General Chat

You have obviously done a great job bringing him up the way you have, manners, respect and knowing when to step back and when to react! Good for him, I hope that bully thinks again next time he wants to start something. I bet he won't be so brave another time, maybe this will be the turning point for him and he will realise it isn't cool or clever to bully people.
Hope Tom's knuckles aren't too sore, get some arnica cream on them if there is no broken skin, the bruising will come out and then heal much faster.
Lizx

It,s amazing how being bullied at school still hurts people later in life .... I,m only just getting to understand it , as Toms messages from kids at school have said tonight ,sometimes they feel helpless, stupid even cowardly because they are between a rock and a hard place, they think the cool kids will laugh at them ... message.... most of the cool kids are cool cos they don,t bully others , they are confident enough not to have to prove themselves and if you feel bullied they will stand up for you big time .just ask
The bullies at school are not cool kids ( cool kids are the ones who have loads of friends who are all different and they do not judge them in any way ) , bullies stick to their own kind , they avoid the cool kids cos they know they can,t intimmedate them an if they do , they get whats coming ! Ask our Tom ...LOL
(((HUGS))) xxxx

Hi
This brought back memories, i was bullied from the age of 5 by a certain girl right through till i was 15, one day she would be nice and talk to me the next her and her friends would go out of there way to barge me in the school hall.
But one day she came towards me in the corridor so i moved over, so did she so when she got close to me i some how found my self on top of her hitting her head on the floor ( doesnt sound good i know --but made me feel soooo much better) She actully ended up down the hospital with concussion.
I know i shouldnt be proud of it but i am, 10 yrs of anger and hurt and she never even looked at me again even now 22 yrs later i see her and she looks away.
So give your son a pat on the back bullys need to be shown thay cant do this. Ive always said to mykids that all bullys will pick on the wrong person one day,there is always someone bigger and better out there and this time it was your son.
Good on him

omg kim
i just caught up witht his thread,
this is why i said
be careful tom,
theres people out there only too stupid to take it that bit further,
who dont deal with things the old fashioned way,
i know what tom will say, my son says the same

'its ok, i know what they are like, i ll be ok'

but please becareful tom, stay with mates, dont hang round on your own, always go in groups,
safety in numbers babe
stay safe your mam needs you round always

To all those kids who have to deal with the bullys every day at school .. one day they pick on someone they underestimated ,that may be you or someone else . When that day comes ..and someone stands up to them , see how popular they are then and how quickly their mates disappear ? and see how popular the person who stood up to them is ? ....Bullies are cowards ! (((HUGS))))
xxx Kim xxxx

Good on your son Kim, these bullies need to be pulled into line. My son was always the smallest in his class and therefore a target for bullies. Little did the bullies know that he had been studying Tai Kwan Do for three years, so he put up with it for a while and then one day he had had enough so he unceremoniously decked the bully. No more bullying! 'Onya Tom!!!

I know Kim and believe me, I understand only too well.
x

Glenys , the thing is , its happening everywhere . Kids 12 and younger .. they do not understand , they may look "hard " being tooled up but it only takes one stupid fight to end someones life and ruin anothers .The stuff they see on the TV and on games doesn,t show the real life consiquences of one stupid action .. Sorry , I,m a Mum, didn,t want to depress people on here ...
:))) Kim xxx

Wow Kim, good for Tom! That was my immediate reaction - still is.
Then I read your latest posting, about the knife. Good God, it doesn't bear thinking about, does it.
x

OK now Toms has just told me , earlier in the day a kid brought a knife into school intending to use it . The police where called before anything happened , Sorry but I,m now imagining if this other kid had a knife , I would not be here saying well done to my son ... This has got to stop in our schools ! We are in a rural area if its happening here , god knows what it,s like else where . We send our kids to school for an education not this ...
XXX Kim xx

It looks like your son's school backs him, and about time too......unfortunately sometimes this is the only way to tackle a bully......they are all cowards at heart......good on your son.......x

nope im like you kim
well not the bra bit cos i was born in 60s,

you know tho what i mean
i taught ours respect for themselves and others
especially elders,
and to be a gentleman,
and polite
sometimes they forget a bit but hey tehy growin up and if you treat um politely they repay it i think

sons mates have all been great with me ,
i know they have a lark about but nothing major, nothing bad

Some people may not agree with me on this but thanks to my Dad I think Boys have to be able to take care of themselves , one day they have no choice but to become men.
We have had 2 world wars where "boys" had no choice but to grow up fast or die . I have tried to teach them self respect , consideration for others but mostly , sounds crass I know , to be men , the sort who open doors for women , respect women , walk on the outside nearest the road ... if this offends any womens libbers .. fine , I burnt my bra in the 60,s (it was very small!) but I make no appologies .
xxxx Kim

im still with him on this one, thank god hes ok, tom you did well darlin

it only takes one kim ot push them ,
he wont get bullied again i bet,
stay safe tom
stress it may be but hes also becoming a man very quickly, they dont realise their own strength,
i bet hes smiling to himself, and so he should

hi kim and tom

i,m glad your son decked the bully
my son was being bullied by a coloured boy at school for weeks . myson told me and his dad nothing till a neighbours child told me to check his body for bruises and what did i find forty seven in all . i went straight down to school and told them the boy admitted bullying my son said he did it for a laugh ...

and what did he get half a day exclusion
wonder what would have happened if it had have been other way round

he got his come upance my daughter decked him... but they excluded her for a few days but it was worth it ,, school didnt do a proper job if you ask me


give your son a big hug from all the kids what get bullied and good on him


regards Donna

Julie Anne , we had a long chat in casuality, Tom said he has never ever lost his temper like that before and I think it,s scared him a bit . He,s 6 foot and wants to be a fireman , so is staying on in 6th form until he,s ols enough .
Jackie , something the bullies need to learn , the quiet ones are the ones who will eventually bite ..lol
Peter I have said to the school , I am more than happy to go along with any punishment they see fit to apply , but they have said ... obviously " Tom is under a lot of stress due to his forthcoming GCSE,s so no further action will be taken " ;))))))
xxxx Thank you , OH is on nights an I,m so glad I,ve got someone to talk to about this !!!!
xxxxxx

i dont think you bad kim

tell your son i send him big hug and kisses,
and no he not too big for it

well done him, glad school handled it so well

i just so impressed

oh oh was his knuckle ok, is he bandaged up,
be proud of yourself young man and remember how good that felt, but also remember now the power you have, use it wisely and in the right situations,
im sure you will

just be careful,
i know a lad who was in simular situation, self defence they call it but the judge didnt see it like that
he just got home before xmas from jail , hes 18 ish,
lovely lad, went to aid of his mate being set upon, but ended up charged

be safe young man, and mwah,xx

Thanks all , I haven,t brought my boys up to start trouble but have always said they must defend themselves if someone else corners them , starts a fight and there is no way out , apparently when he came out of the office to come home , classes where changing and all the kids in the hall clapped and cheered him ! This other kid started the fight , Tom is usually really quiet , walks away from trouble , this lad dived in but ended up on the floor ... I don,t condone violence , but even the teachers ??? Umm best not say anymore ?
xxxx

You are so right Kim,

Well done your lad for standingup to someone who made the lives of others miserable!!!


Caz xxxxx

I bet that bully got a shock he won't forget in a hurry!!
It's sooo satisfying when the worm turns - no I'm not calling your son a worm LOL , But the look on the bully's face must have been a picture when a normally placid lad knocked him for six!

maggie