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I,me glad I,m not on my own with this one Jax.
I cant bring myself to go there either! and mines for Mam,Dad and daughter!
Lynn, thats a good idea!
xxxxxx

You know what Jax - it's perfectly normal - I feel much the same about visiting the crematorium and placing a Christmas Wreath - so........what I now do is I still get the wreath, and I hang it either on the fence opposite the kitchen windown (where I am most of the time - lol) or on the gate as you come into the place. It's in memory of absent friends (parents, friends, all of them) and I remember them that way.....you dont need to visit the cemetery to think about your parents - you never forget them, do you? And they are always with you no matter where you are.

Chin up girl - have you got the lilies yet?

Jac

Don't beat yourself up Jax, Colin is right, your parents are there for you.....if you feel bad, get out a photo of them and put some flowers, or a christmas decoration beside it, and talk to them....I do.....I don't care....

At Christmas I gather all the photos of rellies and put them on top of the cabinet with decorations and a candle....the oldest is gt. grandparents born in 1866.....and it includes departed pets.....I call it my rogues gallery......at dinner we all raise our glasses to absent family and friends, and I feel they are included in the family gathering.....makes me feel better about our losses, anyway......x

Yeh im ok Colin just having a weepy moment.

Thankyou xx

Aww Jax i felt exactly the same on thursday, i bought some flowers for dad, and i just couldnt take them

i knew i would blub all over the place

so i put them in his vase, here at home by his picture


dont feel guilty love, sometimes its just too difficult

hugs sweetie
xxLynnxx

Hi Jax :)

Are you ok, you have nothing to feel ashamed about it happens to us all at times. Your parents are with you in spirit and would understand also.

I made up a christmas pot to go on my mum and dads grave with a little tree, ivy, some hyacynth, crocus, primroses in. The time has come to put it down the cemetary and i just cant bring myself to go down this time which is a first for me, and have asked my husband to do it for me. But now i feel ashamed of myself that i didnt visit them myself.

Jax xx