I saw her once - your normal to think like this

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Malc, you sound absolutely normal to me. I guess it's all part of the grieving process. After all, your Mum WAS sitting in her bungalow a little while ago, now she's passed on. It's such a strange situation isn't it. I'm dreading losing my lovely parents.
(((HUG)))

I lost my dad last may malc but when I visit mum I still expect to see him sitting in his chair...bless him xx

nothing wrong with you malc,
grief and just the mind,
helping you to heal

i had night mare other night i was arguing with mam
i was crying,
shed thrown photos of me in the bin
i dragged um out

god woke up feeling like wreck
thats 14 years now since mum gone from us

sending you hugs malc

It's normal. It all takes time :))

Marion

Bless you Malc it will take time. Took me months to move my Dads cap left it where he had left it for a long time.
Take Care
Germaine
x

You are grieving Malc, its normal to feel like that,
i used to ring my dad to tell him ther was something good on tv
took me ages to stop
Love Jackie

I lost my dad last jan and my mum 6 mths to the day after him.They didnt live togrther any more so i had two houses to empty....... i still drive past both a couple times each week even though there are now new familys in them .I used to find my self sitting outside mums , it was the house i grew up in and held so many memories.
Time is a great healer and its only been a month.
take care
joy

Hi Malc
It is normal.................you are grieving and this is all part of letting go.
Think about the happy times and all the good memories will come to you and help you
Sue

Malc nothing wrong with you at all there is no magic pill to zap it away. 14 years on I still occasionally got to ring a loved one with news ....

The pain gets easier but there will always be a time when you forget they are gone. I think its quite normal and shows your love.

It also makes me laugh cos I think the person I miss has watched me going to call and is thinking daft bat! In a nice way - eventually the memories wont hurt so much but will make you smile and feel closer to them.

It is completely normal...well I hope so...because somedays I feel just the same...Mum died last April. In some odd way I have come to like those days...cos I do not miss her so much.

Take care (((Hug)))

Absolutely normal Malc, as everyone says.

I've still got my Mum and Dad's telephone number in my mobile and they've been gone 5 years. Just can't make myself delete it

(((Hugs)))

Linda x

Yes its normal Malc
sosorry its so very hard
emx

I was ok with dad I watched him die and even tried to keep him alive as I helped the doctor with the cpr but this is worse

Malc do belive me losing the last parent is a whole lot harder than the 1st ,,,its your last link , I often used to just go along with the thinking that my Mam was still just up the road in her bungalow, its now 11 yrs and still hurts but I now feel I am ready to go visit friends who got her bungalow, who have been there 3 yrs and I told them I couldnt go to see them ;;
Lost unc only 4 months ago who lived with us and I still go to shout upstairs when his favorite programs come on telly;;
Big (((hugs))) to you dear , give yourself time to grieve properly honest you cannot rush it ;;;

Babs

Went through exactly the same thing with both dad and mum. I asked the doctor about it and she explained that it was all part of the grieving process. Along with guilt and anger ...

I love it when I dream about mum - even though I wake up in tears - reassures me that she's still around.

Don't worry Malc - you're not going mad.

Jill

Malc .....I can't count how many times I've thought
"wait till Nan hears about this"............

The pain eventualy goes, but the memories last forever.

Bless you,
Deb

Thinking of you Malc, it is early days yet, your Mum has just moved house a bit further away, that's all. I still think I should call my Mum and tell her I saw so and so in the street, or I read this or that, and she has been gone since 1995. She probably knows the same time as me now when I see something that would interest her lol
Be gentle with yourself, have a read of the verse I sent you.
Lizxx