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Please help me.I found my fathers new family on genes reunited,he has a daughter called xxx xxxxxx-Hutchings who stopped all contact with me when she found out we shared the same father.I am devastated,after 45 years of looking for him i did not expect the rejection,also i am almost sure he has not been told i am asking after him. His name is ANTHONY HUTCHINGS born 1933 in PLYMOUTH,DEVON ,UK but now living in NEW ZEALAND has done since the early 70s. I know he has more children and I would be so grateful if anyone has any information that would help me? I just want to be able to say hello and how are you to my dad. Thank you. Maria . PS I would still like us to talk xxx as I think we have both been kept in the dark , upsetting for us both. PLEASE get back in touch.

THANK YOU so much to you all for all your help. I have ' with all your help ' found my dad and a great family that i never knew i had : ) Happy endings thanks to genes and all of you who make it work. Bless you all.
Maria x

http://yellow.co.nz/whitepages/

Website for phone books, New Zealand. Perhaps you know where in New Zealand he is.

Maria,
Looks like your father was born in 1934 Devonport Plymouth .

I have PM you.

Maria

It obviously came as a shock to the daughter to learn of your existence, or to have you contact her. There is not a lot you can do without upsetting the family, which I'm sure you wouldn't want.

Margaret

I am really not looking to upset anyone,i am his 1st born and he was married to my mother,i am and always will be his daughter,upsetting or not I am here.

Hi Maria
Pam mentioned New Zealand white pages. There are some possibles there, including the initial 'T'. Maybe Tony?? Whilst I realise his other family have been shocked by this, I hope you trace him, it must be really upsetting and frustrating for you and you have every right to try to make contact. Genes Reunited hopefully.
x

Thanks Carrieann. i will try that again and yes, it is really frustrating and upsetting but i am not about to give up. Maria x

Maria

I owe you an apology. I incorrectly assumed your dad didn't know of your existence and it would be distressing for him for you to make contact.

Of course you must look for him, and I wish you well.

Incidentally, I recently discovered the name Hutchings in my own tree, though haven't got round to pursuing it yet.

Best wishes

Margaret

Maria, has your father got a middle name or any other clues you can give us

Wendy

Hi

Will send you some info that may help.

Hi,his middle name is phillip x

Do you know whether he has any children other than the daughter you mention? If one could be located, an approach through them might get a better reception.

nudge

Hello Janey,yes,i am sure he has a daughter in her mid to late 40s born in the UK and i think a younger son born 1991 in N Z.. Maria

Hi Maria
I assume you don't know her first name...do you know what her mother's maiden name is? Maybe PM it if you feel it's 'date' sensitive??
x

Hi Maria - Madmeg and I have compared findings and came up the same, except for info that you had supplied to her that I didn't have. Maybe Madmeg can do the same and send the info to carrieann?

I have a heavy work week on my hands so I can be a sounding board maybe, but I think Madmeg has a good handle on it -- I'd just say that if you do have any other info, be sure to give it to her, and when she recommends buying a particular marriage certificate, she's speaking for me too. ;) (Note - the mother's birth surname, queried by carriann, is precisely the issue there - if she had been married before, that's the name that would show on a birth registration, and the marriage certificate is what will tell that.)

Madmeg -- to see the "-" surname I mentioned, click on the button beside the name in the tree search results!

Good news for Maria.

PM to Maria.